listen if you bf didn't do anything to help you then you should dump him, hands down with now arguements at all. especially now that he won't even talk to you anymore.sounds like to me the one you should be dating is you best friend
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What do i do ...
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mmm u r rite he is the 2cnd best guy i know ( lets name him K) and i dnt know what is hapening to my life atm i seem to be going from one sort of shit to another and now this :'(
i reallli care about mi b/f ...no jokes i mean .... i realli ,realli care but i dont get the impression he cares about me...like at all
and the rumour was true K did hit him i knew he protects me alot but this guy is way bigger (taller + fatter (no offence to neone) than him!! he is only tiny !! but yeh i only wish he was available!!! hes to perfect to be true i think !!
well mi b/f is still ignoring me!!!
and yeh i now dont have the guts to dump him especially before the trip i dont wanna be at war withhim and his friend their only 17 people going if i dont talk with the two of them it will be even worse
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the fact they are both on my raft with 3 other people and K isnt going on this trip :'( !! i mean ther will be Me my (??x??) x bf a loser (the bf X best frend) -- o the rafts were picked in pairs i picked a girl who im close frend with n he picked his X-best frend ) -- what are the odds that of all the pairs we would be together the other people are a japanese girl and boy i mean theyr ok but i dont know them tha well and they talk in japanese a lot so i dont understnad like the majority of what they are saying... the girl i picked is french but saddly the BF understands quite a lot of french so i can have a nice silent trip !!
FUN FUN !!
i realli wish i wasnt going now !! or i wish i could press rewind over the last 12 months and change a lot of what i have done!! maybe then things would be differnt ... better but i geuss i cant look at the past -
Torie why do you have to go on this trip? I think you should follow gundam's advice and dump your boyfriend, and don't go on that trip. This guy is a maniac, and your boyfriend isn't doing anything about it when he should.
Next time you see your boyfriend's friend he's going to do something worse, and your boyfriend probably won't do anything to help you. Dump your boyfriend and distance yourself from him and his friend.
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sadlly it is too late to pull out from the trip it is paid for and it was not cheap !!!! the issue is we will lose all the money if i dont go and my parents would want a decent reason for me not wanting to go and they have no idea about mi b/f ....i tried to tell my boy friend it was over but he refused to accept it and sed ....he wont let me go not like this .... all four of us met up in a cafe on Orchard (K came for my support obviously and i didnt realli want to go their alone)we talked it ended up with the two guys almost murdering each other mi bf and G( for guy)!! they were really pissed off at each other and the guy put the blame on me ( well he tried it )..... my friend said he knew it couldnt be true as even when im a little drunk im not like that so why would i do it then ..... i think the hardest point was that my b/f didnt stick up for me ( at all) ... they all had drinks... and it was a nasty feeling sitting their ....so to get away from the table i went to get my self a drink....i even passed people infornt of me to stay away as long as possible.... when i sat down at the table ..people had shifted and i was now sat with my b/f he grabbed my hand but i pulled away ... he had ago at me saying that your sposed to be "HIS" girl ( and ther was a lot of swearing) and yeh well even the G said he was out of line with the way that he spoke to me ... i moved and sat on a chair at the end of the table near the space and Ki got realli emotional which is not like me at all (not in public{in fact i can honestly say K has only seen me cry once before }) K hugged me my b/f looked so mad i have never seen that look and the second kane let go of me ....he tried the same ... it really didnt work as i moved away after all i dunno but after a fight it didnt feel right at all..... the fighting began again and it was so depressing i didnt wanna get upset again so i walked out of the cafe...... i got on the bus and came home ... i dnt think mi phone has ever been this busy people keep callin and texting .....but i dont wanna talk with anyone until i know where to go please please please please HELP ME!! im so desperate :'( i wonder how things got this bad but i think i am partly to blame ...
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sadlly it is too late to pull out from the trip it is paid for and it was not cheap !What is the gain from going on a trip that will be completely miserable? If you bought non-refundable tickets to go to a country that turned into a war zone, would you still go on the trip? For what? To listen to bombs exploding outside your window?Sometimes you have to walk away from a bad investment, like this trip. It sounds like a dangerous situation, but it certainly will be an unpleasant one. Don't go.
