Breast real or fake?

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I am very skinny I weight like 103 lbs. I've tried gaining weight but nothing works. It's just the way I was built. Yes I breast feed my son, they srunk and they sag and wrost of all my nipples turned dark and big. So it looks like I have more nipple than breast and I'm only 21 I want to go out and wear low cut shirts but I can't it's embarrassing.

they were developing still. It sounds like you really have no reason to do this.

your right they probably were still growing I was 17 when I got pregnant but now I'm 21 they don't seem to be growing to me

your pregnancy probably disrupted htr growing, and hormones that were going twords that were going twords your baby.

i have never realy heard of a womans breasts shrinking after a babyThen you ain't been around, kid. You never know how things will settle out after pregnancy and childbirth.

:smile: so what do you suggest I do now? I'm only 21 and I'm use to showing off my nice body and everday I look in the mirror I get sad and angry because I think about what I had and how it's gone

get oooooooover it. for gods sake you have a kid, take care of it instead of trying to show off you body and worrying about your breasts (and getting uneeded surgery). I suggest you dont do anything

That's not an easy question to answer. Personally, I have never met a woman who wanted to get a breast augmentation where I thought it would be a good idea. And I think women who go from a modest size to a huge size are c-r-a-z-y! Other women get the idea that it's good because men tend to stare at them. Sometimes things get stared at because they're unusual or out of place.

Anyway, you have an idea how I feel...and I'm not kidding. But ultimately you have to live with yourself, and it's up to you. But you'd better think about it long and hard. A problem with breast implants in the U.S. is that only saline-filled bags are currently being used. They tend to be very hard, and can be really fake looking. A boob job that leaves your breasts looking like cut-in-half grapefruits is not good. Neither is an overinflated bag, where you can see the indetations of the bag's seam around the edge of the breast.

Silicone-filled bags are used in Europe, and will apparently be re-introduced into the U.S. It sounds kind of risky to me. I don't know if the liquid silicone that can leak into your body is really harmful or not, but I don't think I'd want to take a chance.

Finally, and very, very important, is that you find a good, board-certified plastic surgeon who's experienced in breast augmentation. You need him to show you a book of his work, and you need to get referrals to patients he's worked on. If you get a cheap job by someone who doesn't know what he's doing, it's going to look bad.

Good luck, whatever you decide. Just remember that this is something that requires a lot of thought.

wow... ok well now... im totaly against it... i agree with java... u got pregnant... u have a kid... its ur job and responsibility to take care of that kid and not go off looking around and sleeping around... if ur looking for a husband now... WHICH U SHOULD BE... he shouldent give 2 shits in a handbag about ur chest... if he realy loves u... so deal with the fact u got knocked up at 17 and fed up ur body... and move on... dont deprive ur child of the 10k that it would cost to get his mommy some nice perky tits... its just selfish now... (sorry for being mean... but after i read that last post of hers... i got infuriated...)

Oh no, im glad you said it. Sometimes i worry im being to mean, but for gods sake...

the 17 year old without a rudeness filter is always there to fuck someone in the ass when they need it...

if ur looking for a husband now... WHICH U SHOULD BE...Dude, that is none of your business. You are a 17-year-old retard.> its just selfish now...Who the f*ck are you to decide that? You are definitely out of your depth. I recommend shutting up now.The lives of grownups is just not that simple. Learn a little bit before blurting.

wow... ok well now... im totaly against it... i agree with java... u got pregnant... u have a kid... its ur job and responsibility to take care of that kid and not go off looking around and sleeping around... if ur looking for a husband now... WHICH U SHOULD BE... he shouldent give 2 shits in a handbag about ur chest... if he realy loves u... so deal with the fact u got knocked up at 17 and fed up ur body... and move on... dont deprive ur child of the 10k that it would cost to get his mommy some nice perky tits... its just selfish now... (sorry for being mean... but after i read that last post of hers... i got infuriated...) when i read that, i just thought asshole, you probably have no fucking clue, so don't judge

its selfish because she would be depriving her child... a single parent most likely doesent make enough money to support her and her child and have another huge bill for plastic surgery (which is not coverd by insurance...) when u have a baby... that baby comes first not ur chest so u can go out and pick up guys...

and to the comment about the husband... yes at 21 with a child u shouldent be out sleeping around... and potentialy setting urself up for a 2nd child... bad idea bad parenting and whats going to happen to little jimmys since of right and wrong when his mommy brings home new guys every night? huh? hes going to be like DADDY!... wait no... DADDY... nope wrong again... DADDY.. or for the love of christ just marry one of them!... im a big supporter of having sex if u want... but when u messup and dont protect that sex and have a child... well u just messed up... and the punishment is not to have that free sex right... u take care of that kid till ur blue in the face... ur breasts should be the least of ur concern... grab a pushup bra and go feed ur kid...

and i am 17 and have lived threw alot of things with my parents... a divorce that cost me my mother... a remarraige that cost me my father... i know alot about these family problems and i know that if shes not there 100% for her child then shes a unfit parent... parenting is the hardest thing in the world to do and if u aint in it for the goal then u shouldent of got in the arena...

