Throwing in the towel...

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I was hoping it wouldn't really come to this, but I've lost all motivation now, so I am officially giving up on relationships.I bow down before the almighty female and vow to never pester them or be attracted to them on more than a physical level from now on.It's really quite simple, and I'm a bit upset I never noticed before, but females are, in general, much better than me.This must be why they treat me with such disrespect and loathing - because to them I am nothing more than a tool for entertainment. Vindictive entertainment.So, my pursuit of a suitable partner comes to an end, with me being scared of girls.I feel I need to reiterate that I am scared of girls. Terrified in fact.This goes against my former plan for the year, which was to make the most of my final year of university and the vast amounts of socialising that should happen - but I'm just too weak to be dealing with it.So in closing:Girls - you win. I lose. Congratulations.

aww, come on, we're not that bad. What has happened to you that made you come to such a decision? Maybe we can help out.

Not all woman are cruel like that my friend. What has made you so angry at the female population?

The real question, why are you sooo big on trying to have a realtionship? Why do you need a gf?I've been single for 8 months and its been great

Oh, I'm sorry if anyone's hurt you in anyway. I hope you're ok. Not all girls are like that though. What's wrong?

Not all woman are cruel like that my friendYa huh! You all have cooties!!!hehe Just playing.To sadbuttrue, sounds like you had a really bad falling out. Sometimes you have to look deeper in a situation and find out exactly what went wrong. If you feel like explaining more on the situation we can probably help you out some.A lot of times I find that guys try to hard to impress the wrong girls and often over look the girls that really like them. If that makes any sense? (Mind you it's after midnight and I'm about to go to bed)Just take a breather and don't be to heard on yourself!

Cutie, I've had more than my fair share of heart ache, suffering, pain, and all that comes with opening yourself to the possibility of feeling something for someone so deep that you can't begin to describe it. But it was worth it every time. I learned valuable lessons every time so I wouldn't keep making the same mistake. I may fall down but the point is that I don't STAY down. I know I'm a girl and I'm the enemy but we can't let our bad experience keep us from the good ones because the truth is you probably will have more bad experiences than good ones. Those bad experiences are make the "good" ones, GREAT ones. I got lucky. I found a nice guy in the most unlikely place, in the most unlikely way..and it was just unlikely period but the point is i found him and though we may not be together forever, he is genuinely nice and genuinely cares for me. I know this because he showed me Thursday when I got the worst news (won't go into detail) but I was so upset I felt as though I could've shot myself had the gun been there. But it wasn't and he was. He held me and even though it must have scared the hell out of him not knowing exactly what to do for me he didn't run away. He stayed with me. Hang in there babe. You'll find it. And in the most unlikely of places.

"It's really quite simple, and I'm a bit upset I never noticed before, but females are, in general, much better than me.This must be why they treat me with such disrespect and loathing - because to them I am nothing more than a tool for entertainment. Vindictive entertainment."First off let me say, bullshit. I've said it before on this forum and I'm sure I'll say it again, but people think of you, and treat you, as you think of yourself. So, think highly of yourself, if you don't no one else will. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to be a cocky prick, but rather be proud.Secondly quite looking for a girl, look for a women. In other words someone who is going to treat you with the respect you deserve.Of course you may have been a prick to her and she had good reason to dump your ass. J/K I don't know the story so I'm assuming alot but the above advice is still valid to anyone who reads it, so I guess it's applicable.

i think everyone has raised valid points herebe happy and comfortable with yourself by yourselfthink highly of yourselfdon't look for a relationshipdon't bend or break for a girl ever, don't ever be pushed around by onestay stronga guy with no self esteem is not only very unappealing to women.. but it's unappealing to other guy friends too...... i was one for a freakin long time...

