For about the past year or so now everytime I go home my mom has to stress me about not having a girlfriend. She obsessively asks me why I don't ask a girl out or something like that likes she's trying to hint that I must be gay or something, I'm not, I just never had my share of high school girlfriends so because I have no experience I have no chance to gain any.I'm really sick of this. It's really uncomfortable when she does this. It's not my choice I don't have a girlfriend but when every girl is already taken it's not about to happen anytime soon. What can I say to get her to stop badgering me?I'm about to just cut off contact with my family over this.
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Mother Harassing Me Over Girls
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Tell her you're gay. That should solve the problem. Just be thankful she's not trying to hook you up (either way).
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Dont cut contact with your mom, next time she does this just say "Its my life, Not your's I'm a grown man." it doesnt have to be those words, but you need to get your point acrossed.
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That sounds too defensive for me, I'd rather just want to let her know I'm interested in girls but just can't find one.I wonder if she'd be happy if I came in the door with a fiance sent over from Russia or Vietnam just to shut her up.
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That'd just horrify her (though i would laugh my ass off) its not being deffensive, its being assertive. Tell her you havent found anyone worth dating.
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Perhaps she's getting clucky and wants grandchildren.
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A mail order bride can't be more than $5,000. I think I should consider it a potential investment. Who knows, this could work out both ways, me and a poor farm girl named Svetlana.
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In reply to: That sounds too defensive for me, I'd rather just want to let her know I'm interested in girls but just can't find one. That sounds reasonable. Can you just tell her that?I've had this problem. A few years ago at thanksgiving my mother - in front of a few aunts - made a comment about wanting grandchildren that was obviously directed at me. I just replied "if you really want them, let me know. I can probably get one to you in about nine months." That pretty much stopped her.Now she has her grandchildren.
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Yeah except this feels almost like she's cornering me, like she already has it set in her mind that I must be gay or something because I'm not with anyone. It feels like when she does this she's trying to put pressure on me.I'm really disgusted my own mother would do this to me. I should just take home the trashiest girl I can find and tell my mother I'm engaged and we're having the wedding at Golden Corral.
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Golden CorralThey have a great buffet, but I'd rather be married by an Elvis impersonator in Las Vegas.Why don't you just level with her the way you level with us, and tell her to STFU?
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For anyone on this "teen life and health" board who are actually teenagers...I don't recommend telling your mother to STFU.
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All you folks who are not white_lines and who were just about to tell your mother to STFU, please desist. Cease also, while you're at it.
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If i ever said that to my mother I'd get bitch slapped!! Kids these days need to learn respect
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If i ever said that to my mother I'd get bitch slapped!!You got that right!!! LOL
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My mother is quite the character.. she's like my best friend though.
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Personally i'd tell her to Fuck Off!You could whack off in your bedroom over some horny gigl on girl action videos/magazines and make sure your mother catches you doing it!ORYou could just be strait with her. Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and that your not ready for a relationship or whatever.If she persists just pick at her life, ie if shes a single mother tell her she's a looser and no man would touch her with a barge pole, you skanky wench you!That'll shut her up!
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My mother slapped me with the closest inatimate object just for saying "yeah sure whatever" and it was mumbled. I didn't even get a warning. Usually she'd warn me about the upcoming blow with a "what did you just say to me" or "girl you must be out of your mind" then comes the pain.
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White_Lines....Dude,I am a parent of teens. Let me tell you how to look at this…..Okay…I understand your dilemma... It’s a tough spot to be in. Parents ask these kinds of questions because all they have to go off of is their childhood. You Mom probably had a boyfriend by the time she was your age... and/or had several boys who wanted to ask her out and stuff. She thinks you should be experiencing the same type of things she did… Well I can tell you times have changed. If she starts bagging you about a girlfriend, just tell her there are a couple girls you like and are taking it slow because it’s important to you to build a friendship with them before a relationship and the reason why your not dating them is because their fathers are way conservative and won’t let them date so you usually hang with them when their with a group of friends…This should satisfy her questions and she should back off… It’s a little white kind of a lie... You know of some girls you’re interested in, your mom, doesn’t have to know all of the detailsHope this works or helps…
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Are you still in school? If so, tell her you want to concentrate on your schooling :grin:
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tell your mother you want to have some time to decide what you want to do with your life
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i think i'd be glad if i was ur mother and you werent rushing into anything u were waiting or not interested until u met the right girl coz geez these days some teens have relationship after relationship sumtimes i feel its not worth the pain....