That is the reason why my self-confidence goes down the drain. I can't just walk up to someone, especially a girl I think is gorgeous, and just talk. Even if I 'research' different things to talk about, I just can't. I don't know, I'm sort of depressed when it comes to that, but I just want to fucking be a social machine. This sucks.
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Why is it that I have horrible conversation skills
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im the same dude. im try to get better. practice doesnt hurt.
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That is the reason why my self-confidence goes down the drain.I think you have it backwards; your conversation skills suffer because of a lack of self-confidence. Do you have an easier time conversing with people you know?
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Yes, I can talk freely with people I know, and I've tried dozens of things to help me, from self-hypnosis to actually just randomly 'practicing'. It doesn't work like that. I've put more effort into trying to have some self-esteem than I do my own schoolwork, and that's saying a lot.
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As a matter of fact, you're right, my self-confidence is little to none. I've never had any really, even though the only thing I can pride myself on is the fact that I am sort of intelligent. If I had to rate my self-confidence on a scale of 1 to 10, it would be 2.
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I can actually relate to how you feel. I also have big problems with talking to people, but the only way you can get over it is to force yourself to speak to people. I do it all the time... when I see a good looking guy, my IQ drops about 100 pts and all I seem capable of saying is "Duh." But do you know what I do, I just suck it up and start chatting with them, I pretend they're someone I know but I haven't seen them in a while so it makes it a little easier to talk to them. Call it a false sense of security or what ever, but it seems to work for me.
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That's cool to hear that you've "adapted" for those types of situations, but I can't garner enough courage to even force myself into talking to people.
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A great thing to boot self confidence is the internet talk to people on there that way you dont have to see them and you can think about what youre going to say. Also when you talk to new people take a friend with you, its easier when someone you knows next to you. Then after a while you wont even need a friend there. When you talk to a girl make eye contact smile and ask her about herself. When you feel shy just tell your shyness to fuck off and you just keep talking and say what you want to say. No ones gunna laugh at you for talking, if you say somthing stupid play into it and make it into a joke or somthing. try www.myspace.com make an account and talk to some random people you know in your area. its a good way to meet new people and you can practice talking to them on there before you meet them so it wont be as tough for you.