Girl stopping the guy when it feels good??

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the last 2 girls that i've been sexual with, they both have acted in a strange way.when i've fingered them, they have become all excited, enjoyed it all, then have said "it feels too good" or similar, and pull my hand away.both had said they had never had an orgasm. i'm not too sure what i'm meant to do. is this really a common thing??i mean, i've only ever been with 2 girls like that, and both have acted the same. actually the first girl, i knew she hadnt had an orgasm before we did anything, but when i did finger her, she seemed to be really into it, -so much so that i thought i had given the pleasure of her first orgasm. but apparntly i was wrong. she said i was a natural at it, -so i don't think i'm doing something wrong on my behalf.anyhow the girl i'm with now just breathes deeply but stops me after a few minutes. she has ample lubrication. i have even asked her "whats wrong" "what am i doing wrong" etc but i get NOTHING out of her, -she is very shy. that's why i'm on here, to see if any other girls know what could possibly be going on??

Hmm..are you rubbing directly on her clit? I can't take that for very long, there is just too much stimulation and I just don't like it for long... I might still be into the whole thing, but I just normally move his hand to somewhere more preferable.

hrmm ok.well the first girl was like "dont bother putting your hand anywhere else, it does nothing for me. just rub my clit" but would stop me.i guess i could try something else with my current gf, but it's very annoying that she won't move my hand where she would want it, won't direct me, nor have the courage to even talk to me about it. thanks for your input

maybe shes just not ready to go sexual?

Yeah, I did think of that.. cool, have you talked about sexual things at all? She may not feel able/comfortable in saying that she doesn't want to do them.. maybe you should ask her?

it's very hard to talk to her about anything like that because she is shy about them. i don't know what she has done with other people in the past etc.but i do know that the other girl i was with was happily having sex with others when she was stopping me when fingering, -because it "feels too good" or something (im sure she did this with every guy). and as she wasn't as shy as my gf, i was able to ask her how she wanted it, and that's how i 'gave it' to her. so i don't think it was me stimulating her the wrong way, and she was quite sexual with quite a few guys before me.but that's the prior girl. you may be right with my gf. if she isn't ready, then i really don't mind. but she never stops me at the start of things, and she's even gone and grabbed me to initiate things. just a mystery

Hmm its a shame you can't talk to her about it, find out what she wants

i would stop things sexually at the moment, get to know her more, you need to be able to talk before you get so intimate, shes probably not comfortable at the moment, just give it time.

i also thought that. i spoke to her about it and she said it wasn't. but she still wouldn't say why. there are a few things about this girl that she shys away from, trying not to make an issue of, saying "oh its nothing, don't worry about it" yet it only makes me more intrigued. i mean a simple thing like she can't stand to be lifted off the ground by someone, -i don't know why and she totally will not tell me. that's a lot easier question to put on her rathre than anything sexual.i initially started this thread to see if there was a common thing with women like this. i guess there isn't so the only thing i can do is wait until my gf actually tells me.the last gf never had a problem talking to me about anything, -she just said it feels really intense and good but she just has to stop it. women are such a mystery to me!

I think I have a similair situation with my girlfriend... this is the first girlfriend i've been sexually active with so I don't have a lot of experience with this kind of thing, but basically, when fingering her it usually tends to be a down the front of her jeans/skirt (lol, whatever shes wearing, but thats really irrelevant!). Anyways, I kinda start at the closest point then work down the way, but when I go down a bit further with my hand she kinda tenses up (out of pleasure it seems?) then grabs my hand and either removes it from her "area" or moves it up a bit.I believe this is a kinda similair situation? I just do what she wants though really!

im not too sure what youre saying..but maybe shes moving your hand towards her clitoris-have you found her clit?

yeah sounds like she is guiding you?were you going into her vagina just before she moves you away? maybe if she is a virgin you might have been pushing on her hymen, in which she might tense up with pain. moving your hand back upwards to her clit would feel a lot better...

That sounds like it could be it actually, I didn't really think I was applying any kind of strong pressure or anything though. But, yeah, thanks.