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My whole night was ruined by my girlfreind. While at the pub I got a call of her saying how sorry she was and kept repeating it over and over, I knew this wast good and kept asking hy until she told me. She had "basicaly had sex with another girl". I have knowen clare for 2 years almost, we had a four moth argueement and then we became friends again and started going out, this was a week ago. I have become quite good friends with her even when we wefre fighting we both admitted about about how we really missed each other. After a week of dating things were going great I really liked her and she said she felt the same. While at the pub she called me and told me how she had basicaly fucked another girl. She hasnt even had sex with me yet and she has "basicaly had sex with another girl" its fucked up, i got off the phone and was all nice to her and pretened i didnt care i screamed for about a minuite just swearing over and over. Im not angry at her im just fucking upset. when i saw her tonight i couldnt talk to her... i tried but there wasnt much i could say i had to just talk to my mate nick and i broke down, first time in about 5 months. I gotm4moffers of sex tonight, FUCKING 4!!! but i declined, I declined because I care about clare and i idnt want her to hurt. But she just goes off and makes it with the first chick whos willing. I just dont get it, I dont see how somone who cared could just destroy me like that. I just dont know what to do, what should I do. I want to give her a second chance, I think shes worth it and if i had fucked up i would want a second chance too. But she has truely hit me below the belt. My arms ache from getting everyone to beat my ass so i woudnt think about it, im so stoned, after she hikt me with the news i smoked so much weed, im so drunk from all the booze.... what should i do.... i have been so nice to her but she has hit me so hard, I dont htink I can look at her anymore, I am so dissapointed. Im going to regret posting this dumb drunken stoned rAMBLING..I feel pathetic I just need to bite the bullet and take it like a man but its fucked me up alot. I just dont get how somone who cared could do that... its another girl, it makes me feel likes so much less of a man. Please tell me what i should do, i judt dont know what to do, im so confused

Thats pretty fucked up bro. Here is what I say you should do... Im stoned... So this will be good... You should sleep with her dad or a brother. Make sure to film it, and send her a copy. Nah... She cheated on you. Anyway you look at it. If my girlfriend cheated on me, it would be over. That 'trust' is broken. I wouldn't be able to believe her after that. Not much more to say then that... Go smoke a joint and say fuck it.Peace

Wait... How did she "basically" have sex with another girl... What did she do? Make out, oral, what? Maybe it's not so bad as it seems- maybe she was drunk, too, and had lost her head or something. Get sober, and get all of the facts, before you decide.

That's very rough, Homicidal.possum. You're not pathetic. You've tried to do the right thing and she did something wrong. At least she confessed to it. Give yourself time to cool down before you decide what you do next. I think you should tell her how it has made you feel.

Actually, whats wrong with that? If she's bisexual, then of course she's gonna have sex with a girl sometime. And even if she's bi that means she can handle you + the other girl, it isn;t like she's leaving u? Did you know she was bi? If you didn't kno she was Bi, then she prolly didn;t want to say she's bi or she fucked a girl cuz she didn;t want to make you mad! And her not haveing sex with you means she views you as her boyfreind and not a man-whore. The other chick was someone she prolly just considered a whore for the night and she prolly cared about you enough not to treat you as a hoe!

maybe she was drunk, too, and had lost her head or somethingThat's no excuse. Even homicidal, who's stoned and drunk has declined 4 offers. I'm tired of hearing, I was wasted...Like that makes up for something. "oh you were drunk, now it's all good, i see what you mean." fuck that. dude cool down, take a few breathers, not beer, but breathers, and try to gather the situation, anyway you cut it though, you may have to say goodbye to the girlfriend/boyfriend relationship you two had going. I really agree with that, hasn't slept with you, but sleeps with the first chick who's willing--thing. That's a terrible way to treat someone.

It doesn't matter whether she's bi or not, if you're commited to someone, then you don't go out and cheat on them. As it was mentioned, the trust is broken and it's going to take sometime to build it back up. By not having sex with him but having sex with some other girl doesn't mean that she respects him, just means that she has issues that she needs to address. Take your time, simmer down, and most importantly talk to her. Communication at this point is super important. Just tell her how much she hurt you and that if she really wants this relationship to work like you do, tell her that she must commit and be faithful, b/c you are commited and true...love is one of them two way streets, bi, gay or straight doesn't change that.

you could always ask if they want a threesom, you could just become friends with benefits, but thats kinda hard if you have feelings for her..

I think she finger banged her and probrably did oral. Iv sobered up and arnt stoned now and I'm still pretty hurt by it, what would make me feel better is fucking her shittless to be honest, I dont know why but it would. Im questioning that wierd logic as why that would. I dont know what there is to talk about with her she has said she is sorry what else can she do? She was drunk too, being drunk is an excuse tho it isnt a reason to do somthing like that and yes she is bi. I think I am going to meet her today, fuck knows what I am going to say. I supprisingly am not hung over just still sick with flu so i guess thats good... I learneed that your friends are always there for you not some stupid girl.

Dude bang her and her friend. Threesome duh? If she likes you and her friend then bang the shit out of both of em. Threesomes are awsome just do it

In reply to: what would make me feel better is fucking her shittless to be honest id probably feel the same way, its a really wierd feeling, like wanting to reclaim whats ures..

Holy shit man, youre like the luckiest dude. if i had a girl, who liked other girls... well as long as she liked guys too...

Not really, considering I was 30 miles away at the pub and she hasnt even fucked me yet but fucks a girl she just met. She called and asked if she could kiss stache and I was like eeer no, lesbians arnt a turn on for me I just think it looks stupid. Cheatings cheating and I told her not to and she said ok, I belived she wouldnt. I fucking belived her, I put all my trust in her and she betrayed me. I saw her today and I couldnt even look at her, it was so wierd I wasnt angry, I was just so dissapointed in her. Usialy I would just hate her guts and fly off the wall but I'm past that. Every time I looked at her I remembered what she did, I dont think things can ever be the same again and dont know if I can even be with her anymore. I spoke to her and were still going out but I dont know if theres much point, what she did makes me sick. I dont even wanna fucking touch her now. I'm so glad my friend Nick and my ex liz have been there for me today and yesterday, without my friends I would be lost. My friends are always there long after some bitch.

> she hasnt even fucked me yet but fucks a girl

How does a girl fuck another girl?

Haven't you ever seen "chasing amy"? they explain the whole girl/girl sexual intercourse thing a little more.

yeah but its still not as bad as if she went and fucked some other guy, if a girl did that to me shed end up like "kim"

im with possum on this one, you cant just turn around to him and be like, ooo have a 3 some!, it doesnt quite work that way, he feel betrayed, trust isent somehting that growns on trees ya know..

why would you be so mad? i would love to have my girl bring other girls for me or even see my girl do stuff with another girl. and how did she fuck another chick? did she use a strap on or something?

Well I didnt join in and I didnt get to watch, I dont even care about lesbian action. Im not a whore and dont enjoy fucking random birds. Lesbians arent even hot to me, I think it just looks dumb. The main reason why I was upset with her is because I told her not to and she did. In a way its even worse than her fucking a guy and in other ways its not. But I dont care now cus I broke up with her earlier and said that she should be ashamed of what she did because it was fucking sick. It seems ok when its girls but if I had called her up saying I just fucked my friend nick in the ass I'm sure it would be a differant story. Whys it acceptable for girls to cheat on guys with another girls? Cheatings cheating no matter how you look at it. Everyone fucks up in relationships but theres a line and she crossed it and I hope she feels fucking awfull for it because she deserves it. I hope everytime she sees me she realises what she missed out on.

the mans got some very good points