Sorry, I hope i didn't bore anyone on the last one. but here's another one. I have this friend that i've known for over a year. we actually met at a gay club. he has a lot of gay friends. he says he is str8 but he will dance w/me in a heartbeat at the club...grinding and everything. well i made a big move at one point last year. and he said if he was gay i would definitely be the one. so i gave up...a year and a g/f later he's single again. we went to the club on friday..and the pattern happened again. this time one of the guy i was talking to was there. i told him we were just friends so it was a battle all night to get me. so anyway...we're on the dance floor and he's behind me...then he grabs my hips and starts dancing and we eventually end up holding hands. then the next day we both went to the same gay club b/c a friend of ours was having a b-day party. he was going back and forth between talking to his ex and hanging out w/us. his ex took his virginity. well last night(sun) he came over w/an ab workout machine. and he lets me touch his abs and whatnot...and he knows i like him...and as he leaves...i pinch both of his butt cheeks...and i ask can i do it again...and he says sure...then the weekend b4 this one...we watched 2 movies...and eventually ended up w/my face on his lap...and he didn't mind at all...but when i confront him he is str8...what do i do????help!!!!!!!!!
My bi-curious friend
I think you need to sit your buddy down and have a serious man-to-man with him. I don't mean to be judgmental, but it sure sounds to me like he's toying with you. If he knows how you feels about him, he should lay off with the intense flirting techniques, which is what they are. He should put up boundaries. Hell, you should put up boundaries and not let him continue to do this to you. Although...my guess would be that if you are still smitten with him, you are enjoying the things he does, even though you know they are for naught. Maybe you need to make a decision around this. Is it hurtful to you when he does these things? If so, put a stop to them. If not, we don't have a problem.And then there's the small possibility that he has some interest...but...he's straight.Just a thought...
I replied to this in the Relationship section... please try and only post a topic once so not to get people confused. Plus it helps to consolidate responses in the same place.