I haven't been on this board in a while. I thought all my problems were solved. I had met a girl about a year ago. I was in a relationship of over a year with another different girl. The new girl and i would talk to much. One day i came home from the store with a box of skittles gum and i thought they were awesome. I told her about this gum and jokingly said the green ones are so good, if you ever get them and dont like the green ones, send me them. It was that sentance that changed my life forever. About a week after that i recieved an envelope in the mail. It was from her. I didnt know it at first. I opened it and found a box of skittles gum opened. I was confused. As i proceeded to open the box not knowing what to expect i found a full box of all green ones. Right then i knew i loved her. Everything was so perfect. Almost magical. People saw it as a fairy tale romance, i truely believed it was. One night i decided to break off my relationship of over a year to focus on the girl i truely loved. So one night invited her to a local show and at the end of the night the place emptied. Me and her stood there looking at eachother not wanting to part for the night. I took my chance and kissed her awkwardly on the corner of her mouth. She smiled and said goodbye. I never felt anything like that in my life. It was the purest thing left on earth it was love. We kept talking eventually i hung out with her at her friends house. At one point she had to use the bathroom in the basement. It was very dark. She went in and i formed a plan to scare her. I waited in the dark outside of the bathroom. When she opened the door i made slight noises and she started to freak. Then i jumped out and she fell to the floor screaming. Well i proceeded to pick her up and tell her everything is alright and we should go back out to everyone. I grabbed the doorknob and turned. It fell off. I swear it was fate. As i turned to her she said she was scared and i hugged her, i didn't let go. When i went to attempt the door again she began kissing me. I was in star struck. It was so dark all i saw was the outline of her beautiful head and i just felt so amazing. I felt like i could do anything. After that kiss, the door handle fit back into the door and we exited. Went upstairs and kissed more. As we kept talking, still single, i would draw her paint drawings, i drew things like us together, her horse, skittles gum boxes, and random funny things. She loved them. One day i just admitted i loved her and she told me she did too. It was great. After a while her and her friends came over my house, when the night was closing i gave her a box of skittles gum. Inside it had a paper. It was a paint drawing of me and her in a huge heart and it had all green skittles around it. It said will you go out with me. She began to get teary eyed and said yes. Another great day in my life. Our relationship began and things began to get rough. I constantly complained how her horse shows took so much time and i never saw her. I was so stupid. I would complain that her going to her barn everyday after school limited our time. I complained about her going to her friends and not coming to see me. We eventually lost our virginity to eachother and that was the most loving thing i ever felt. We didnt fuck or have sex we made love and the atmosphere was great. I would do small things with her to make her happy and they did. But i was such a scum bag throughout it all. I got mad at her for dumb reasons, lashed out about things from her past, when i should have never. She always gave me another chance but i even took those for granted. One day she finally let me go. It was a few days ago the 31st. She told me the hurt out weighed the love and she could not do it anymore. I begged for her to take me back i begged cried and sobbed. I havent eaten since then and i am so sluggish. I have no appetite. I did something stupid i started carving her name into my arm and i regret it. I woke up the other day a changed person. Looking back none of my bullshit was necessary. I should have looked into my heart and embraced her with everything she had done. I should have done so much more to keep her in my arms. Her friends can even see im being true this time but she has up a wall. All i can do is wait because i feel like this is my last chance and i need to fight for her. I cant give up yet. If she took me back i would be so much to her i would do all the things i should have done in the past. I need to prove to her i can do it. She wont listen she just wants to be my friend and i cant be friends with the girl who was put here for me to love. Its impossible. I am reaching out today for any advice at all on what i could do to win my love back. Anyone who has taken the time to read this and knows what i can do plase help, i need this girl like i need oxygen.
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She left me after six months. I need her back.
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All i can say hon, is however hard it is, give her a little time and space.............think about what you are going to say to her, maybe put it in a letter, admit you have been an asshole and hope she can forgive you for it........you never know she might give you another chance, and if she does don't blow it! Good luck
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I was gunna post something different but im with angel on this 1.
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Ive cried and sobbed so much to her ive tried so hard its been 3 days im losing all my energy i dont know what i can do. Are girls like this? Do they put up a wall only to take it down when its too late? I am losing myself i need help i need her.I cant sob to her anymore i feel like im making it worse. But not talking to her makes me feel like shit because she hasnt made an attempt to want to try this again. How much time is too much?
