I mean come on....

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So have any of you ever had to evacuate your house b/c of a major gas leak, on your property. Well it looks like I will have to do that. I mean my mom has lost her job and we our having a lot of problems. All my projects have been set aside and I am probably going to murder her bf soon. He is insesent on calling me a queer and treating me and my mom like shit. He is wanting me to pay rent and absolutely wants me out of the house, and I am getting sick b/c of this goddamn stress. I mean I am sick of this. I just want to be happy and all of that for more than a few days. I am getting really sick of all this shit. I mean I try to get back on track, but it seems that for some reason I am just constantly met with these setbacks nad I am a bit lazy so that does not help.I am really lost now. I mean I need to get out of here and so does my mom. I do not know what to do.

I mean it is funny. My sister has not really helped my mom out. I mean she has become rich and so has her husband. They own a bunch of apartment complexes in Los Angeles. I mean they have it good enough to help our mom out. I mean I fear that I will be the only one that will care for my mom once I get my life going. I mean b/c she does nothing. I honor that she gave my mom a 95 mercedes wagon, but she really did not need it and it is more money spent on car insurance. I mean my mom paid them back for the 20K dollar car they helped her get, but my mom needs to get some help to get a house and such.

I can relate to that.I have 3 brothers and Im the one that takes care of my mom.Money wise shes fine, better then me actually. Im the one that fixes her car, built the addition to her house, laid the carpet, all her shit, build the fences and what ever it is she needs. Im th one that takes her to doc appointments and shovels her snow n the middle of the night so she can get out in the morning.with 3 besides me you would think that anyone could lend a fucking hand besides me. It pisses me off all the time that iM the one who has to change his life around so I can be ther to take care of her shit when any of the others could take afucking turn here and there.Sorry, I got no advice for ya man, I read what you wrote and got pissy, hadta vent

I can completely see why you are mad at Jerk-Wad. But what's with your mom? Why does she allow that crap? Don't know the story with your sister but I can say for sure if I won the lotto or whatever and had hundreds of millions, the only thing my mother would get in enough to buy a small simple condo and a running vehicle. And when she's old she'll be in a nursing home. She will never be coming to live with me. Perhaps if your mother had similar bfs around when your sister was growing up she doesn't feel she owes your mom anything else.

I agree I mean I would help my mom to get a house. I think that is what my sister should do, but she does not. I am not sure what the deal is, but my mom does need to get out of this house. I dunno all this is adding stress to the house and it is making me get well shall we say "angry." I mean all the mechanic work I have been doing has made me stronger I mean tossing around a 640 pound engine does that, and I am fearing that I am going to thrash the bf.

Listen all I want to do is have fun with my hobby and get back to Purdue and get my degree and have a good job and happy family, but I am having problems getting to the Purdue part.

You missed the "hundreds of millions" part. I'm sure I could help my mother now if I were so inclined. I know the last time I spoke to her she had no car and was takin' the bus to get around. And since then we bought a mini-van. I would only help her if it cost me nothing. And if I had more money than I could spend then It would be nothing to spend $30k on her. And don't mechanics make good money? Why are you still living with your mom if you have a good job?

lol I am not a mechanic. I am in school I am a college student. 4x4's are my hobby. and my sis has tens of millions.

I had a friend that fixed cars for people he new. And they told their friends and he got more work. He kept his own hours, so it doesn't have to conflict with school.
You have not addressed the possibility that your sister feels she doesn't owe it to your mother. I don't owe my own mother, and I am not inclined to help he because she doesn't help herself. Perhaps your sister feels this way. Or maybe even she doesn't want to help your mother's bf and she has no faith that if she helps your sister it wouldn't go to him as well.

so if you knew your mom was in a bad situation and is a great cehf and coul run a restaurant if she got her feet on the ground, you would not help?My mom is great and my sister does owe it to her, but then again everytime we go to see her, my sister just uses her to clean the house and cook. I am growing away from her b/c she has changed for the worse.As much as I would like to do what your friend does, I do not have the tools that I could do extensive work, and I only have knowledge on Jeeps at that. The whole liability issue comes to mind. Plus my sister does owe my mom something. For everything she did for her. I mean my mom spent a lot $$$$ buying USD a boat for rowing.

