Accepting sexual past

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hi! Im a 15 year old straight male and im dating a 13 year old female right now... i lost my virginity to her.. but she has had sex with 2 different people before me (she was 13 and one was in a realtionship and one was just for fun with some guy, i guess she was reall horny).. well weve been going out for 3 months... and we both really like eachother... but i just cant get over he sexual past, i really want to but im not really sure how... its hard to think of her having sex with other guys especially since shes my first sexual partner... I just want to know how i can be more forgiving and not bothered by her past sexual experiences (she regrets the experiences for the most part from what i can see).. any help would be appricieted, i want this to stop bothering me, thanks.

I've never been in that situation, but I occasionally think of stuff like that. I honestly can't give you the best advice, but maybe you can lok at it like she was warming up for you if she really is as serious about you as you are with her. And plus, she's with you now, where are those guys? She dumped their asses (except the fun one). Plus, you can ask her who was the best Seriously though, just follow that, and spend some time with her, eventually, no matter how much you think about it, time will smooth it over. Plus, don't look at her as a sexual object (not saying you are, just saying incase you do and it triggers something), instead, lookat her as being eachothers first one you really care for. That's the best this dud who hasn't had a girlfriend ever since he was 10 can offer.

**where ever you live you are breaking the law if you have sex together.
I can't beleive that a 13 year old had sex, and one time just for fun......what the hell is wrong with young people these days!!!!!!!

As for forgetting all about her past, to be honest usually i would have said, forget it, and ask how you would feel if it were you with the past, and she was holding it over you...........however, if she is likely to have sex for fun at her age, to be honest, her past would be a problem for me too. **

handcuffs Helms to the bedpost and gags him Helping????

**well id be totally up for a demo if you would hon *grin*

and i know what you mean about holding your tongue, i wanted to say soooooo much, but i have been accused of being mean lately so i shut up LOL **

Ok helms im back to say what you cant say. Hehem pauses to clear throatWhat the hell is wrong with you?!?!?! (to original poster) Do you kids nowadays have any respect for yourselves at all?! 15 and 13 and you are having sex. not to mention the 13 year old you are dating is a SLUT. 13 and she has had 3 sexual partners?! wtf is wrong with this world!!! I just...wow i dont even know what more to say i am just so pissed at this post. tell your "gf" aka hooker, to close her legs for once and act like a normal 13 year old. And you.....why the hell do you need to have sex at 15 years old, u cant even drive by yourself yet. You are a complete disgrace to the human race and are a prime example of why this world is going to the shitter. ATA7 HAS SPOKEN!

no problemo. im always here to speak for others, and myself of course.

can you speak for me too hon,, DON'T forget to flirt, its what i do.........

ill keep that in mind for next time. For helms ill speak like myself, and for u ill make a second paragraph flirting

You don't think a 13 year old girl who's had sex with 3 different guys should send up a red flag?!? Hell, your horizon should be covered with red flags. And you're only adding to the problem. How can you let yourself have sex with a 13-year old girl and then get upset that others have done so? If you and she are not capable of dealing with the emotional and social consequences of having sex, you're certainly not old enough to be doing it.

Thanks to KindaSmall for actually answering my question and not criticizing me.. anyway.. i worked things out.. and talked to my gf.. and kinda small is absolutely right.. she obviously didnt like those guys.. and shes with me now clearly showing she likes me.. and she tells me she hasnt felt that way with anyone beofre... she told me she wants to forget about the past completely cuz it wasnt fun or anything special... why should i even think about her past if everything that happened means nothing..and you idiots looking at the legality of something... do you critisize the people on the drug addiction part of the forum cuz the drugs theyre addicted to arent legal? fucking idiots...

In reply to: do you critisize the people on the drug addiction part of the forum cuz the drugs theyre addicted to arent legal? Yes we do, because u answered it urself, they are illegal, dumbass. And i didnt say nething about legality. I just said you were to young, as in morality, not legality. But what was i thinking, the youth these days is all fucked up. Especially when u got morans like you representing them. And i still stand by my word, ur gf is a little slut. Shes 13 and has had 3 sexual partners, if that isnt a sign to drop her, like damien said, then i dont know what is. Yet another reason why ur a moran. But hey good luck with ur drivers ed course, let me know how your life turns out when u have a kid before you get ur license......loser

I don't get why you'd have to mention that you're straigt. Is that necessary. But anyway you shouldn't be doing what you're doing. Too young. People... kids like you make me feel so outdated. Having sex before you hit puberty must be the new in. Forgetting about your gf's past will be kind of hard. Especially at such a young age because you'll have the rest of your life to worry about it. Is she going to be the one you stay with for so long? Do you guys plan on marrying? If not then why should you worry about her past? Don't worry about it. If you do then it's something you'll have to deal with it because it was your choice. No biggie. You weren't really looking for someone with a clean past because you did it anyway. Just relax and try to ignore it. It shouldn't be that bad.

I am going to take a very different line to the one expressed by most posters in this thread.What help are we to any poster if we call his girlfriend a slut? It's a grossly offensive thing to say, and no decent guy would accept it. We know nothing about the circumstances of the earlier sexual encounters, which may have been forced for all we know. Even if they weren't, what do you expect to happen to the girl? Is any girl who has a couple of sexual experiences at 13 to be considered as ruined for life, no longer suitable for any high-minded guy except, perhaps, in a brothel? I'd have hoped such attitudes would have been thrown out 100 years ago.It is reasonable to give an opinion that sex in this case is too soon; though it seems in this situation rather too late to be useful. No-one should feel obliged to encourage what they feel should not be encouraged. But to throw out abuse for the sake of feeling morally smug for having done so is something that sickens me.

Damien, I was trying to say what Ineligible said, except in a less articulate way.

What? Where? This is the first time you've posted on this thread.

Same subject (tolerance of seemingly disagreeable first posts, and making judgements about them), different thread.

Sorry dude, I couldn't let a crap post like that sit. If you wish to pick fights and flame people, do it privately through PM.

Rolling eyes!Okay!

rolls eyes back to Roc you might need these hon