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Thats some romantic stuff... I kind of understand you because I just went through similar problems with my ex, except it ended up worse for me than i think it did for you, she started going out with my "friend". I dont know if girls do that because they get really annoyed by guys being controlling and demanding and lose that initial attraction towards the guys or because they first lose that attraction/find someone else, and then use that as a reason to leave the guy. In your case, it seems to be the first one. Honestly, i think that if a girl really wants to be with you, she will accept almost anything, or at least will try to solve things out. First of all, don't act like a wuss, dont sob in front of her, dont beg, because that is only going to make things worse. Girls dont like insecure and soft guys. (im not saying u r, its hard to control urself) If you speak to her like a man, without being emotional and she still does not decide to get back with you, then in my opinion, you should simply leave her alone for some time. Tell her that you've tried and its her choice now to decide. Just dont talk to her for some time. See what happens. If she really loves you, or at least likes you, then she will probably start talking to you and will give you another chance, UNLESS she found someone else in which case, there isnt much you can do.
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just a word of warning, STOP it with the not eating, and feeling sorry for yourself. Girls don't like it when a man sobs all over them all the time. I know you feel bad, but not eating will make you feel shit, and make you look like shit, so when you do see her, she will be thinking "damn he looks like a corpse" and thats sooo not attractive I think what makes this worse is that you know it was your fault, and that you could kick yourself, this is a real learning experience hon, the fact is you can't treat people how you want without any thought for them, as there are consequences, which i guess you are now getting.If you are in a state like this, then a letter would be so much better than a phone call, or face to face, you would probably just break down and thats not good. As for the wall, yes, i had one for years. When someone you love hurts you, it hurts deeper than anything else, and it makes you question yourself, so once thats happened its very common to distance yourself from the problem (you) it makes all the feelings easier to deal with. Saying that the wall isn't going to be there forever, hopefully, and your so not gonna get over that wall in the state your in now.
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Man i think we are the same person. I did the same thing to my girlfriend. I have a medical reason for it. I am 19 years old and still going through purbery. I am makin more testosterone then normal. So i am mad at the world and i took it out on my love. She left me a month ago and we havent really talked since then. I am going to talk to her this sunday. Give it some time then talk to her. Make note cards so you tell her everything that you wont to say. Do not fucken lie. Woman are like sharks when it comes to her man lieing. Sharks can smell blood like no other and woman can smell a lie like no other. Dont cry. Eat man, and work out, working out makes men feel good becuase it relases a lot of the stress and testosterones we have. Look your best when you talk to her. I know it is hard. Talk to other girls that are friends. Dont go out with any just talk to them. talk to them about it. It will help. I have been talking to frineds in this last month that i havent talked to in like 3 or more years. It helps a lot. I hope this helps man. Good luck. If she doesnt take you back, there are more fish in the sea. How old are you?
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I'll be 16 in two months. Okay I guess i'll update here. Well i ended up not talking to her for a week. Her mother called me and thought i should stop over and just appear in front of her. Her mom wanted us back together very bad. Well i did that, i brought roses, a screap book she gave me about a year ago, and other memorable and important items. She just was like oh god got teary eyed and what not. Then she hugged me and told me to sit on her bed. She was on the computer chair. She hugged me again knocking me back onto the bed. Kissed for a bit. Just layed there smiling and teary eyed and shit. Then about after an hour I said well the show is tonight.(local bands) She said okay you can go, so i said okay. Then she said but you can stay too. so i said okay ill stay, then she said no maybe you should go to the show. Ugh. I said okay lol. Then after all that she says, but im sorry, i just dont like you. Yeah talk about a punch in the face. A pain worse than anything physical. I sorta just left her house feeling fucking stupid. My dad said it wouldnt have worked. I should have believed him. Well I get to the show. Her friends are there, 2 girls(they also helped me throughout this) and 2 boys(have been my friends for over a year) Well they were cool the whole night and whatever, felt bad for me and shit. Well i get home, and i find out that 2 minutes before i greeted them, the boys spoke of jumping me. FUCK. Believe that? Like.. HOW FUCKING FAKE ARE YOU. God i was so pissed. So since then i hear shes been messing around, even with a 20 year old. Keep in mind we are both about 16. Yeah it breaks my heart fucking over and over again. Nothing has gone good for me since the break up and it is seriously bothering me. As much as i hate her i still miss her and i dont want her to become a fucking whore. I need help.
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I'm sorry, it's over and there's no point pursuing it. Get on with life; gradually the pain will recede, and eventually you'll find someone who will make you forget all about her.
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I suppose a follow up, even if it is a long late follow up, could be told. Well i never fully healed, i havent been in a relationship since her but ive hooked up with many girls and i regret that and ive been on a downward spiral with drugs and alcohol. The lump on my testicle is one more worry (which im getting checked out, thx ppl in the male genitalia thread ) But despite all the bad ive begun talking to her and even though i feel some sort of tension between her and i, im happier with her in my life as a friend then not in my life at all. Thanks guys.