Ok there there is this hottie at my work. I though she was super hot before I got my job here when I first saw her a couple of months back. Now dont get me wrong I didnt get this job because I wanted to try to get closer to her and stuff...it just happened to fall in my lap at the right time and I ended up getting to know the head manager after a few walk-ins. In any case, as it turns out...Im 23....and unfortunately for me I found out shes 17. I still find her super attractive though and we do tend to hold some interesting conversations here and there. To go along with that, Ive never gotten the vibe that I was talking to some immature 17 year old when Im around her. Regardless, I still didnt allow myself to think anymore of it until today when the pharmones that she was giving off just totally attacked me. She has this rosey shampooy smell coming off her ever time her hair fluttered and when I got whif of it....it was like a cartoon where you see this hand made up of some smell givng you the come here motion with its index finger so that you go towards the person that has this sexy scent coming off them. At this point Im almost sure she doesnt have a boyfriend. Were allowed to talk on our cell phones at work and when we work together there is only of two of us. All Ive heard was her mom call and girlfriends and no guy ever comes in to see her so I think its safe to to assume that shes single. One thing I dont know fore sure is if shes interested in me. Its like Im the manager and sometimes when its slow the head manager tells me that if its not busy send her home. However, I could keep her there without them snapping on me...so what I tell her sometimes you can stay if you want to make some money since you only work one day a week. Shes always choosen to leave out of the three or so times Ive asked her. So yea dont know if Im thinking way to much into that. I mean maybe she just see me as this 23 year old that is out of her league so no thoughts enter her head about looking to see if something more exists.So basically heres where the problems lies...Im her boss and we work together, so if shes doesnt turn to out to be interested, I dont want things to become ackward. Plus Im also her boss, so thats obviously a problem if anyone found out anything. Then of course, she is also 17...enough said there. So whats your opinion and do you have any tips on how to go about breaking the ice in terms of switching gears from normal typical conversation....to hey wanna hang out sometime conversation.Any help or opinions would be great. Thanks.Tim P.S. Its been a while, I miss you all =)
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Question to the girls...but guys are welcome too
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Im also her boss, so thats obviously a problem if anyone found out anything.This is wrong, wrong, wrong, even if no one else knows. You can't have a relationship, or even sexually harass, a subordinate. If she complains, you and your company will be in a world of shit. Just don't do it.If you like her that much, quit your job and then ask her out.
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But theres a way to do it right and then theres a way to do it wrong....I mean Im not some creep-o that would sound like Im sexual harrassing her and shes not the type of girl to lie and say that I am. Heres what it comes down to....I NEED the job and WANT the girl. Obviously the need part comes first, but like anyone else I want my cake and be able to eat it at the same time. SO whats a guy suppose to? )=
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Its illegal
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Ask you would say lol...Dont tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon :P Its technically legal...but somewhat wrong in my heart )=
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Go for it .. but you have the possibility of losing your job
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Yea...thats true...there always seems to be drama in the end. However, its not like I work with her much...only like a day a week. So really its not like really working with her as you might think it to be compared to if I saw here 5 days a week 8 hrs a day. Plus even when I do see her on my shift...its only for like 4-5 hrs usually. But I hear yea...theres a good chance things could turn sour....at that point though, then Id be willing to look for a different job. See really seems worth, believe it or not. And trust Ive see how the shit hits the fan with other friends that have dates fellow employees and it can get awfully nasty at times, but I still think shes got a lot about her that I like and find appealing/attractive in many senses. So yea Ive though it through for like 3 months now and think I ought to just go for it.
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Dont.. you can lose your job..
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If she were your peer, it would probably not be a problem. If it didn't work out and you couldn't stand working together any more, one of you could leave. But what you want to do is illegal, can screw up a lot of people as well as your employer, and is just wrong. You don't fool around with someone who is your subordinate. End of story. It's mot cool to be hit on by a superior.You don't have a relationship with a child, even if she seems willing, for the same reason.
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Well I slept on it and the thing that I guess bothers me most is that Im her higher up. I remembered back in the day when I worked at a theater and there was this one manager who was totally trying to pick up this one girl that worked there. We all found it to be a little creepy and odd, but then again he was like 28 and she was 17...so that was pretty screwed up right there in itself. Funny thing was she ended up dating another manager that was 22. But yea I wouldnt give her an special treatment by any means. However, what I guess troubles me is that Im her manager and with that said I dont want her to feel as though if she pissed me off one day or did something stupid outside of work that Id treat her like garbage at work. Its like seriously, I am totally the type that would be able to throw it out when it came to being at work. Whether she would or not, that would be another story. Regardless though Id still treat her with the same respect. So thats my rant I guess.
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You get it a little, but I don't think you really understand why legislators went through all the trouble to make it illegal.What if she's not interested in you, but feels an obligation to mess with you because she needs to keep her job?What if you do go out, but things go badly? What kind of treatment can she expect?What if you do go out, and her colleagues find out? Don't you think they'll think that she's getting special treatment, and resent you and the company for it? And how can you guarantee that she won't get special treatment?Don't you think your superiors will be pissed if they find out about your (attempted or actual) relationship, because of the legal and financial jeopardy you're putting them and the company in?Don't you get it? It's not all about you. If you were to get anything going, you'd have to leave your position.
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It doesnt matter how you treat her..It is ILLEGAL
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What if she's not interested in you, but feels an obligation to mess with you because she needs to keep her job?That would totally kill me. That is what I would never want to ever happen. It would make me feel so horrible if I knew, that not only would I not want to work there anymore, I wouldnt want to ever see the girl again out of shame.>>>>>What if you do go out, but things go badly? What kind of treatment can she expect?I told you there would be no change. I know that much.....Ill finish the rest later
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> That is what I would never want to ever happen.
You can't know for certain that it's not happening. Worse yet, a 17-year-old is more vulnerable than an adult would be.
> I told you there would be no change. I know that much.
You can't "know" that. Do you think you're some new species of human with superpowers?
Just don't do it. Your employer is remiss for not having given you proper training in this area. You have no clue, and you have no idea what kind of shit you can get your company into.