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Listen to SteveA.You don't have to go on the trip. If your parents want a good reason for you not going, tell them the WHOLE STORY. That creep that tried to kiss you could be dangerous, and you could risk getting raped if you go on that trip. Even if you don't get raped then your trip will still be miserable becuase your "boyfriend" and his friend will be fighting the entire time. Your parents will understand. You might have to pay them back though .You shoudln't feel like the bad guy in this situation Torie. None of this is your fault at all. You are the victim in this situation, you didn't do any harm to anybody, everyone else - especially that creep - harmed you. Don't feel bad.P.S. Your grammar is improving
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when i say i have no choice about this trip i mean it leaves next sunday and it is a non-refundable option :'( (sadly). As well as this the trip is a complulsory thing for my semester grade !!. apparently its too late to change... but how i wish it wasnt.This morning i saw him but even though he saw me ..he gazed right through me!!wasnt really in the for anything at all felt like hiding away but put on abrave face i thought i had it covered but .. yep things in my school change like the wind...... I was walking down the hall to the office as i wished to inquire about changing the trip and i bumped into the guy (he was with some of the other guys ... we'll call them I so yeh he said to me "hows about we finish our kiss" i looked mortified and stepped away "i tried to walk away but they followed "come on just because ur b/f's a wuss doesnt mean u should be" i walked alot quicker and got down the steps .. their is 3 of them with this guy and i just couldnt seem to shake them .." come on we are just messin with you.. although it would be nice !!" i was pratically crying now because yeh well u know why!!! one of his friends is american and no offence but he has a really loud voice !!! "so vicki ... hows things with that loser" i was pretty pised off by now!! and then the guy ran infront of me " i was halted !! i said "Shift!!"(move) he said "if you kiss me" that was it i couldnt believe it a few people were around one of them was my (??x??) bf who was watching intersetedly. i Was dam upset so i looked at the floor and tried to move around him becos the next flight down was the computer lab and i was going to meet up wit K and M (my 2 good friends)but that idiot just got in my way the only good thing was his mates backed off a bitmi bf was still watching and i thought even though we had argued he would have said something.... i could here some people wanting to come down one of them is a french girl i know so when she came past i spoke with her saying "hey can you see if K is in the Lab i thought he went to do hw" she said "sure" i then asked her to ask him to come out if he is. the guy doesnt understand a word of french and that i can honestly say was the only time ive been glad that i learnt it!!!!o and i was thankful K was doing his homework!" he came out and as almost by magic knew the situation he called my name the guy saw him and stood out of the way as if he hadnt even noticed me... i dont think i have ever gone down stairs so fast.. i got to the lab and was still pretty shakey .. i cried (that is the second time in 2 days !! extemely unusual) and it led to hugs but my b/f didnt even come to see if i was ok i think that was the main reason for the upset!!now more than ever i wish this trip was going to be canceled !! o and as for telling my parents they would not approve at all and partly.. mostly they would blame me for getting involved with a guy anyway (they have no idea about my relationship!!)I can honestly say i think me n my b/f are history .... but i dont know what his jerk of an ex-bestfrend wants from me !! i mean he knows im not interested but its as if hes getting some kind of enjoyment out of harming me... or did i say /do something i shouldnt have ...!o as for my grammar read this and you will see their is no improvement!!god please i spose ther is only one way to go though and thats up !! i hope !!but god everyhting is hapening toooooo fast !!
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\>\>\>\>I can honestly say i think me n my b/f are history
**think? do you REALLY want a relationship with this so-called-boyfriend after he stands and watches? I hope not, you deserve more than that.
As for this guy in your face, well i would have slapped him, hard, but thats just me.............tho saying that you have to stand up for yourself.............or this will get worse, when he asks loudly in front of everyone to finish the kiss again, for example i would reply loudly back, "nah it REALLY wasn't that good!" etc etc....... ** -
Cancel the trip. Its the only wise thing to do.next time he corners you pull back your right hand in a fistI promise he will look at it, now hit him with the left cross on the end of his chin and kick him in the balls, I doubt he will bother you any more. If he does, sweep his knee with the heel of your foot. Maybe I shouldnt advocate violence but its always worked for me when I needed it.Once your out of there goto the office and report it to the people there, tell em what happened with him trying to kiss you and bothering you. Clears you for busting him and it means that its on record that hes a problem for you. Your B/F is a wuss, they had that right. tell him he is a bitch and your done with him.
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no matter how much i hate people i am the person who is never violent and slapping him even when i try my brain just seems to stop me !! yeh i agree my b/f is a wuss and he does however know how i feeel i just cornered him today and yeh well told him what i think and then i had had enough.. wel he didnt say much !! and surprisingly he looked incredibly shocked as i walked away and said "fine ..you obviously dont care about me so fine i can play this game to ... its over" with this i walked away as far as i can get in the small space i was confined " i felt upset and really hard did i expect to much of him?? and is this normal i never felt this when i dumped a guy before !! like reall deep regret ?????i saw him before i took a taxi home he smiled at me n came over to talk to me i have never been so desperate to get a cab in my life!!he asked me if i meant what i said to him and i said "yes i meant it" and then i mean how dum can he be he asked "but why?" i told him to think about it and finally got a cab and went homw !! was that a fair thing to do or was it too harsh ?
