Alright, I love my girlfriend so much, I couldn't describe it in words. And it hurts so much right now because I feel like I can't give her the love she deserves, I write so much about her, poems, songs, I do simple little things that I know will make her smile, even if it's just buying her a coffee in the morning to take to her at school, or just making her breakfast... I know this problem has come up a lot probably, and I bet a lot others go through it, but I just want to know if there are any suggestions to help it. I've been dating her for 8 months, we've had sex for a little over 2, and i've been feeling like this for awhile... I honestly feel like i'm screwing her life up, and not being man enough for her. And please don't anyone say "maybe she's just not the right one for you" because I won't believe that, it's came to mind, and was abolished it the second I did... I love her so much and she is so great to me, but i'm getting really depressed at times because I don't feel like I give her enough, no matter what I try... We both have many family problems, so there is stress everywhere... I'm just curious if anyone has any ideas, or just knows how to help by talking to me... And if that's the case I have AIM Shadowbeforelife no spaces... I just really want to be her all, and I know I am, I just don't feel like I am giving her enough, when she says I give her more than she could ever imagine.
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Depression
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It sounds like you don't have much self-esteem. You're doing a great deal more for her than most guys do for their girlfriends. Why do you think you're screwing her life up?
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Yes, I know I do a lot more for her than I do most guys, but that's mainly because i've lived a really rough life the life where i've seen people die the second after you say goodbye, and realize I could be next, so I want to make her as happy as I can just in case anything like that ever does happen.And no I don't have much self-esteem, don't get me wrong, it does help a lot knowing that my girlfriend does love everything about me when a lot of people say the phrase "hows the ugly guy always get the hot girl?" well that comes to mind a lot knowing that people say it. No it doesn't bother me that they say it, it bothers me because I feel like i'm not the guy that she does deserve. I don't feel like I can please her the way she deserves to be, no matter what I do... And sometimes I miss her a lot, just out of no where, heh, makes me sound like a stalker, probably not to others but it does me... I've just always had a life where my longest relationship before her was 1 1/2 week, and i've been with her for 8 months... So I know that doesn't help, and yes she does know I do get depressed over stuff like this, so no telling her didn't help, it did a little, but not completely.
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Oh, and the whole screwing her life up thing, it's more of me being stupid and believing something her mother said about me, which probably isn't true.. But ya'know.
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what did her mother say?
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Her mother has said I am screwing up her life. Also her mother has threatened her that if she moves out with me she will not pay for her college(freaken rich family) well not filthy, but yeah. That part has come to the point where though if her mother is willing to do that and if my girl is willing to, I will take a job that i'd be working 60+ hours a week, $25 and hour and VERY hard labor, but would pay for a LOT of her college, love the girl to death, and would be willing to do that. That she dispises me, and that she thought since I was 18 and her daughter is 16 it would be considered statutory rape to have sexual intercourse with her, and was constantly talking about doing it as soon as I turned 18, which was like a month ago. Keep in mind, nothing she has said has bothered me personally, i've been with a "few" girls and i've never had a parent approve of me. It just pains me to see my girlfriend so hurt because of the way her parents treat me.
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Oh, and she had just THOUGHT the whole statutory rape thing was in place, but it's 21 around these parts to have sex with a 17 year old girl. She was sadly shut down.