Is This Wierd?

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I just got in fight with my co-worker about how my wife and I conduct our married lives. Not that I give a shit what anyone thinks, especially my co-worker, but it got me wondering.Is this a fucked up situation for a married couple? After being married 10 years we've;- never had a joint checking account- never had a joint credit card- never owned a car together- never really bought anything as a couple- her shit is her shit, my shit is my shit- her name is the only name on her car title, my name is the only name on all my cars- her furniture is her furniture, mine is mine- both our names are on the house but it's her house and we both know that- if one of us wants to buy something like a car, furniture or land we don't have to check with other to see if they approve or even if they like it- if she wants to go someplace she goes, if I wanna go someplace I go. We don't have to have the other. Though we generally go places together.It's like what's hers is hers and what's mine is mine and never the twain shall meet.I don't have a problem with it she doesn't have a problem with it so it's not like were looking to change shit. I'm just curious.

Seems alright in my opinion. I think a lasting relationship is all about what works for you and your partner. You have found that and as long as you two are happy who is to say anything? Kudos on making it work.

Hey Walken nice to hear from you.That's my thought. I was just wondering if it's odd. We've had more than one person tell either of us they don't understand why we even bother being married.

Man. Do people seriously tell you that? What, did they think marriage is all about sharing bank accounts and cars and stuff? That's ridiculous. If the love is there, it doesn't matter that you and your wife don't share those material objects. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't stay as two independent people, too.Seriously, why would anybody even say that?

Of course it is odd, but it works, so who cares.

Eh, it's odd, but who cares? It works right? To each his own. It's no one else's business. Next time your co-worker says something just tell him bugger off.Actually, I kind of like that idea. Might be something to try. Keeping everything separate.

Scotty,I agree with Misty....Tell me.... Where is the rule book for marriage? If it works for you guys, than there's nothing wired about it. What happens in your marrage is non of your co-workers busniess. What the fuck you do, in your marriage, is between you and your partner. NOT your co-worker!We share everything in ours, but that works for us!

You all know me, I wouldn't care if there was rule book. It's not like I would follow it anyway. I was just wondering if our arrangement really was something that odd.

I think I hear an echo..

Amen!

I agree with Roc. It's not the most usual way of doing it but I'm sure you're far from alone, and if it works for you and your wife it's no-one else's business.

LOL

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Is This Wierd? it's not about how ur wife and you do things. wuts weird is your nosey coworker up in you and your wife's business........that's wired.

IF shit works that way for you and yours, fuck what anyone else thinks.

after reading all the posts... i dont really agree with every1 a hundred percent... well i kinda do, i mean whatever works for you, go head on... but i think that in the next 10-20-30 years, the relationship might turn sour...

what if your wife finds someone else she loves and who gives her attention and etc. she's going to realize that you guys arent really married, juss living with each other, and its so easy to leave someone when you dont spend every minute you have together...

well w.e. it still comes down to whatever works for you, i guess relationships are like raising kids, every1 has there own way of doing it... i guess i juss prefer the older times...

good day.

Well, they are planning it well if it indeed does turn sour. No need to argue over who's getting what.

Our lack a financial entanglements has nothing to do with our abundant emotional entanglement. It's just a different arrangement to the business side of marriage. It has nothing to do with our commitment to each other as spouse. I was just a little surprised that we seem to be in such a minority of people on this subject. Oh well, there's a lot shit that surprises me.

Fuck people, me and Julie have separate bank accounts, but have atm cards to each others accounts, we dont worry about who spends what.If not for the fact that addoption shit is made easier by marriage we may never get married, we know we are in love and plan to stay with each other, a piece of paper doesnt change shit, its an emotional bond, and for legal purposes for taxes, and thats shit, marriage has always been a business proposal, thats why the state is involved.her name is on the van, mine on the truck, insurance carries both names. we bought shit together,m and shit before we got together, its all our shit, no paper changes what we think of it.the other advantage to marriage is that it gets rid of that last name she currently has, the last mark to be removed from her fuckwad of an x.If the two of you are good with how it is who gives a rats ass what anyone else thinks?

>>>"we bought shit together,m and shit before we got together, its all our shit, no paper changes what we think of it."

Oh God!!!.... I read that three time as, "we both shit together,m and shit before we got together, its all our shit, no paper changes what we think of it."

I was thinking, great for you but that's more information than I want to know. Both of you shitting together give that sentence a whole different warped slant. :grin:

Also, I'm glad to see that SlingBlade is back, mmmmmm.

I honestly believe that if you shit together....the marriage is over.