I have been confused for a while now on my sexuality. I am 28 so I figure I should know by now but I don't.I look at woman in the mall store etc and my heart starts racing thinking wow she is hot. I never look at a man and think he is hot. Now where my confusion comes in to play at is when I am masturbating I have to think about men to finish. Men just turn me on so much when I am masturbating a woman never enters my mind. I have realized that I have never thought about a woman when I was masturbating in my life or at least as long as I can remember. What does this make me?
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BI GAY ?
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Bi-Sexual…. Bi Curious….
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It's pretty common for str8 people to have those kinds of fantasies. If that is the only thing, you're str8.
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Difficult question to answer, despite what some people might claim. Human sexuality can be so fluid... A quick answer to at least calm you for the moment would be to accept that you are attracted to both gender to some degree. The details can be figured out later.Maybe you should ask yourself what it is that attracts you in women, and ask the same question about men. Maybe you'll find that you a physical attraction to one gender, but an emotional one to the other (by emotional, I mean that you could fall in love with, not just have sex with). Maybe you'll even find that you like both equally, who knows. But you shouldn't ask yourself those questions just to better 'categorize' yourself the way most of society expects you to, but rather to better know yourself and thus be more open to new experiences that you otherwise wouldn't consider.
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In reply to:
What does this make me?
Human, just enjoy yourself, and don't care what others think, just be yourself
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100% agree with you.So nice to have someone else on here that has similar views hehe.
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Thanks for the replies. I am wondering if I am just mentally disturbed. Because I am sexualy attracted to men. I have to think of men to get off but I just can't when I think of woman. Now where I think I may be mental is I want to be attracted to men for some unknown reason. Like I was to develop the emotional attraction that I don't think I have for men and the thought of being in a relationship with a man which also I don't think I want at the present moment. I think I am trying to train myself in to wanting to be with men.
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People usually become gay due to too much love from the mother and not enough love from the father. This leads the child to seek emotional warmth from males later in life, as a replacement for what he should have got when younger.That would be a good example of a gay man being sexually attracted to other men.However, the important part here is whether the mum brought the child up to act and think like a woman. If so, then as well as being attratced to the same sex, the child will grow up to be camp, usually with a soft voice and feminine mannerisms.Does any of the above sound like you?
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my father and mother were both big parts in my life as a child, and as far as I can remember I've been atracted to males, had a crush on my best friend in kindergarten. Then growing up I began to be sort of atracted to girls cause to me that was "normal" but when I had my first gf, there was no doubt I was gay, so I seen no reason to hide it, I knew who I was, and wasn't ashamed to admit it...but still I see no point in going to random people and going "hi, I'm gay, how are you?" lol
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Sorry bud that's nothing but a bunch of psychological bull, if you even want to call that psychological.I was raised by my father most of my life. Not saying my mother was an absent figure because she wasn't, but she lived a few hours away so I only seen her like 2 times a month.As ShadowKitten said, I also knew I was gay from a very young age. I denied it for a long time because of the social setting I was in. I am from a VERY small town in PA, not to mention a very religious town so you can imagine it was forced down my throat that homosexuality was wrong. It wasn’t until I moved from PA to live with my mother around age 15 that I started to truly allow myself to accept my true sexuality.So please don’t come here and try and use some false reasons on why people are guy. There is a lot of data that being homosexual is genetic. I have 5 other brothers and sisters, and one of my sisters is a lesbian. I also have a first cousin who is also a lesbian. I could make the list even longer but I think you get my point.
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well said, there have also been scientific tests showing that homosexual males are affected my male pheramones
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Bottom line is that you can't really pinpoint it. There have been a lot of studies that seem to contradict each other. There's the biological/genitic aspect, the early socialization/parenting aspect, and sometimes even a choice aspect. It could be any or all or none of the above. I tend to be skeptical about anyone who says conclusively "this is what causes homosexuality".
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I see your point but BEING homosexual we can give more insight because we have to live the life. It's definitely NOT a choice because trust me if I could be straight I would simply because being homosexual is hard for reasons I am sure I don't have to spell out.
I know many gay people (of course hehe) that come from different walks of life. People from the normal mom and dad upbringing, to single mother parenting, single dad parenting, and even a few people that had no parental influences other than their grandparents who raised them. Socially they have nothing in common, all raised in a different parental structure but yet they are all gay.
So for those reasons alone I have a hard time believe that social upbringing has any bearing if someone turns out homosexual or straight.
Scientific studies have been done over and over and notice that within the brain there are great similarities to straight female brains and homosexual male brains and same for straight male brains and homosexual female brains.
Not to mention MOST ( I understand not all) homosexuals can give you genetic background on other family members that are also homosexual.
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I hate categorizing people, it just leaves room for grey area. Just be you, and don't give a shit what other people think. Its your life, so you might as well enjoy it to the fullest.
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Amen!! Well put
