Ok so me and my girlfriend have tried to have sex a few times (4) and everytime something goes wrong, mainly me not being able to last :frowning: I just cant stop it from happening, its like i have no control what so ever. I was wondering how to solve this problem? because its really starting to piss me off, and it really gets to me. Shes really great about it though, but i can tell its getting to her too. How can i go about lasting longer? any help guys? please?
Well as you get more experienced you will be able to control it more. To speed this up you can practice the "stop go" type of masturbating: masturbate until you are nearly ready to come, then stop and then start again. You should be able to train yourself to stop it happening.
Some possible approaches:
1. Masturbate beforehand.
2. Practice the stop-and-go masturbation technique regularly, to train your body into more control.
3. Do Kegel exercises regularly - these are said to help control.
4. Use a different position - her on top is often especially good for lasting longer.
5. Use the "last-longer" condoms, which have some local anaesthetic inside them - this isn't the best long-term solution, though.
A friend of mine had the same problem. His girlfriend got some sort of numbing cream and I guess it worked wonder's. I mean were talking he was lasting 10 second's, and with the cream 20 minutes to an hour+.
The problem with numbing creams in the long term is that you are not solving the problem and just create a dependency on "numbing your dick" in order to last longer.
ok. for once a post where i can give my personal experience and advice, i guess u can call me a specialist, ok it took me an hour to cum when i first started having sex, but i wanted to last longer, heres what i did...this is a mix between the stop and go, and my own exercise.this is going to be just a tad painful...alright do the stop and go thing 2 times. then just go and dont stop. when u feel yourself cumming tighten up, keep it tight while ur cuming try not to let any cum come out, if some does come out its ok, just make shure its not all of it. after youve had your orgasm, you should have a very weak case of blue balls, wait like 2 minutes. then masturbate again, and when it comes time to cum, just keep going, drain urself, dont stop untill your legs start shaking or until nothing more is cumming out. finish off ur day as usual and then tomorrow repeat, do this for about a week strate and u should increase how long it will take u to cum anywere from 5 minutes to twice as long as it usually takes u to cum, that is if u do it right. but i have faith. now what this does is it kinda trains your penis to keep the cum in for a longer time, hereby making u be able to control your orgasm for a later time. with enough practice u will be able to control ur orgasm and prolong it, exp.. : if you feel like your cummin u can put it on hold, and have it be left in restore and u will start over, but still have the other in reserve. think of it as filling up a cup and when it gets 3/4 full u start filling up another one. i was able to control 4 orgasms till i finally exploded, and let me tell u something. it was one of the most pleasurable experiences for me. 4 orgasms in one!!! DAMN!!!! wwell good luck man..