*cheers* thankie for the back up hels... i have come to find that being gentil and laying it down soft doesent work as well as throwing the cold hard facts into someones face and saying deal with it...

so what do you suggest I do now? I'm only 21 and I'm use to showing off my nice body and everday I look in the mirror I get sad and angry because I think about what I had and how it's gone You may only be 21 but you're also a mother, you shouldn't be so worried about the size and shape of your breast or showing off your "nice" body, you should be worried about your child. Instead of worrying yourself with catching the attention of someone else with low cut tops, spend a little more time worrying about your child. You may be young but you have responsibilities you need to take care of, it's no longer just about you, it's about "both" your child and yourself. Instead of wasting all that money on cosmetic surgery, get out and buy a push up bra, they do wonders.

its selfish because she would be depriving her child...You're making assumptions about her finances.> a single parent most likely doesent make enough money to support her and her child and...You're making assumptions about her finances.> and to the comment about the husband... yes at 21 with a child u shouldent be out sleeping around...One issue that people have with these forums is that they ask a simple question (e.g., "Do you think I may be pregnant?"), and they get an evaluation of their life, their values, and their morality. The get yelled at, and their question gets disregarded.> and potentialy setting urself up for a 2nd child...Most women of child-bearing age are "setting themselves up" for a pregnancy every time they have sex. Why is this situation different?> bad idea bad parenting and whats going to happen to little jimmys since of right and wrong when his mommy brings home new guys every night?I appreciate that you may have had a difficult situation in your life, but you have no right to project that kind of thing onto someone you don't even know.> just marry one of them!Huh?> the punishment is not to have that free sex rightI see. Punishment is involved.> u take care of that kid till ur blue in the face... ur breasts should be the least of ur concern... grab a pushup bra and go feed ur kid...If she has no money, I agree. But you're making assumptions about her finances.> i know alot about these family problems and i know that if shes not there 100% for her child then shes a unfit parent...Look, the most important thing in the world to a parent should be their child. But it doesn't mean that a parent loses their identity as an individual, or that their life ends. There has to be some kind of balance.

You're making assumptions about her finances.and i think im pretty well setup to make assumptions because MOST single parents struggle so on that point i could be wrong but the figures are on my side...> One issue that people have with these forums is that they ask a simple question (e.g., "Do you think I may be pregnant?"), and they get an evaluation of their life, their values, and their morality. The get yelled at, and their question gets disregarded.When u post here... and devulge that ur a 21 year old that has a kid and Fed up ur boobies and want to go out and party and show off... then im going to question every moral and value that woman has>Most women of child-bearing age are "setting themselves up" for a pregnancy every time they have sex. Why is this situation different?well we already got to this point... and well shes complaining about it... why does she want to get back out there and sleep around AGAIN!>I appreciate that you may have had a difficult situation in your life, but you have no right to project that kind of thing onto someone you don't even know.i project because she asked my opinion on what to do... this is part of what she should do... so there...>> just marry one of them!Huh? this was a quess at something little jimmy might say >I see. Punishment is involved.yup... theres consiquences for every action... >> u take care of that kid till ur blue in the face... ur breasts should be the least of ur concern... grab a pushup bra and go feed ur kid...If she has no money, I agree. But you're making assumptions about her finances.im not even talking about money here... im saying that her child deserves 100% of her attention not some other guys googiling her perfect boobies>Look, the most important thing in the world to a parent should be their child. But it doesn't mean that a parent loses their identity as an individual, or that their life ends. There has to be some kind of balance.no theres no balance u took on the chalenge of rasing a child... wanting to or not... its ur chalenge in life... life is no longer ur own... but its ur childs and well... untill ur childs old enough to take care of themselves... ur live consists of what they need...

> im not even talking about money here... im saying that her child deserves 100% of her attention

That's freakin' insane. When you have a child, your life as an individual isn't over for the next 20 years. A child should be a parent's highest priority, but anyone who's focused 100% on their child will eventually kill somebody. It's not healthy for the parent or the child.

Believe it or not, the best parents put their kids first, but they don't neglect their own needs. (That's true for all caretakers.)

> no theres no balance u took on the chalenge of rasing a child...

This is your youthful idealism speaking. It's wrong, and it's not mentally healthy. It's not how the real world works (thankfully). A child is not a ball and chain. A single mother doesn't automatically need to be punished. Things (other than finances, for Christ's sake!) are already hard enough for a single parent.

You can't always project your own personal situation onto another person who superficially reminds you of your family.

I'm not going to get into the dramatics like the rest have..I would suggest waiting until you have gained some weight. 103 seems anorexic to me. I know my wife lost a lot of weight after birth and nursing. Yes nursing will "deflate" the breasts. One of the first things to go when losing weight is the breast fat. Maybe when you gain some weight you will regain some breast volume. Do what you want after that.