Hon, I don't think you're in the right frame of mind to make a decision like this, you only lost your mum a few weeks ago and of course your going to be feeling down, vunerable and pissed off, and you have every right to be, but saying that i think its unfair that you tar everyone with the same brush...........NOT all women are the same, as not all men are the same.Get over your loss, and learn to enjoy life again, and then you may find that you meet the women of your dreams in tescos or somat.big hugs

"Hon, I don't think you're in the right frame of mind to make a decision like this, you only lost your mum a few weeks ago"Sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my dad when I was 19, it's bad deal. Don't let the deppression over your loss have a negative effect on the rest of your life, grieve but go on. If you feel that your loss is really bring you down and you can't seem to get over it, then you may need to get medical help. However, it sounds like your loss was only recently and the grieving process does take time. Don't rush it but also don't let it pull you down and hold you there. I'm sure your mother would never want that.Again I'm so sorry for your loss. Best wishes.

I sought medical help months ago. Been doing councelling for a while and it's not helping in the slightest.For me, sitting in a room laying my soul out on the table to a woman who is paid to listen doesn't really hit the spot.I need some help here, and blurting out my thoughts isn't helping.I was like this before mum died - the problem is that now the lonliness is starting to eat away at me.And I have people around, I just feel "empty and unsatisfied" with life - which is how it's always been for me, just now I'm noticing it more.And it's not helped by girls teasing me in various ways that they seem to get immense amusement from.

> I sought medical help months ago. Been doing councelling for a while and it's not helping in the slightest.

Counseling is not really medical help. How about antidepressant medication?

I think it would be fair to say that you did need some help getting "back up" ... you make it sound like you just bounced back in a day but I remember times when you sounded just like sadbuttrue and I told you it wouldn't stay like that ....

>>>"Counseling is not really medical help. How about antidepressant medication?"

Steve is right, if counseling is not helping antidepressants could probably work wonders. I take 'em. Theres nothing wrong with it, all they do is lift you up out of that black pit and let you see that there is hope.

My doctor said she wouldn't prescribe me them - so that went out the window ages ago.

It's not a bounce back in a day thing. I'm not trying to make it sound like that at all. I know it takes time. And yes, I felt like giving up, but I didn't. I really don't think anyone ever does, even when they say they're going to. Everyone has hope, no matter how small. It's a beautiful thing. There were times I felt like giving up and just rolling over and saying, "Okay YOU WIN!" But then they really would've won and I'm not too big on losing.

"I sought medical help months ago. Been doing councelling for a while and it's not helping in the slightest."If it has been months than maybe you should think about finding a different doctor.>>>"I was like this before mum died"Maybe your a chronic depressive, dysthymia is what I think its called. Irregardless, if your doc isn't helping find a doc that can.>>>"And it's not helped by girls teasing me in various ways that they seem to get immense amusement from."Fuck the girls, ignore them. They, and their opinions, are completely unimportant. The sooner you realize this the faster your life will get easier. I know when your teased it's painful and it will always hurt but just try to come to the realization that it doesn't matter, that what they say or do doesn't matter, that as for as you are concerned their existence doesn't matter. Do the best you can to just roll your eyes and shake your head at them in the most disdaining manner possible, to show your aggrivation at their most juvenile behavior. Girls, generaly, hate the thought of anyone thinking of them as juvenile. Feel the appropriate amount of hurt for being teased, realize what they think is of no consequence to you, dismiss the hurt and forget about it with the knowledge that their opinion of you simply has no bering on your life. Don't let these bitches control your attitude, you have enough to deal with. Take control of the situation by controling how you react to it. Don't surrender control of your mental attitude to shallow self centered hussies. Remember that they and their opinion of you is simply irrelavent. Don't give them the power.I feel for ya, bud. Sorry I can't be more help..hang in there.

My doctor said she wouldn't prescribe me them - so that went out the window ages ago.We've been down this path before.I couldn't agree more with what OldFolks said. If you're doctor is not doing the job, s/he needs to be fired. There are people who've been in therapy for years, showing no improvement, but who have improved rapidly when given antidepressants. The idea is to find out what works for the individual, rather ruling out treatements out-of-hand.

Sounds like you need God. Get a copy of John and Romans and read that. It's food for the soul.