Asking out?

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Yeah I tell myself, if some stupid toothless redneck in a beat up pickup truck can have some hot blonde why the hell cant I.

Bam! Now run with that thought.

so whatta i do on monday then? i can tell myself all that shit but i still think everything will stay the same

so whatta i do on monday then? i can tell myself all that shit but i still think everything will stay the sameDon't expect to go out and suddenly be Fred Durst. Take it a step at a time. As was said by a bunch of females, confidence (or the appearance of confidence) is important. On-line, it's easy to fake. You do a great job of it here. You just need to transfer the attitude, minus some of the crazy stuff (don't talk about stealing gas, for instance) to the world of one-to-one communication. An on-line meeting site is good. You don't have to land a date with everyone you talk to. Just keep at it, and the whole conversation thing will become easier and more natural. IMing would be better than e-mailing, though.Why do you have to wait until Monday? Go do it now.

RIght now at 11:00 pm? the only girls out are hookers and i think most of the ones around here are dudes anyways, im too young to go to the bar and dont know anyone who could get me in nor do i have mroe than 50 cents at teh moment. part of my problem is i dont have anything interesting about me. whenever i am told to describe myself in a paragraph i stare blankly for about an hour and cant write anything.

well whitelines, be thankful for your situation, mine is worse. you look good ill bet, atleast you have that. Me... well.. all I have is a normal person surrounded by darkness (Fat). I love life.

Fat can be burned off though, my social skills will never develop

> Overweight people generally dont have good personalities... Can you people not see that?

> Me... well.. all I have is a normal person surrounded by darkness (Fat).

What are we to make of this? You sound a lot like another poster, who had a thyroid problem. But he was limiting his caloric intake, exercising a lot and still not losing weight, until he started taking thyroid mediciation.

You talked about how you eat. Are you counting your calories? Do you exercise? Have you just thrown in the towel, or are you doing anything about it?

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w_l: Personality issues can be fixed. It takes time and effort, and you shouldn't expect to become Jay Leno, but, unless you have a specific brain defect, socialization is something that can be trained. It's like going to the gym, but it's more complicated and takes longer. But it beats the hell out of the alternative.

you tell me

I don't think so, I go day to day not saying a word to anyone or anyone saying a word to me. I'm sick of this shit, you'd think someone would feel bad by now and invite me out but still nothing

you'd think someone would feel bad by now and invite me outThat's not how it usually works. People get the wrong idea that you're not interested. You need to take the initiative.People will have certain qurks and personality markers throughout their lives, but behavioral things (like socialization) can be changed. But they're not lilkely to change if you don't do anything.The most fundamental thing you need to realize is that people are not constantly evaluating you. People in general just don't care that much about people they don't know. But being self-conscious about it is damaging to your confidence, and that comes across badly. If you can balance the idea of expressing yourself and not worrying about what other people think, yet not being hostile and obnoxious, you'll be in a good place.As I said, you ought to carry some of your on-line personality into your real life...see how it goes.

Yeah except I'm so intimidated by everyone else already having gotten to know each other and talking about people and things I don't know about that I feel I'll never be able to blend in. I wish I could just ditch the world and live among a primitive African tribe, but then I'd have to try and join their clique. On a lighten note, I'm a 6.5 on hotornot, even though that site is a gross innaccuracy, myself I just blaze through clicking 1's on the guys to make them have a lower rating compared to myself, not that it works with millions of users and all but it makes a dent. Some girl I think went to my school doublematched me but the capitalist assholes who run that site make it impossible to communicate other than canned messages without paying, and I cut up all my credit cards, shit. And you can't put any e-mail or AIM because they want to make you pay to talk, bullshit.

the worst you're going to get is a no, so i would just go with it and just do it!

Try Yahoo or some such thing. Try an IM chatroom.

Shit, I'd rather just get out there in real life. What I need is a wingman, I do a lot better when there's some other guy with me. And it's easier when the girls don't speak english like the japanese ones I almost depantied in honolulu. You don't have to say more than 3 words to them and they know exactly what you want.