First time

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I'm sure everything will go as well as it can. Actually, he and I were talking about it last night and he confessed that he is rather nervous. He says he is emotionally prepared, he just doesn't want to hurt me. I tried to make him feel better, I told him I would just enjoy the closeness of it and try to ignore the pain... I think that eased his nerves a bit. Also because he's only had sex once, three years ago (he's 20), and he did it with the wrong person so he vowed to wait and "make love" the next time. So he waited but I think he's nervous because he doesn't remember what it's like. That actually makes me sort of happy, since it will be kinda like the first time for both of us.

There are things you can do to prepare yourself physically to limit your discomfort. I'm not a girl so I can't give you detailed advice, but I can tell you to do research on it.I've heard of some girls who will actually deflower themselves prior to having sex for the first time because it puts them in control of the situation (defloration) and in order to limit the pain and discomfort.Why not get the painful bits out of the way ahead of time so that the experience itself will be less frightening and more likely to be enjoyable?Why all girls don't do this is something that I actually find quite strange. But then again I'm not typical so go figure.

Thanks for the advice but the idea of self-penetration has always weirded me out a bit. Stretching by use of a tampon, or what's done at the gyno, is all fine... but doing it on my own, not so appealing. I bought some water-based lubrication a few days ago to assist in the conditioning process and actual intercourse. I think it should help at least a little. Opinions?

i very much prefer to not have a painful first time. a dildo is a wonderful thing, my loves.