My bf and I have been sexually active for a little over a year now, first we did mutual masterbation and oral, then intercourse. I had orgasms almost every time we were together and it was amazing. About 3 mos ago I went thru a rough time and was depressed so we weren't intimate at all, then last month we started it up again. Now, despite my bf's best efforts I CANNOT orgasm. I don't know what to do, and since I know what it's like it really pisses me off cuz I know what I'm missing out on. Any suggestions???
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Disappointed and frustrated
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Are you taking an antidepressant (especially an SSRI, like Prozac, Paxil, etc.)?
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nope, I just kinda came out of it with therapy...no drugs
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I don't think people just instantly completely snap out of depression, as if nothing happened. You need to not obsess over it for now...just get comfortable being together. Give it some time.
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yeah I guess so, thanks
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i went through the same thing when i was depressed about a year and a half ago, i just couldnt orgasm, i also didnt feel horny really, its fustrating and theres not much i can say, but my libido did come back in about a month. also the fact that your always fustrated when it comes down to having an orgasm, probabaly doesnt help bcos ure constantly thinking 'i hope i orgasm' when really you just need to let go, all i can say is that it will pass