i know there have been a lot of posts on this but i just really gotta know. i've been really freaked out theses last few weeks cuz i think i might be gay or bi as long as i can remember when ever a girl that i know asked me and a group of other guys if we thought so and so was cute (guy) or something i would be the only one who would anwser and in my head when i see i guy i can discribe him as hot or cute or w/e of course i also think girls are hot as well i've never had a girl friend but its not like i've ever had a boyfriend either but to me i think have a boy friend would be totally wrong but i don't know so any thoughts?
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Am i gay?
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Hi verrock and welcome to A2A. Since you also find girls hot it would at most mean that you are bi, but it's really not much to make any judgement on. What about romantic feelings? (Whom would you like to kiss?) What about sexual feelings? (Whom would you like to have sex with?)
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Please do not worry about this. I actually had a similar discussion tonight. I was at a restaurant with 5 girls (I am such the pimp ) and Leslee asked me which celebrities I thought were hot. After I gave her a few names, she asked me if I could tell if a guy was good looking or not. My response was of course I can. I can tell you that Jake Gyllenhaal is a good looking man and Steve Buscemi is not. I actually told her that any guy who said "I'm a guy so I can't tell" is lying and speaking out of fear.All that is to say that a good looking PERSON is a good looking PERSON. Guys can tell a nice looking man from a not so nice looking man just like a girl can. I think it is a mark of maturity and security for a guy to be able to say "Yeah, he's a good looking guy." Hope that helps.
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well i have this friend named curtis (guy) i've actually had some thoughts about kissing him but to be fair i was pretty messed up that week (i was on these drugs, they were given to me from my doctor so its all legal lol) and if i were to date someone it would be this girl i know. well even after that week i've gotten the same thoughts every once and a while about him and some other guys i know
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most people think that being gay or bi is wrong, just because it's what they were taught to believe. Who really cares what other people think, if u like a guy, go for it, if you like a girl, go for it.
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Just be proud!
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well the thing is i don't really know if i really am gay or bi or w/e cuz a lot of ppl have told me its just this phase thing that some teens go through at my age but i just posted this cuz i wanted to see what other ppl thought about it and plus i don't have anything against being gay or bi its just something thats been kinda freaking me out
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How old are you? Depending on your age, you are probably going through many emotions. This is something that's not going to get solved over night or by asking people on these forums.
My suggestion is to just take a deep breath and enjoy life. If it happens you are gay/bi than you'll just need to understand that there is nothing you can do to "Change" yourself, it's just a small part of who you are. If you're straight that's awesome too! Teen years are very difficult especially when it comes to emotions and sexuality.
I know not really an answer but seriously I wouldn't stress over it. Just enjoy life and accept whatever comes your way.
Take care!
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buddy, those other guys who wont say whether a guy is hot or not are what we call "twats".All one needs to see if a guy is hot or not is these things called "eyes". Many guys dont like to admit however that they can tell whats a good looking guy and what isnt because they thinks it makes them gay, but if they really couldnt tell then they'd never work-out, sort out their hair, or wear decent clothes.Egad laddy your a human being with eyes! Freak!
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That's similar to my point of view on boobs and stuff lol.. women are like "I never look at anyones boobs or body.." but they obviously must do to judge whether they think they are fat or have small boobs etc
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well i am 14
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Dude... Just relax and not worry about it. There will be time to figure it out later, It will all come together one day. Let it happen on it's own. Until then,Just relax and be yourself... Who ever you think you are....Life is too short to worry about things like that at your age....
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being 14, is extremely hard on finding yourself, you could either keep worrying about it, or just say f**k it, and just be yourself.I've liked guys for as long as I can remember, but also being brought up in a religious family, it was only right to like girls, thought I was just bi till I had my first girlfriend at 18, yeah, after that, I found out I was gay ^_^
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is there any REAL to see if ur gay, bi or straight. I wouldn't really mind being gay or bi but i am just really confused right now
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No, there's no real way. Pretty much everyone is somewhere between gay and hetero. If you form an emotional and sexual attachents to people of your sex or people of the opposite sex, then you're pretty much gay or heterosexual (respectively). For a lot of people, it's not that simple. Sometimes it takes time to sort it out.
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exactly, that's the way it is for me, it's not the sex with another guy...tho that's great, but it's the emotional and pyschological connection and dependance to an extent of another guy, that i don't feel with females