my grandpa is going to die. They gave him two weeks. what do i do?
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Death?
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Spend some time with him. Ask him questions about his life that you never asked before. Tell him that you love him.
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Talk to him as often as you can, if that's possible.
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he is in a nursing home and on pain killers so im sure he wouldn't understand me.
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That doesn't necessarily follow, unless he is suffering from dementia. Even people who are close to death and can't speak or follow things with their eyes can often hear - it's one of the last senses to go. And perhaps you could hold his hand?If you can't see him at all, perhaps you could write a letter saying the things you would say if you could?
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i just couldn't stand seeing him.
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what do i do?>> Spend some time with him. ...> i just couldn't stand seeing him.He would probably want you there. If you don't see him, it might be something you regret for the rest of your life.
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What about what he wants/needs?
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I'm sorry, Godzilla.The others had really good things to say.Unfortunately, no matter what you do, losing someone you love can't be easy. But what you can do is make sure that you've said and done all you want to say and do before he dies, at least as much as is possible. I really affirm the idea of talking to him as much as is possible and just listening to him. If he is not able to communicate verbally, talk to as many people as you can who know him over the next weeks and find out as much as you can about your Grandfather. Things you never knew. Stories. Why people appreciate him. That could be really rich for you and give you more of him to hold in your heart.
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i just couldn't stand seeing him. If you don't see him, tell him you love him and say goodbye, it will haunt you for the rest of your life. NEVER have regrets if you can help it. Sit with him, talk to him, laugh with him, it will do you both the world of good, and you will take that memory with you when hes gone. Be strong.
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it really is hard losing a family member...i lost my dad last year and ive regretted not saying goodbye to him. just try and get as many memories as you can and cherish them
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When my grand uncle was in the hospital we knew very well he was going to die. But I didn't take it seriously at all because it was hard to believe. He was someone I saw everyday and the fact of him going away forever seemed impossible. I'd visit him all the time in hospital, played with him, read to him, watched tv, and acted like nothing was happening. But he died while I was at a sleepover party and when my mom told me I was sort of like "oh... ok" didn't hit me. I didn't even cry at the funeral until I saw his body and thats when I was messed up for the following 7 days I didn't go to school. It's definately hard losing someone. Trust me I know. But it'll be ok and sometimes you might not want to talk to anyone. Maybe he won't die and the doctors are wrong. But just savor every moment with him. Good luck and I'll be praying for you.