Dilemma

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I've always planned to get things "fixed" when I was done having kids. A tuck here, a lift there, and maybe a little lipo. After my second child I started thinking, The flap of skin on my tummy, does it go over my waistband, under or 1/2 & 1/2. Oh who cares it'll all be fixed soon enough. But I've run into a snag. My little girl emulates everything she sees. I brush my teeth in front of her so she wants to brush. I always have shoes or sox on so she always wants shoes on. And at first this seems great. To get her to do things I only need to show her that I do them. But that is huge responsibility. If I go and get stuff done, will she feel inadequate and think she needs to have stuff done too? And do I really have to forego having my cloths fit again to encourage her to have a healthy self image. What do you guys think?

Aww thats cute, i used to want to be just like my dad too :smile: I dont think that she'll really take it the same way as the other things. How old is she if you dont mind me asking? Surgery isnt like brushing your teeth or wearing shoes and socks, so i dont think it will really strike her the same way. Ok I dont understand my post but maybe you will.

how old is she? is this something she will remember when shes any older is is it something she will forget in the next few months?

besides all of htat how do you feel about it?
is it that important to you to look better that it will boost your confidence and maybe change your attitude for the better so that you have the confidence to complete more goals or maybe do better in life in general because of it?
Think about whats important to you and if its really something you want, then decide.

She's 21 months.And I see what you're saying about the brushing not being like surgery. But a body image is a delicate thing. Most women in this country are not satisfied with their bodies. How many women do you know that wouldn't like to loose a few pounds? Even the thin ones right? I'm not happy with my body and I just really want her to be happy with whatever she has. She's so beautiful and smart and perfect.

Im sure she wont even remember it at all in a couple years, im 19 and i can only remember back to when i was 4 or 5. At that age, i dont think she quite understands what body image is yet.

I still plan to have at least 1 hopefully 2 more kids so theoretically she might be aware by the time it happens. And at some point ( as a female) you always look at your mom and compare what you have to what she has. Sort of your I'm normal guide. So when she's 30ish and looks at me and says well why aren't you baggy & saggy and I am?And at this point I'd just like my cloths to fit.

I remember 2. I have about 4 things I remember clearly from 2. One was begging my mom to let me peirce my ears for my 3rd bithday. What a mistake that was. lol

So when she's 30ish and looks at me and says well why aren't you baggy & saggy and I am?30ish? So you tell her you had plastic surgery, as millions of other women hae. Do you think she'll have some sort of crisis if she finds out? Keep in mind that when she's 30, you'll no longer be a spring chicken, and plastic surgery doesn't magically turn a person into a top model.

Yes but over the years she'll have been looking at my body and using that to know what to look forward to.And I don't know that I can deceive my kids like that. I would feel obligated to tell them when it happened. So for most of her life she'll know and think that's the way to go.

She can get surgery when shes older too then shrug if you want to, then you should. I dont think it will really damage your kids if you dont, but a little diet and excersizing may also solve some of your problems with out the snip and cutting.

She's 21 months...who cares? Even if she's 15 who cares? You're the adult and it's your body.

I don't really understand. What exactly is your concern? That she'll be 30 and droopy, and not be able to understand why you're 50 and not droopy? If you're talking values, and if you think it's OK to have plastic surgery, then it will be OK if she wants plastic surgery.I don't think she'll need plastic surgery when she's 15, and I don't think there's anything short of magic that you can do to make you're body "younger" than your daughters when she's that age. I seriously doubt that it will be an issue.Do you feel guilty about wanting to get plastic surgery? Would you feel the same if you had a boy rather than a girl?

Diet and excersize does not shrink loose flappy skin on your tummy.