Hey, just wondering if anyone out there likes to have violent, BDSM style sex? My GF and I have been dating for about a year now, and we have been talking about having sex for 3 weeks or so. The only problem I can see is that she likes it really rough, even slightly painful. In otherwords, she's a bit of a freak in the bed. I, on the other hand, don't want to associate violence with sex(f***ed up childhood). I was just wondering how to give her what she wants, and still keep it intimate, not just abusive. I really love this girl, so I don't wanna f*** this one up, no pun intended.
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Violent sex...
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sex has to be stress free and enjoyable for both, if what your GF wants is gonna bring back horrible childhood memories it isn't gonna be that. You have to be honest about how you feel, and why it doesn't do it for you. By the way has she had lots of experience with 'violent' stuff or does she just think she likes it?
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^^^ I completely agree. Let her know your past and why you do not want to experiment with violent sex. If this relationship is truly something special, she'll understand and honor that. If she then goes searching for her fetish, then she's not as committed as you are and it's time to move on. Hope all works out well.
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Thanx for your input. I don't know if shes had "violent" sex before, so I'll have to ask her. I'll definantly tell her how I feel about violence in general. Thanx again for the advice.
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Is she a kink basket? I'm definatly kinky. I think its sexy for a naked woman to be holding guns and knifes and whips. lol