im 16 and i spend about 80% of my free time at home because i have nothing to do after school. I have quiet alot of friends, but these friends and friends from school and school only. I only have about 10 outside of school friends and im not going to ask them to go out or something because they got lots of other things to do. im just sooooo sick and tired of staying home all the time. I wanna go out to parties and have fun. I really really wanna go to parties and get invited, it looks so much fun. I find that the only way to make friends is to have sumthing in common with them, but i don't really have any special talent or anything lol. all i have is online gaming(if thats even something) Even my parents tell me to go out becasue all i do is stay home and they think i have no friends :angry:. What can i do!! how do i get invited to parties and how do i make new friends by introducing yourself even tho u don't know the person WITHOUT looking like a jackass. I seriously need a confidence boost. if your going to talk shit or something thats not helpful then gtfo please. I don't need you here.
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Gimme advice! Please People!!
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ummmm ok. im asian, im kinda short, skinny, no acne. Just normal except im little short and skinny. Dont have problems with ppl telling me i don't wanna be ur friend im just low confience.
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in a way i am kind of in the same boat as you i have alot of friends but most of them are just in school friends. then last year i started to get into activites at school like going to football games and i play baseball for the school. is there any sort of after school activites that you might be interested in? also when i was younger and to a certain extent scared to initiate a conversation with people. the thing i use to always do is listen the people around you and when they start talking about something you are interested in try to very nicely and not in a way that the person will be like was i talking to you? try to join into the conversation by expressing your feelings about the interest as well. with the people that are your friends don't be afraid to ask them if they want to do something over the weekend or after school. you will probably be surprised how many will say sure sounds like fun or no not today but i can probably do it on such and such a day
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In reply to:im not going to ask them to go out or something because they got lots of other things to do.That's where the lack of self-confidence is killing you. why shouldn't going on fun things with you be a good thing to do, as good as any other? - Or, you can find out what they are doing and come along. Only the more formal parties have formal invitations: many are open to friends of invitees.You make new friends by talking to them. You don't need to be formally introduced - you can introduce yourself.
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the majority of the parties ive been to this year is cause i know a mate of the host/ess, if their your friends then im sure they will like doin things out of school with you, o lol and what online games u play?
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yea ask your friends like "what are you doing this weekend?" and if they are doing something that sounds cool then ask them if its alright that you come along
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ughh i think parties are overrated and you teens are making too big of a deal out of it. Dont worry about the parties and friends. Once you get into a good college make sure you dorm! dorm the first year or 2, i guarantee you, you'll get invited to every party until you're sick of them. Heck i didnt even goto college yet i partied for 2 years straight right after high school. if you really really need to goto some party just ask people.
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Personally, I could care less about parties. Parties are for wannabes who like to drink too much alcohol/smoke or whatever. It's a waste of time, in my opinion (unless I have/go to a party with a couple of close friends). But, to introduce yourself, usually I just go up to them and say what's up. The best time to do this is when you both are stuck in detention, or you both are near each other's locker, or maybe when you are talking to a friend who has them along. Just go up to them and say, what's up.
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Hey you go to High School, just start an online gaming club and people will join! And as a Fellow online gamer you always have something in common with those people and will feel right at home with them. -
i am interested in joining a club at school and i wanna do it now becasue im in gr 11 and im friends with only the same ppl in my grade. So i wanan be friends with ppl in gr 12 before they leave and im gr 12, but i wanna do it with a friend from school, but nobody is interested. and i am kinda scared in starting or joining a conversation, if i see one of my friends at school down a street i jsut try to avoid them because of silence . I just find it to be the strangest thing ever to be not talking... I got nothing to say. do u feel the same way ?
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right now im just trying to join a local team for counter strike the online game so i can go out to cybercafes and hang out with them. but its a pain in the ass because i stopped playing counter strike and local teams are looking for someone alot better :/. counter strike is basically the only game where they come as a team and meet up... so ya. Please feel free to post more advice or anything helpful or encouraging. I will greatly appricatiate it.
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I first joined track because my friends convinced me to. They never trained much, and didn't even go to the divisionals meet at the end of the year. On the other, for me, it was a massive turning point. I found a love for running, and other sports soon after. After quitting hockey in junior high, I joined fencing, and that was all I was doing when I started track. I began to run more and more, and doing some weight training. Eventually, I got into a wide variety of things, and I'm now running, swimming, biking, weightlifting, or whatever else I feel like doing.None of those teams (swimming, cross country) after the first year of track had any close friends that I knew ahead of time in them, but I eventually built up my confidence and have made many friends through them. I admit, it's always easier when a friend joins with you, but if you can't get any of your friends to join then join on your own. You just need to meet people, and get involved with whatever you're doing.