I'm worried where this ass is gunna stop. I mean with what hes doing now he evidently has no shame. To bugger what other people think now, its your safety that matters. I dont suppose you could get hold of a small knife or soemthing, just incase? I dont like your bf.
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Okie dokie then
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I can't carry a small knife around. What would I do with it?
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To just flash at him if he ever goes to rob you of all your dignity and pride, it would scare him off. I remember something Keith Richards said, about how while hes in America he chooses to acrry a knife instead of a gun cos it scares people more, it sjust a scary item. I'm sorry its like that but if noone else is helpting with your perosnal safety then you need to think about something like this to keep you safe.Is there noway you can just cut all contact with that guy? Why do you see him so much?
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Oh I gotcha. I just don't know how I could do it since I'm scared of knives myself. But the reason I see him so much is because he lives in my area or neighborhood. And he goes to the same school, church all the places I hang out etc.
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Have you thought about talking with your minister? He (or she) should be able to help you. Also, it's not your fault in ANY way, at all.
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What are you more scared; kinves? or dangerous perverts? Getting over the former will help you deal with the latter.I would never want you to really use this thing, you'd barely even have to flash it. The guy would just have to know about it. Maybe you could get your boyfriend to buy one for you? Its the least he could do.Have you concidred talking to the priest at your church about it? I know most people dont trust such insitutions these days but really if your a christian church goer then the Church is an important leader of your community and should offer you support. Most churches are keen to help out in these situations I believe.
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In reply to: Have you thought about talking with your minister? Gah beat me to it!
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I'm not going to argue with you about this. I asked a simple favor and if you choose not to grant it fine.
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Yeah I forgot about church. It would be kinda weird telling him but it's an option. He'd probably confront my parents and his about it and then comes the scratching and growls.
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Hun.. PLEASE do not bust out a knife!!
Just remember.. self-confidence.. you do NOT need his shit.. flip him the bird.. slap him across the face.. knee him in the balls.. !!
Anything! Get Physical!
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Lol, yeah I'm going to have to find a way. But I spoke to my BF and he gave me this long apology and asked me to come over to talk about and all that. So maybe things are looking up.
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Atually no things are not looking up because I tried talking to my mother but she blocks me out and didn't listen to what I have to say. My dad gave me this whole lecture totally irrevelant to what I was getting at. And my sister is really barking up the tree of me just, I'm not even going to say it. So I ah... give up.
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DONT carry a knife...............in my experience if you don't know how to use one, it can make a situation a WHOLE lot worse!You NEED to talk to your parents, you need to dump your loser boyfriend and break the ties between you and his brother, you need to do something other than get stressed about it, get advice but do nothing. I can honestly say, if my other halfs brother touched me, he would beat him to within an inch of his life, brother or not! Which says that your BF doesn't care for you as much as you hope/think.Are you going to let this continue until the next thread you post is titled "raped and need help". You don't have to be tall, etc to be a strong woman. STOP putting up with this, do something positive to stop it.Get rid of the BFTell an adult (preferrablyyour parents they will hopfully tell his parents they need to know too - I tell ya if i found out one of my boys was doing what hes doing he wouldn't know what hit him!)Put a stop to this. If you were my daughter I would report this to the police, its sexual harrasment.............well actually i wouldnt' get a chance cos my other half would have had 'a word' with him but you know what i mean.
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Things are easier said then done. I can't talk to my parents. They never listen to me. Ever. I'd have to be the dicator of the world for them to notice they even have a second daughter. Five kids is "obviously" too much for them since they forgot about one of them. Except to clean up or something. It's hard talking to them. It's like one of those rare ocassions. I love 'em but they're like... "hi 4th born... what's your name again? oh that's right abi... right? yeah. doing good in school? do you go to school? right... keep up the good work." Of course they don't say it like that but that's how I feel. So what do they care? As long as I stay in school and get good grades that's about as good as it's going to get. Oh and Japan. That's working out well too.I talked to my bf yesterday. In starbucks, don't ask. But we did have a long talk about and I told him where I was coming from. He looked a little surprised like he didn't know what was going on. But he said he's going to fix things and had no "intention" of breaking up. I'll see if he means what he says I guess.
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I wouldnt rely on your bf to do anything. I still thing the church is the way to go. I mean surely that's its secondary purpose, as a close second to worshipping god.The more routes you take to sorting this out the better. Dont rely on just your bf.
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Hon, i hate to hear how you think your parents feel about you. In all honesty i used to feel like that about my parents when my mum remarried, but after talking to her about it now im older, those feelings were just in my head, she didn't feel like i was unimportant, i did though. Im sure your parents love you to bits hon, and as a mother i can only say that life, and family sometimes seems like organised chaos, where everyone just gets on with their own thing, but that doesn't mean they don't love you, or see you as less important that the other children.Im really glad you got to talk this through with your BF and i hope he does do something positive towards making it all stop. Well done for having the courage to face it and talk it through with him.