Ok I am 17 and a senior in high school. I cant find a girlfriend. I dont have very high selfesteem. What is a good way to aproach a girl.
Get some self-esteem
i second that, its hard to just say, 'o get some self esteem' but im sure that some ppl here have some good ways go boost your self esteem, i used to have very low confidence but i started working out regulerly and thats helped a hell of a lot
yeah i got self esteem... didnt work I must be one ugly person.
Maybe I was a little curt in my answer, but I'm serious. If you don't think well of yourself, then no one else will either. If you think your not worthy, a women is going to sence it and agree with you. If you think your worthy of her and that she is worthy of you. Than half the battle is won.
I had that same problem about a week ago. Self esteem and confidence is pretty much everything when it comes to talking to girls (for me at least :wink: ). ANYWAY what I did is I:
1. Cleared my entire wardrobe and bought new clothes that made me look pimpin' (but I'm no pimp, I'm probably the whitest kid at my school :laughing:) . Just get clothes that match, and make you feel good.
2. Be arrogant. You're better than everybody in some way, shape, or form, and tell yourself that you're better than other people becuase... Like I'm a little bit more athletic than some people, and I'm smarter than alot of people, so I feel more confident about myself when I think about that. BUT, this is a big but, don't tell other people that you're better, just think in your head that "Pshh, I'm smarter than this twat." Hehe, I was faking my arrogance for awhile, then I really started thinking that I was better than everyone else.
3. Be more social. Become confortable with the people you interact with. You can do this by talking with people ALOT.
Just talk about their interests, and the conversation will last awhile, which is what you should aim for.
And you should always be happy about your life, don't think of suicide, killing someone, doing drugs, etc. . Don't dwell over past mistakes/bad events, just think about what you can do to fix that mistake, or a good thing that will happen soon.
Once you improve your self esteem, you'll eventually muster up the confidence to say hi to a girl.
This was my first conversation with my gj:
"Hi what's your name?" (me)
"Erica *giggle* *giggle*"
"Hi Erica, I'm (HAHAIMNOTGOINGTOTELLYOUMYNAMELOLOLOL). How are you today?"
"Good. *smiles*....*pauses* So how's the family doing?"
"*giggle* *giggle* fine fine"
And I just kept it flowing from there...
You'll pull through, then you'll become the biggest pimp in your entire school! :grin: