how do i get over my boyfriends sexual past? he wasnt sure if he was gay, straight or bi so when he was 16 he fooled around with a guy. he stil wasnt sure so he did it with another guy when he was 18. he claims that he didnt have any attraction to these people, and he didnt even like them, not even as friends. he did it because he knew they were gay, and he COULD do things with them, to see if he liked it or not. now he is 20 and we have been togehter for four months, and i just found out about these guys last week. its all new to me right now, and i had no idea he woould do things like that. i know the past shouldnt bother me, but it does for some reason. i think it might be that the first person i was seriously sexual with was him. i was 20 when we started going out and doing things, and that was my first experience with someone else. it bothers me that he was younger and was experimenting, and i never had the oppurtunity to do anything. it makes me jealous, and that leads to anger. how can i get over this? we have tried talking about it, but it always just leads to an argument. what can i do? thanks.
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I'm not really going to help you here but this is what I would do. I don't find Bisexuals sexy. Which is funny cuz I'm bi. I was dating a woman that was a Lesbian and I was quite happy with her. She had sex with a guy, we had a threesome, and that was it. I no longer found her attractive. Stopped seeing her the next day. (Yes the threesome was he idea, and I don't care that she had sex with a guy, wasn't mad or hurt. Just isn't what I'm into.)I wouldn’t blame yourself if that’s not your cup of tea. He’s not the only guy in the world. You can always find someone else.
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there is nothing you can do about his past, its past, gone, so you have to figure out if he means enough to you that you will put this behind you, if you can deal with it, then fine do that and enjoy your time together, if you can't deal with it, then tough, cos you can't change it, and it will ultimately break you guys apart.
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I, personally, can't see why this would bother you, but that's me. If it bother you, it bothers you, and you have to do what is right for you. If you do decide to break up with him, I think, it is only right that it be done in as benign a manner as possible. As I interpret your post, all he is guilty of is being honest with you.Before you jump ship (keeping in mind I have no idea how long ago he told you this) give yourself a little time to get used to the idea, and try to see that he is still the same person he was before he told you. If, after that, it still bother you it would be best to move on.