Obstacles...

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Why is there always an obstacle preventing me from accomplishing anything? I know everyone has obstacles, but my obstacles are so huge that I cant even build a foundation.

I cant have a good life, Im fat, I have very little friends

I cant do anything about my weight or looks, I fractured my L5 vertibrae and specialists say they dont know how long it will take to recover. I can barely walk without being in excruciating pain and aside from school I can only lay down.

Wow, I just realized what a wonderful life I have. Thanks God!

life isn't simple

why don't you try living in a 3rd world country for a year, than complain about the situation you are in now?

there are people worse off than you

cheer up and don't be so negative otherwise you'll have no friends left. no one likes a negative person

i'm not trying to be harsh here... just honest. cheer up for your own good, cause ppl who start to walk down the road of bitterness find it hard to turn back :P
i know people at work like this.

...i think his situation is alot more complex than the simple 'cheer up' line, its really quite fucking annoying when people say that..

"Why is there always an obstacle preventing me from accomplishing anything?"First off thats life and obstacle are what make accomplishments worth while.>>>"I know everyone has obstacles, but my obstacles are so huge that I cant even build a foundation."All you can do is take the first step, no matter how small it is, then the next step, and the next, and the next... Make eash step its own reward and find the pride in having made it as far as you have. Does that mean you will achieve your goals? No. But you will have pride in the effort you put forth in getting as far as you made it. Just start. >>>"I cant have a good life, Im fat, I have very little friends"Get off the self pity thing. There are plenty of people who have great lives and they are fat. For instance, my uncle has been fat sinse birth he has a great life as an artist, a professional gambler, he's owned about every other high priced sports car made, he's traveled the world and had plenty of women all over the place. So fat has nothing to do with it.>>>"I cant do anything about my weight or looks"Ask the doctor if there are any type of exercises you can do while bedfast, There's probably something he or physical therapist could recomend. Looks are subjective I guarantee that there is someone out there who will find you attractive, that is if you quit putting yourself down.>>>"I fractured my L5 vertibrae and specialists say they dont know how long it will take to recover."But it will recover. There are plenty of people out there that won't recover who go one and have good lives. Don't be so negative.>>>"I can barely walk without being in excruciating pain and aside from school I can only lay down."It sounds like this is temporary, if that is the case, then as harsh as it sound, deal with it. If its not, or in the mean time, find something you can do laying down paint, write, masturbate, read, learn, get a blow job, whatever. Just use the time to explore your interests, study cosmology, study female anatomy, study ways to hack into the central bank. But whatever you do, do more than just laying there feeling sorry for yourself. >>>"Wow, I just realized what a wonderful life I have. Thanks God!"Well welcome to reality! Nobady ever said life was fair. If you want reality then read my sig.

"'cheer up' line, its really quite fucking annoying when people say that.."I agree with you. I used to hate it when granny would say, "Cheer up, things could always be a lot worse." But, ya know what, she was right and it has been proven to me, that she was right, over and over in my life.I used to hate hearing cheer up, still do actually. The difference is that, at some point, I reach the realization that no one can come in, wave their magic wand, and make everything better. All anyone can do is listen and give advice. Personally, I think if you don't want to listen to what they have to say in return than all you really want is pitty. Furthermore, the only people who are generally worthy of pitty will get pissed off if you pitty them.As someone who doesn't like cheer-up lines either, I can't think of anything else that someone could say. Do you or anyone have any suggestions of what to say other than, "cheer up, things really aren't that bad."?

ID like to take the first step, followed by the next, etc, but I literally can't walk. And 16 yr olds arent suppose to have lower back fractures.

What is it that you are wanting to accomplish, specifically?

why don't you try living in a 3rd world country for a year, than complain about the situation you are in now?> there are people worse off than youThat's a good way to make a depressed person feel even worse. ("Yeah, I feel really bad, and there are people far worse off. I must really suck!") But it doesn't help.> cheer up and don't be so negative otherwise you'll have no friends left. no one likes a negative personIt's that easy, huh? You wouldn't tell somoene with a broken leg to just get better. Why would you say that to a depressed person?

Yeah, OldFolks, maybe those words worked for you, but not for me. Hey, since were being vague like that, why dont you tell me to run 30 miles a day, to get rid of my weight problem? And then you can tell me how good my life is.

"Yeah, OldFolks, maybe those words worked for you, but not for me."Words are all I've got. I have no magic wand to change your life, if I did I would use it. Those words have worked for me, if they do nothing for you, then sorry. >>>"Hey, since were being vague like that"I'm dealing with a post of a hundred words or less, how can I be anything but general, or vague as you put it. All I know about you is what you post.>>>"why dont you tell me to run 30 miles a day, to get rid of my weight problem?"Either in this post or your parallel post, I said, ask the doc or the physical therapist about exercises you can do while bedfast. Will you drop the weight fast, of course not, but a least it something, at least it is working toward your goal.>>>"And then you can tell me how good my life is."I never said your life was good, I said, life is what you make of it. You can either lay there and pitty your self or you can lay there and better your self... and at least get your mind off your problems for a while. Study, learn, paint, write poetry, become the best X-boxer, champian masturbater, whatever. I would think anything would be better the laying there being bitter about the situation your in, but hey, if bitterness work for you go with it. You are allowed time to grieve for your situation, but at some point you have got to move past that, otherwise you'll just get farther and farther down in that black hole of dispair. At some point you do have to make the best of your situation. I've offered some suggestions if you don't like any of them, come up with some you do like and implement them.

Nobody has a perfect life, no one. Some peoples problems seem greater than others, but, if its a problem to who ever, then its a problem.Saying that, it does seem these days that people expect a perfect life, and when they don't get it, well its because of everything and everyone else. Bullshit. Only YOU are responsable for your life, only YOU can change it - sure there are obsticles, but hey get over it, moaning about it doesn't change a thing, but doing something about it/then can change everything.Everybody know matter what they look like, what they do, how much money they have, has problems, down days, etc etc. You have to just make the most of it. Yeah that sounds lame, but its the truth.So you can't do anything about your weight or looks, then so be it! But you can change your outlook on life, be a better person, get more friends, be part of something, help others etc etc etc.Your obsticles may seem huge, but other people have obsticles bigger, and they overcome them, and so can you. Don't pull yourself down so much. You probably have more strength than you know, but you will only find it to overcome everything, if you try.I'm not trying in anyway to make your problems seem irrelivant, before everyone starts flaming me.

ya know what? I pm'd you and you didn;t bother replying. I have no sympathy for you any more because you don;t want to help yourself, you just want sympathy.

and how the hell was i suppose to know that i had a PM? It's people like you who make assumptions like that, who ruined my life. Thanks.

there will be a flashing envelope right next to main index...it is kinda of obvious.

What makes you think he was logged in between the time Amz sent the message and the time she got upset?

hey. I sent the message two days before cloudlessrane posted on here again, then I saw he had posted and had a strop.. I'm sorry if I wsa too quick in jumping, I was in a bad mood and I apologise

What's a "strop"?

a strop, is another UK-ism its a bad mood/temper tantrum/pissed off/angry etc etc

thanks angel oh dear. I hate it when I look back on what I've wrote when being in a strop (bad mood)

It's OK...I'm sure he forgives you. I'm sure that he appreciated that you wanted to help.I need to get a better dictionary...the British slang meaning of "strop" wasn't in dictionary.com's definition. And I thought "tosser" meant "jerk". I didn't know that it had a specific slang meaning. If it wasn't in Monty Python or Fawlty Towers, I guess I wouldn't know it.