This is my first post and just wanted to know how others felt about this. The thought of sucking off another man is always hinting in my mind. I sometimes watch gayporn and shemale porn. I like women have had sex before but always wanted to try to suck a guy off. I want him to cum in my mouth and I want my own cum in my mouth. But I think the act of 2 men being lovers in the emotional sense is disturbing. I do not like the sight of men kissing or ass fucking. Is this gay at all.
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Am I gay?
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Not really. Since being gay is being emotionally attracted to someone of the same sex, having one sexual thought isn't gay. It's normal for most people.
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>But I think the act of 2 men being lovers in the emotional sense is disturbing
What?? You are going to say you want a guy to cum in your mouth and than you say two guys in an emotional relationship is disturbing?? To me that makes no sense.
As a gay guy I find it disturbing that people like you who want a guy to cum in your mouth and than have issues with gay relationships.
And here I thought I heard it all..LoL
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I understand what he means. He's physically attracted to both genders, but emotionally only to women. I'm a bit like that actually; although I'm still a virgin and way too shy to actually to it, I would be tempted by physical sex with a good looking guy, but could never "love" him, while I'd have no problem with a woman. Let's remember that sexuality is a complex and varied domain for everyone.
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I think most people here know I am VERY open minded and understand sexuality very well. Maybe it was his wording of "Disturbing" that caused my reaction.
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I think I know what he means though, even if it wasn't perfectly expressed.I've had my curiosities about gay sex and I've seen gay porn. I have quite a number of gay friends. It seems that it's when I see lovy dovy behaviour that I feel occasionally uncomfortable. It sounds a little odd, I'm sure. I think it might just be a sign of straightness.
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I understand exactly what he's talking about too. He fits the same catagory as most guys, although most wouldn't admit to it. There is an extremely small percentage of guys that are 100% straight, and a small percentage that are 100% gay. Almost all of us fit somewhere in the middle. Obviously he's more towards the straight end of the spectrum, which is why he has no emotional attraction to guys.
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thats exactly the way i feel.... i would perform sexual acts with a male... yet would never find myself in an emotional relationship with one.
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I'm the same. The thought of sexual activity with another bloke doesn't bother me in the slightest but I really can't imagine ever having the feelings for another bloke that I had for my long-term girlfriends.
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I can understand all that. Makes complete sense. It was just the word "disturbed" that bothered me and plus I was having a bad day that day and probably took more offense to it than I should have.. Oh well LoL.I dunno like if I was to reverse the question, I could see myself being happy in a relationship with a female until it comes to something sexual. I can cuddle and hold hands even kiss passionately a male or a female but when it comes down to sex it'll just never happen with a female. See now if I can find a female who will never want sex and instead will settle for just cuddling I could maybe play off being straight LoL =-P
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I tend to base your sexual orientation off whether or not you are attracted to the opposite/same sex in an emotional way, as well as sexually. It's normal for guys to have a fantasy about another guy. In society in the past, it was normal, and actually more respected in some civilizations, for two males to have a sexual relationship. Did that necessarily mean they were gay? No, but two males having sexual contact was accepted. As I said before, many guys have a fantasy of having sexual contact with another guy. But, most guys would never admit it, because it is sort of taboo.I am bisexual. I am attracted sexually and emotionally to males and females. I do have a leaning towards guys, though. I am able to have a comfortable relationship with either gender, although I tend to be more sexually attracted to males, and connect better in a relationship with other males.I agree, "disturbed" was probably the wrong word to use. It suggests that you think poorly of homosexuality (which, maybe you do). Once you start to come to more self-realizations, you might figure out your true feelings. You might be gay, you might be bisexual, or maybe you are straight. There is nothing wrong with any of these orientations. I don't know your age, so I don't know the psychological state you might be in.Whatever you are, you will eventually just know your true feelings. Some people who are homosexual or bisexual deny it to themselves and think if they deny it, their orientation will change. It might temporarily (not not actually) , but one day you will come to a self-realization and realize the waste of life it was to deny yourself of who you are. It will come to you some day, and when it does, embrace it. It's who you are, there's no changing that, so why make yourself suffer?As said by Armistead Maupin:"My only regret about being gay is that I repressed it for so long. I surrendered my youth to the people I feared when I could have been out there loving someone."Don't make that mistake yourself. Life's too damn short."