A bit of background of the problem is that my girlfriend has glandular fever at the moment which is making he seriously tired and affecting her mood a lot. I'm 18 and am about to start uni, she's 17 and has just started her final year of school.Her problem is that her friends aren't really recognising that she has glandular and has other commitments. They try to get her to come to parties which she isn't up to then bitch about her not being there. Their rational is that a couple of them had had glandular fever and it wasn't that bad for them (but is pretty bad for her). The problem is further compounded by the fact that she rarely gets to be with them at lunch times because she's either gone home early because she is too tired, or she has leadership commitments (as she is house captain). her friends are getting quite catty about the amount of time she has spent with them and have sort of shoved her from their group.She is extremely upset about this and has often cried about it (it's not at all helped by the glandular fever). She's said that she's tried to talk to them about it but they don't listen to her. What I'm contemplating is getting hold of one of their numbers and telling one of them what they are doing to her. Does this sound like a good idea? I tried to get her to really confront them herself but she said she wasn't up to it and that they would turn it around on her like they had in the past. I sort of asked if she wanted me to talk to them but she said no, so if I do talk to one of them it will be stealthily. What do you guys think?
Should I step in?
I was going to say that talking to them about it, might help them understand how she is feeling.............but now reading that she doesn't want you to, i think, for now you have to respect her wishes. She WILL find out if you do it, girls talk, and they will probably be on the phone as soon as you have stopped talking! Your GF is in a very fragile state at the moment, and you are the one thing she can hang on to, to find out you went behind her back, well i guess that would be straw that broke the donkeys back. Give it time, things will change.
Okay, I'll keep my nose out of it then. She does have a couple of friends outside that group that she can still talk to. The glandular fever is making everything so much worse. She was crying on the phone to me for the best part of an hour tonight. It sucks that I'm working afternoons at the moment. I'll get to see her on wednesday though.