Usually I don't ask people about my problems, I sort of take pleasure in figuring them out but lately I'm having the hardest time with this one. Five months have gone where I have had some emotional pains in my chest sometimes I'll just stare and try to forget. Forget her face. Five months ago she struck me when I was sitting alone sort of waiting for school to start and she came in and sat across from me sure we said a couple of words to rid that awkwardness but then on I did not say a word an neither did she. Later I found out she’s in one of my classes and again she sits next to me, we said our hellos and talk about school. In class we had to do a project and she asked me to be partners I said sure. From the way she spoke there was a certain maturity I like to find in women my age (It’s sometimes rare). She also has a sort of confidence in her point of views but not so much to where she can change whenever or I can just say she’s open-minded. Through my eyes she has the perfect resume for being the perfect girl for me, an open and strong personality and looks, well I’m not going to go in to mile long detail but to me she looks perfect. My problem is that I can’t bring myself telling her I like her, I would like to hang out sometime (you knew this was coming) I know I should but in school when you can hear other people’s voice in the background when is it ever a good time. There’s another problem to this, around here there isn’t very many place to go and hang out in less a nice mini mall but no, I also don’t have very much money. I guess what I’m trying to ask if there is a way I can get rid of this black hole in my stomach before it kills me. I have had some bad relationships in the past and that they still hunt me everyday.
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Theres this Girl
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Firstly, how old are you? Age can be an indicator of how to deal with the situation as older, more mature/experianced people would not outright say they 'like' someone as it can be awkward and is far from ideal way of getting the message.ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.Think about it...if you tell her you think shes beautiful and she is your telling her something she already knows and hears from loadsa different guys, most women are used to guys wanting them and hearing this kinda thing so i makes you sound like every other guy...boring.Women arent stupid, they can usually tell if you like them anyhow from how you look at them and respond to them.Being physical with a woman gives out the best signals. Touching in a non sexual way, ie, arms, waist, hands, back, shoulders shows your confident and a sexual person.Think caveman, lets face it i cant imagine caveman and cavewoman having the most thrilling conversations but he still got into her caveknickers. The basis of human life is to live, reproduce, die. Its in our nature to do this and our primitive urges havent changed and acting on that what is natural to us the most effective way of getting a mate.At the end of the day you know what needs to be done theres no secret answer, ive given you stuff to think about and if you do you'll see the logic in my writings.Also, read up on the internet for Kinesthetics and rapport. Kinesthetics is basically about touching and rapport is the state of mental connection with someone.You need to stand out mate, i was similar to you when i was younger but now using those theories subconsiously in practice has made women i used to think were 'outta my league' 'like' me, times are good.
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Thanks for replying I'll take your advice on Kinesthetics and rapport and my age is 18 if it make any diffrence.