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just tell me if this is normal.....when i was little i was molested... i no that it was nothing else but that..but for some reason my mind keeps telling me that i was raped... when i first moved here i told my best friend that i was raped.... i dunno y i did that.. does this make me a bad person?

Gosh I'm really sorry to hear that. I feel so helpless and angry when someone tells me stuff like this…Perhaps when using the word raped, it sums up the overall feelings you have when you’re trying to deal with it. Just saying that you were molested when you were young, leaves it opens for people to ask you uncomfortable and nosey questions. So by calling it rape, no one questions what happened in most cases. Wed all know what that is...Have you spoken to a therapist to help you deal with what you’re feeling? It might be a good suggestion…

**Good point Roc.

HeLpThEhElPlEsS: no that doesn't make you a bad person..............as Roc said, have you spoken to someone about this? **

In a sense you were raped : [list] The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: Anything that has to due with molestation or rape makes me sick to my stomache. You may have been raped in teh sense of him taking something from you with out consent (feelings, emotions, mentally scaring you) Rape doesnt only mean sexual intercourse, it means ANY unwanted sexual contact. Do you know who he was? Can you Press charges for anything?

hmm hard for me to sayi kinda know what you mean, i think when looking to the past, youre never quite sure what happened, your mind goes over it so many times, to the point where it is able to distort the real thing. you really need to talk to this whith a person you trust, trsut me, it will just get worse if you keep it bottled up in your mind like that, because after a while your mind gets so confused it doesnt know what to think. this doesnt make you a bad person, when put through such a traumatic situation like that its natural to worry and think it over, my best advice is to talk it over and over.

i already pressed charges when i was seven

no... i remember everything.. i dont wanna... but it never leaves... i havent talked to a shrink yet because like in someone elses post.. i dont no how to tell my parents i need one

If your parents know this went on, as they must have to press charges, then they will totally know where you are coming from if you tell them you need to speak to a councillor etc.........they may even be expecting it at some stage, i know i would be if it happened to one of my children.

im not trying to make excuses or anything but my mom was a young mom when it happened to me and she prolly thinks i forgot.. plus we can't afford one

As a mother of 3, i know i would NEVER forget if something like that happened to one of my children, i might want to forget, but i know i never would.And as for affording it, where in the world do you live? A lot of times there are helplines etc set up for victims of sexual abuse etc I would imagine you would be able to get councilling through them, if not councilling, at least be able to talk to someone whos been/knows what you are going through.

where could i find a number for a help line like that.. and do they charge?

where about in the world are you, UK, US, ????

us.....wisconsin

**Well i live in the UK, so i can't personally help as in the numbers you need..........tho i would suggest having a look online for helplines, helpgroups etc, they will probably have email facilities and contact numbers listed.......what about your doctor, they should have names and contact details of groups set up to help............... and im sure some of the guys from over there will be able to point you in the right direction....... **

I Googled rape hotline, and I found:RINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)The Rape Crisis Center for Children and AdultsI then Googled rape hotline wisconsin and found a list of local numbers.Please check it out.

**I also found winconsin community mental health counceling centres
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will those rape hotlines get mad at me because i wasnt actually raped, just molested?

No! Go call.

but what if my dad picks up the phone or something.. what if someone calls on the other line... i wish i had like a deserted building or something

So What, WHy would your dad care you need help he wont get mad that your getting yourself help. As for if soemone calls on the other line, they cant call back later. Why are you making excuses to not get help?