As im sure a good deal of you have read in my posts, Im jewish and i come from a very jewish family but i still also have this daunting suspision that religion is a bunch of crap, and that science is right. These thoughts have been growing much stonger lately as I have been thinking about it more, and im worried if i ever tell anyone my family with completely disown me. How do i deal with this and find out where my head is going?
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Questioning...
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Well I'd say your on the right track about the religion thing, but that's just me.
If they would completely disown you then that's just what's gotta happen... it will happen sooner or later (they'd find out sometime that you think religion is a bunch of shit) so why waste your time ...
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i love my family (as much as i complain and say they're in the dark ages) Im just worried that avoice my premature opinion might be dumb, or try to wait it out (essentially lie i guess) and believe me, im a horrible liar. i pause, dont blink and then have a nervous laugh when i lie.
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Well if they're going to hate you because you have different views on something like religion, then you have a sucky family
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i dont think my mom would hate me or anything, but be very dissapointed. My family was in polland during ww2 and my grandparents are in israel now and pretty much will only associate with other jews. My father didnt talk to me for almost a month the first time a dated a non-jew and about i dunno 6 months ago i had interest and went on one or two dates with a black guy and my dad still hasnt gotten over the shock of that. They arent prejudice, dont let me give that impression just very...into their culture. I was raised very lovingly and was given everything i need, im just afraid to dissapoint them like this. If my father wont talk to me for dating a non jew i wonder what it will be like saying i dnt believe in god.
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Yeah I remember when you were dating that black guy and your dad wasn't talking to youBut hey, what are you gonna do ... you believe one thing, your parents believe another, so that's that. They're just gonna have to deal with it
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Java, you have an extensive familly history. You come from a line that has sufferd some of the greatest tradgety that has been inflicted in modern times.Mom & Dad disapproving of your romantic intentions should be a minor issue to both them and you, compared to what your familly has suffered in the past.Dating outside your religion pales in comparison to what happened in the Warsaw Ghetto. You might want to remind your dad of what freedom means.Sorry for ranting
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Hey hon, welcome back hugs missed ya.Do your parents HAVE to know what you beleive..........if you think it will upset them, then don't tell them. Beleive what you feel is right, if you're asked tell the truth, if they don't ask, maybe don't tell..........I don't know hon, religion is a VERY hard thing for me to discuss, as i don't beleive in God etc etc, and never really have..........i think most religions cause more trouble than they are worth, however i bring my kids up to know and respect other religions as it will be there choice what they believe when they get older. Its easier for me, not having a faith as such, to accept that they may have one when they get older, than i guess it will be for your parents to accept that you beleive in something different to them, since they already have one (did that make any sense!!!???)
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I missed you all too Angel, I have done so many things to shock my parents over the years cause its so easy to do, but my latest shock thing was getting engaged to man ive only been dating for a month (3 year engagment though, im not stupid). My dad still isnt done picking himself up off the floor from that one. (he's jewish too, so it was THAT bad). Im just afraid if i lay to mcuh on my parents at once that they will... I dunno Its confusing. So I think im just not gonne mention anything about religion or anything, and if they do im just gonna keep quiet and go on about something else. Maybe use the engagment for like a conversation peice to replace religion. Did that make sense?
