I'm wondering if my co-worker is gay or bi. Here's part of the story. I am gay and and i'm not out. If I haven't told u in person then u would be cluess which is the case at work. well, i'm attacted to the guy. We've worked together for over a year now. I've raised my eyebrow but he just said what's up? well lately, i asked for his # b/c he was supposed to call me to watch the nfl playoffs which he didn't. but that monday after the game he gave me his # afer i asked. then i sent him a text(via phone) and said that i've been trying to get some qt(quality time) for the longest w/him and asked him if he chatted online or not. he didn't reply that day. so the next day after work i call him and he said that he didn't use messenger or online stuff to talk. I asked him what he was up to and he said what he was about to do watch tv and asked me. Well i don't mean to make this long, but it's hard to explain. we pass out paper all the time and i try to flirt w/him by passing out papers in his cubicle...then shortly after that now he's doing the same. what can i do to confirm that he's interested w/o making a fool of myself over the phone? oh ya...did i mention once i asked to ride w/him to a business meeting and he was out of case...and once me him and 2 other friends went to a b-ball game. me and him were in the back seat together talking about girls and stuff. and he asked me why i hadn't talked to a hot girl at work. then i returned the question to him b/c he said p***y is p***y...and i was like u trained w/her when u first got the job and i used his words against him p***y is p***y and he just laughed...and i gave him the look like ya right...HELP HELP HELP!!!
Is my co-worker gay or bi??? i need help!!!
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Well with what you described it's hard to really tell if your co-worker is gay... and it's something you should be careful with as well. Last thing you want to do is read too much into something and end up "offending" this guy, who you view as a friend.
But for advice, sometimes a little alcohol helps loose things up for discussion... and that's ONLY if you guys are of age! You can usually find a way to bring is up casual and the next day if things didn't turn out the way you wanted you can blame is on the alcohol talking. Might not be a popular way to hand it, but it's at least a way to make it more comfortable.