Lately one of my friends has decided, after getting out a two year serious relationship, to go completly boy crazy. While she's single we eat lunch, eat dinner, talk, chat online and just hang out in general. It's great. However, as soon as she gets a new boytoy I'm left in the dust. I never see her, she can't chat online becuase he's coming over, or they're going out, she always is eating out with him.I'm in a serious, long distance relationship, so yes, I'm jealous that she has a guy to spend time with but I feel hurt becuase she's ignoring me over a chance to have sex. As soon as these guys dump her a month or so later I see her online or she calls me and tells me the whole story. And I do everything within my power to console her and make her feel better. Then we start going to parties together again and eating lunch etc.It wouldn't be such a big problem if she did the same for me, but she really isn't. When my boyfriend comes up to visit me for the weekend, which is pretty much once a year, I keep my cell phone on me and it's on and unless we're busy I'll answer it in case anyone needs help.One time she was down visiting her bf when she was still dating the longdistance guy and she turned her phone off. I was having a mental breakdown and needed to talk to her. I left her numerous messages begging her to call me back. When she came back to school I asked her if she had gotten my messages, she said she had and that I was such a drama queen.My boyfriend and my roommate both say that I'm too good for her and that I should stop being there for her when she gets dumped on her ass. My thing is that we were friends long before the guys and we will be friends for long after. At the same time I don't want to be taken advantage of.I guess what I'm looking for would be a different take on the situation. That and I just needed to rant.thanks
Well the problem is that there are alot of people out there like that. They are your friend until they get a bf/gf. just look at it this way, when people get married, they generally lose closeness with their friends. its the same basic concept with bf's or gf's. they get attached and only want to be with that person. i know how you feel though cuz it happens to me. what i do is hang out with them when its convenient for me. if they dont wanna do nething or answer, then im not calling them, i wait for them to call me. you cant get all hung up on things like that because chances are it will happend with other people
ever tried confronting her - telling her how let down you feel?