My mother is in a bad situation. She lost her house is living a some dumpy apartment and has not vehicle. And I did not help her. It is her own fault she's in the situation she's in. She can work but she'd rather mooch off everyone else. So no I wouldn't help her.And I sure as h*ll don't owe it to her. And would your mom leave her bf if your sister gave her a house? And how do you know you sister has 10's of millions just sitting in a bank waiting to be spent? If your sister's treatment of your mother bothers your mother why does she go over there? Have you asked your sister and brother-in-law for help? With a detailed plan of what you want, how much it will cost them, and how and when you will pay them back?

yeah my mom does not mooch. She gives as much as she can. Yes I know my mom would leave her bf. I am sorry kisses but you annoy me. I feel bad for your mom b/c you can help her out without money. That is the same fucking attitude my sister takes, but my mom actually needs monetary help. The bf is abusive can you not fucking read!? And my mom goes down there to see her grand daughter. My mom never asks for help, EVER. I mean she never wants gifts or anything. and b.c you asked. My sister and her husband have that kind of money b/c they were able to redo their Beverly Hills home and think about a second story. I mean they are f'ing loaded. I mean my mom just needs to get out of this enviroment and she knows it too and has been looking but not having that kind of money limits your ability to get out. I mean my mom deserves respect as does yours (which you seem to neglect, you can help her). I mean it is called family. You help them as much as you can with what you have.

Okay First, off my mother started leaving me home alone when I was 6, except that time some guy she didn't even know offered to watch. He was a pedo, big surprise. She left me for week with out food once and when the school hauled me in the office to explain why for the week I hadn't brought lunch money and I told them, she told me if I didn't tell them I was lying, she'd beat me to death. And because she beat me on a fairly regular basis I believed she'd do it. And should we talk about the burn scar on the back of my leg? It's been there since before I can remember. And that's just a passing glimps of the h*ll he put me through so don't you presume to tell me how much respect she deserves. She refuses to work, when she does get a job she somehow manages to hurt herself, or just claims mental stress and tries to sue them. She borrows money from absolutely everyone and never pays it back. In fact she'll say it's for rent or whatever, but it's really for some new bangle she happened to spy. Cause she can always borrow more from someone else. Or so she thought. She ran out of friends/family to borrow from which is how she lost her house. And your sister and her husband earned that money who are you to tell them how to spend it. And that they should be spending it on your mom and not their family. There are shelters for abused women so it's not like she has no where to go. She has no where that she wants to go. And so if she wanted to leave Jerk-Wad she could. I make donations to those types of shelters because if a person will help themselves I'm too happy to help them out. But I would never give anything to a person that refuses to help themselves out of their pit. It's a waste.

If it were that bad for me, I would run away for a day or two and come back. You mum might listen to you then...

Listen that is terrible, but in my case my mom deserves it and needs it. It is as if the pressure of this family is on my shoulders. I was the most athletic and showed more promise in innovation than my sisters. I mean I love them to death, even the eldest one, i mean they are family, but everything is on me. I dunno what teh deal is. It is funny I am the one to help everyone. Oh well. I just want to go to school and build stuff with my hands (mainly 4x4's). I am just going to get on through all this.

Ha! I walked out once in an arguement she found me wandering the streets and told me not to come back. She's a forsty one. lol

Don't think about my crap. It's mine to deal with. And I only said that because you said she deserved respect and I knew you said it because you were looking at it from your perspective. There are two things you need to keep in mind: 1.)Your mum is the adult and has been your whole life. None of this should be on your shoulders. NONE! You are supposed to be building your life not holding up someone else’s and letting yours flounder. 2.) If you pull yourself together and finish school YOU may be in a position to help your mom. But you have to help yourself first. Like in the airplane things with the oxygen masks. You put yours on first then help others with their. I may be annoying, and stubborn, and a pain in the a$$, but if you think about those two things I think you’ll fine there is truth in them.