Please help, True Love Maybe

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Right my names James, im 16 (just left school) and live in England.I have a friend called Zenna, from the day we met we sorta had a BOND between each other, at the time she had a boyfriend (hes now a good mate to me) but last week she broke up with him.In the past 3 months we have talked to each other EVERY night on MSN instant messanger, we used to talk from like 8 o clock untill 1 in the morning (5 hours, lol) we used to talk about all sorts untill we started talking about kids and relationships, she told me that she would love to have her kids with me because im a sweet, honest and loving lad, she also told me that im the one she loves and nobody else.Also she comes round to my house everyday for like 4 hours at a time, i make her laugh and she makes me laugh, when i sit down she sits real close up to me and sometimes she kisses me when shes leaving my house and shes told her friend (stacey) that she likes me.Everyone around her street asks her if us to are a couple so people must think that we would be good together.So now you know some background information lets get to the real reson im posting, i really love this girl, i never felt this serious about a girl before, and she seems to like me, i want to ask her out (not like a one off date but as a lond term couple) but ive always been abit shy to go over to a girl and ask her out, i know i would stutter and get imbarresed, so what should i say to her when im asking her out?, how do i start THE conversion off, Also what shall i say to get her on her own just so i can ask her out.Please help me people because im in love with this very special girl and i want to be with her.Thanks for taking the time to read my long post.James.

In reply to: Also she comes round to my house everyday for like 4 hours at a time In reply to:Also what shall i say to get her on her own just so i can ask her out. So does everyone else go to your house for 4 hours? Cause if they do, it wouldn't be so special that she does. Except that you probably take more notice of her of course. But what I'm saying is that if you are ever alone with her at your house, just do it.Next topic, doing it. (Not the dirty thing)From the way you have described everything, it seems obvious that she has feelings for you (it could mean other things too, but for your self confidence, lets not mention them). Since your friends it won't be that strange for you to invite her to see a movie or something, but if she asks who is going or who to invite, suggest that just the two of you go.Also, don't worry about stuttering or anything. If you're good friends she will already know what you're like. No point in putting on the cool guy act, be who you really are. Even if who you really are is a nervous guy.Hope it works out for you.

aw! Thats so damn sweet. Anyway, the best way for you to go is honesty. You know each other well, you like each other, so you can go ahead and tell her how you feel. Dont' worry about being nervous because she will understand. Sit her down and tell her that you've been thinking about this for a very long time and how important she is to you, be urself, be sincere, and be honest. p.s. it's not a great idea to post ur full name and location on the internet...it's asking for trouble.

You've already done the hardest bit, and i agree with fun girl and JenJen. If she says no because you stutter then what kind of person is she?

No its just her who comes round to my house for like 4 hours at a time.Thanks for the advice ive had a think about it and im going to take her to the cinemas and show her a good time, then im going to ask her THE QUESTION (lol) after weve had a good time and that.I think if we have a good time at the weekend when i take her out i will be on a HIGH and wont be nervous at all, so hopully it will go ok.Thanks for the advice people

Good luck, but i doubt you need it. Just enjoy yourself, and tell us how it goes .

yeah cheers, yeah i will tell you how it goes :grin:

Yeah, good luck and keep us updated. And remember, be yourself!

yeah i will keep you posted, but i have one last thing to ask:Im going to take her to the cinemas on saturday, you know show her a good time, but aswel im going to buy her a watch that she really really wants, i can afford it easily as i have a good job etc etc, also if i bought the watch she wants it will show how much i care and that i take note of what she likes etc etc, i came up with the idea of this:This isnt a cowards was out, i thought of it in a romantic way, i was going to buy the watch before hand, say friday, i would take it with me when we goto the cinemas, i was then going to give her the watch just as the film is ending, but i would put a card inside the watch box/case that said this: _____________________________ I love you zenna Will you go out with me Your the one for me! _____________________________obviousely it would be neater with hearts in the corner etc etc.then when she has seen the watch and the little card i would say, zenna i really love you.what do you think to my little romantic plan, lol

I think it would scare the bejeezus out of me if I were to get that!
Talk about coming on strong!
Ever heard the phrase "You can't buy love"? It's true! The only thing you will find is that she will think you'll buy her all kinds of crap with YOUR money. This is how being used starts.

Also telling her you love her is like "whoa!". It's just too full-on. I say ask her out first and then see what happens.

(but if you don't listen to my advice, it would be "you're the one for me" not "your...")

hmm maybe your right, but not about the love thing, shes already told me she loves me many times, see my FIRST post.

Well in that case my question is this:if she loves you and she's the one for you and always has been blah blah etc etc, then why on Io aren't you going out yet? Why did she even stay with her ex so long if she thinks you're so awesome?!Think about it in this way:If you go in guns blazing and tell her you love her and all that, you may scare her away.If you simply ask her out, and all goes well, then it gives you time to assess the situation and tell her you love her when you're sure it wont freak her out.If you ask her out, and she says no, you have then saved yourself from looking like a fool! (not to mention buying her a watch which in this case would become absolutely useless - and I've seen it happen so many times, even to myself, that I buy a gift and I force the girl to take it, hoping in some way that it'll make her change her mind. In actual fact it makes much more sense to just take it back!)Do you see where I'm coming from here? Do it one step at a time, rather than all in one big hit. It will be less daunting for both of you that way!

Right this is what im going to do, and im sticking to it.Im going to take her out at the weekend to the cinemas, you know show her a good time, then just before the film is going to end i will say, zenna, i really like you and have done for a while now, will you go out with me?nice and simple, it wont scare her away, its just casual, lol

Much better This way allows for a more natural flow, and who knows, maybe she'll say yes and be really happy!Best of luck guy!

cheers mate

before you ask the question!!!!You gotta make sure she isn't loving you like a brother.. You need to ask her if she loves you like a brother or like a boyfriend. BEcause if she loves you like a brother and you ask the question.. you've ruined a beautiful relationship. You ruin the relationship completely.. You'll regret it really bad.

Yeah - this is sorta what i was getting at although i realise that I didn't put it across very well. Plenty of girls say they "love" me, but only in a 'you're great at giving advice and hugs, but no way every would i like you romatically" kinda way.As I say, by diving in at the deep end, you risk a LOT...