Hi,I've recently just started seeing my g/f and I've got very limited sexual experience. In fact, I had none before I was with her, lol.I'd assumed that the first time she gave me a hand job, I'd cum really quickly, but I didnt, I lasted a lot longer than I could have imagined.The other night she gave me a blow job, but again I took a long time to cum, and then in the morning I was given another hand job.All three times I've intervened in some way or another to make myself climax. I don't quite understand it but I can't seem to get off if she's doing it. I've noticed that my mind wanders and I'm not all that aroused when its happening.Whats that all about? lol
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Taking My Time....
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Sounds like you have the same issue as me.. I think too much about it when it's happening. Best thing I can tell you is to relax and enjoy the pleasure you are getting. I know easier said than done hehe.. but that's best advice I can give you.
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I agree with Ntro, you sound like you are thinking too much, you obviously think you will cum soon, and when that doesn't happen, cos you're thinking about it, you don't cum - its a viscious circle, lay back and enjoy.........who says how long it has to take?
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Or maybe you're so used to masturbating yourself in a distinct way that anything else feels good but isn't enough. Yesterday I actually stopped to think about how I almost always stimulate myself in the same manner, and when I tried to do it more loosely I just couldn't bring myself to an orgasm, something unprecedented to me!So maybe it's just that your girl isn't doing the way you need it. Communication being the key to any succesful relationship, I suggest maybe guiding her in stimulating you in the way that feels best, and there's nothing to be ashamed of on her part, because she might be tempted to think she's at fault for not being good enough. Because, heck, I don't even want to think what my first night of sex with a women will be, because I'll have no practical idea on what to do and how (okay, I have more than a general idea, but actual practice on a girl is quite different to reading text on the net or, much worse, watching porn).
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Yup! I made a post about that same exact thing Here I'm hoping it helps my situation. fingers crossed
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The thing thats really bad is I start losing my erection while she's doing it, and I am thinking about cumming while she's doing it. I tried lying back and just clearing my mind but that didn't really help.I don't want her to end up thinking I don't like her all that much, I think she's great, but how am I meant to talk to her about this?
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That happens from time to time to me. If I'm over thinking about cumming I sometimes start to go soft. Trust me I know how you feel, it's frustrating. You just gotta find what works for you.