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too harsh ?Too harsh? No! Anything less, and you would have been a doormat. You did the right thing.Don't let that piece of crap manipulate you. He cares how he feels; he doesn't give a damn about you. Be strong.
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execellent :grin: that's the best thing i've heard on here so far. he definately deserved it.
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eh, in my own views, was it too harsh?
He left you unprotected in a situation that demands any human should protect you as a matter of decency let alone someone who says they care about you. so no I dont think you were harsh enough but atleast you got your point across. Now jsut dont go back on your word, keep him out of your love life and find someone who treats you good, someone who cares about your welbeing and will help you when you need it instead of just when its safe for them to do so.
Iv ended up getting my ass beat to a pulp be 4 people once because they were messing with my g/f. If you care for someone you take the risks that make them feel safe.
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> Iv ended up getting my ass beat to a pulp be 4 people once because they were messing with my g/f.
Usually there are ways to deal with these situations without getting into fistfights. If you lived where I live, you would have been shot dead a long time ago.
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Most people that know me are suprised that Im still alive.
Your right I am very lucky I havent been killed.Im working at keeping that record of life going and putting an end to my stupid pride and need to get my ass kicked.
I think you should stand up for whats right no matter the cost, but Im trying to narrow down the severity of what gets my ass kicked to things that really matter instead of any excuse to get into it with someone.
The problem is that I cant seem to shut up even when I know I should and that whats about to happen because of my mouth is going to hurt I still keep talking.
Its less of a problem now, I hurt too much from old injurys and take to long to heal up after a fight.
I think its mostly an anger issue and a problem I have but Iv always stood up for what I belive in no matter the cost.
is it smart? not really its cost me a great deal of pain and money and some jail time and one job. It is how it is though and I dont relly know of any way for me to change it unless ya got a clue as to how I can go about rewiring my brain?or maybe what I need to do is wire my mouth shut? -
You did the right thing torie . I'm sorry it had to end that way though .
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I must admit these last days have been really bad and Thursday was the worst i thought about something i am trying to get away from!!i cant believe this is all happening and for some reason I still have that bad feeling of blame inside me !!yesterday {Friday} was most likely the worst day of them all I was not good company to anyone at all … I don’t think I have ever been so quiet !! like ever !! but I didn’t really feel like anything of anyone !! but as I know to well that is easier said than done !! I just cant believe my own stupidity to let the situation get this bad.Just wish this trip wasn’t so soon !! and wasn’t with some people I don’t really want to see !The climax to everything was Thurs night when we spoke on IM here are a few snippets of the conversation we had Him : heyMe : …..Him : i can't take this shit from you anymore... Its Over!Me : …….Him : Its fucking screwed up for both of us and this time their is no way a talk will cure this.Me : So you are so innocent in this !!Him : well more innocent than you as it appearsMe : You mean to tell me i went through hell with your best friend and you wouldn’t even stand up for me or help me through it !! That is not innocence its ignoranceHim : err...IMe : Save it !! You only see and hear what you want you cant see the bigger picture to see that … and this really proves it !! … as now you will have it your way thinking you have dumped me (because you are too naive to admit I finished it the other day) ! well if that is what you want take your glory.. be a man… I wont stop you now just take it and leave me aloneHim : .. save what!! ..i heard all the shit you gave me ..i didn’t need your problems as well as my own it is you who needs to see the bigger picture to see everything does not revolve around you and NEVER WILL !!! After this I had nothing more to day to him so I just blocked him I didn’t want/need to hear anymore. Is this denial I mean I ended it right clearly obviously their were no mistakes in what I said right !!When he told me this just well I really don’t know and so Friday I just sat almost silently and thought but the truth is .. I still don’t get it !! yesterday I was forced to the cinema with my friends K and M they paid for me and everything but I feel bad as I really was bad company. I got home late my mum was ok with it for a change and to be honest I am rather pleased as I don’t think I could have faced another argument or any dispute at all !! I called K and M today to apologise for yesterday they said it was fine but I don’t think it was so maybe sometime this week ill take them somewhere or something ..anything!!So yes … here I am I suppose by now things can only get better !! rite !! So thanks a lot for all the help and suport alll of you have given to me over the last few weeks i hope i have learnt something from this if nothing else !! i need to stand up for my self more!!