A little to ruff?

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UMM.. about 2 months ago a 20 year old kinda forced something on me. He was pretty mad at the fact that i didnt want to and he didnt get all the way. But he did finger me pretty hard and ever since ..it hasnt been the same. its alot more sensitive and bleed alot .when touched. i cant really tell my parents or my dr and he said hed only help if i let him look first which im not willing to risk... so this is like my last chance of getting information before telling my parents..( i have stoping any physical contact down there for a month)

Wait why wont you tell your parents or dr? you NEED to tell somebody, that was practically rape.

Thats what I told her to do in the first place but she didn't agree. So i said for her to go here.BTW yes it is almost rape (or was) because he fingered her too hard when she didn't want him too..AndIt is considered rape because the age difference. 15 girl with 20 guy. Kinda wow.

Well now that i know ur 15. Go to the police. Im not even joking

What he did to you was wrong. No means no. You need to tell someone about this, if nothing else to stop him from doing the same to someone else, and maybe that time it will be full on rape.Tell your parents, they will be angry and shocked, and probably a little suprised at you getting yourself in the situation, but once they have calmed down, they will understand. You need to go to a doctor to have yourself checked out, continued bleeding and pain is not normal, even for 'rough stuff'. It will be hard to go through it, but its something you need to do.

Its to late to go to the police...and i dont have any proof hes not going to admit it... and my parents ..would be a little more than shocked theyd go crazy and it just doesnt seem worth it. all i want to know is what to do to make it better

the way to make it better is to tell someone what happend. I got news for you, not guy that rapes a girl will admit too it. and your parents need to know. Of course they will be shocked, what parent wouldnt be? but you have too do it

It's not too late to go to the police.

could we just focused ..on how to make it stop i mean its great to go to the police and everything ... but rite now i just want it to go back to normal

**of course they would be shocked, you are their little girl, but they would be a lot more angry to find out that you didn't tell them if they ever found out, and they would be angry to think that someone would do that to you.

Its never too late to go to the police, and yes its a scary thing to do. If you dont' feel like you can do either, then at least go to the doctors, and have them check you out, to make sure your ok, they don't have to tell your parents if you don't want them to. The only way to make this go away is to face it head on, and get yourself sorted, physically and mentally. Don't sit in your room worried, and scared. Shit happens, the only way we grow is to deal with the hard things in life. You need to deal with this, and you need to get yourself to the doctor to see why you have pain and bleeding. **

It's never too late to go to the police, which I suggest you do.Also you can go to a free clinic and have an exam done to make sure everything is okay.What he did was very wrong and should not get away with it. I hope you decide to do the right thing by going to the authorities.

I agree, I think getting it checked out with a docter is best. Reason being since u told me that you just stopped masturbating for a month just so it will heal(stop bleeding) and it still hasn't stopped. Now you just said on aim that if you rub ur clit it doesn't really bleed inside. So i guess if your dieing to do something u could always just not stick ur fingers in. But thats just for a temp solution for messing around.As for bleeding. Seriously if it doesn't stop you need to see a docter or someone that knows alot in the medical feild. Maybe a friends mom that you know is a docter or nurse or something could assist.

ok ... maybe ill just go to the drs. with Robert..and then see what the dr says about the police thing and take it from there....

That is a fine idea and I think the second best course of action.The best I think is to reverse it. goto the cops and they can refer you to a doc that deals more with this. they also can refer you to one that can do an exam based on the rape (thats what it is no matter if it was a dick or a finger) and get things started. Your condition is part of the evidence and needs to be documented by a qualified Doc. My suggestion I think is the best one for you, but yours is better then doing nothing. Either way, do something! To let it go idly by means that you are responsible for him doing this to someone else in the future when it could of been stopped by you here and now.shitty thing to say? yes it is but its also true. Society functions based on its members and you currently have the power to stop his ass from continuing to do this to others. Take care of yourself and take care of this prick at the same time.

I agree with everyone here. I know you don’t want to address it, but it can’t get back to the way it was... you were violated and you need to tell someone. Have it looked at and checked out to make sure he didn’t hurt you and you’ll be able to have kids later on in life….What happened is tragic and you need to take care of that first….Listen to what we’re saying and try to focus on that instead of pushing it out of the way hoping what happened will go away. Because it won’t!Sooner or later, you’ll have to deal with it...

Look,If you don't do anything about it now, you will hate yourself when you get older and realize that you should have. I know you are scared of letting the situation be known, but it really needs to be. Your parents would rather you tell them, then you not. They will be happy that you didn't go all the way, that you manage to stop him before he got all of you, just very upset with this guy.Please do something about it now, tell your parents or the doctor or the police. Don't be afraid, take your friend here,who posted, when you tell whoever you need to tell, for support. I know it is hard, but it is better to say something now, when something can be done about the situation then to just let the situation pass, because it won't pass, it will eat at you and will never go away.Please tell someone who cares about your well being and can do something to help you. You need to get yourself checked out too, for your own sake and safety.

OK am i right in thinking that Robert is the 20 year old? You made him out to have taken advantage of you, people are crying rape, and you would go to the Dr. with him. Do i take it he is your BF then? When you first posted and said "a 20 year old" I assumed you didn't really know him.

I'm so very confused

...im not stupid enough to take the guy that did it with me...robert is my brother..and hes 19 ... and hes practically the only guy i trust

when forced apond and done hard your first time, its going to hurt. he might have damages something. then again usally it does hurt the first time. i remeber my first time i kept thing OWWW but after awhille and after telling him to go slower it was fine. theres always pain though trasition i think. if he went to two fingers at first i can see why it hurt so badly. its going to hurt for awhille untill it fully goes numb and that probley wont be for years (i haven't even gotten to two fingers myself). so if anything try going slower and gentaler. and oh yeah, always consult your docter!