My friend Brianna has some serious issues with guys. Like all men in general. She hates all of our male teachers and insults every male that comes up to her- make him cry and shrivel away into his corner insults. So my friends and I were wondering what her problem was and we used to think she was crazy. But we found out today from her step cousin that when she was younger, her father and uncle used to beat her and rape her. I guess that explains the marks. So we tried to help her out today and console her but she got so pissed and was screaming and yelling at us unnecessarily. I don't know what it was we did we were just trying to be helpful. But I guess if you think about it, it was pretty stupid to bring up something that had happened a long time ago. Anyway, our youth group in church is going to perform a really cool service at a prison march 18. Our pastor was really hesitant about it at first for our safety. But we urged him on for over 3 months and convinced him there would be guards and policemen. That whole Brazil trip has made them, you know... delirious. Wasn't my idea. But Bri-bri is part of our youth group and I get the feeling she'd be really uncomfortable going. Any tips? She usually volunteers alot but I'm really concerned for her now. I don't know how far she will go.
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Sexist for reasons
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I agree now isn't the right time for her to be doing that.On the other thing, bringing things/ events into focus, without having support in place can be very bad for the person concerned, i know you were trying to help, and she definitely does need help to deal with what she went through, the best thing you could do is to try and talk her into getting professional help. She may not be in a place in her life at the moment that she can deal with this, which is fine and don't push after she has made a decision, but as a friend thats what i would do.
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Yeah not one of my bright ideas. I apologized to her today and she seems a little better from before. But thanks I'll see if I can help her with getting a proffessional or something. But she's still uptight as she should be. Foolishly one of my friends brought up something about her mom and that sent her on a rampage and that friend now has a bruise on her arm. It's hard knowing to tell what's the right thing to say to her because everything is bad. Usually we talk to her about shows, dance, celebs etc. And now it's harder than before.
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Abi, it wasn't stupid of you, you were trying to help, don't be so hard on yourself.You might want to tell her that if she needs anyone to talk to, to talk through stuff with, that you are there for her, and leave it at that. She sounds like she needs help asap, she sounds hurt and angry at everything around her, not a good place to be at any time in your life, but she has to take the step on her own to decide whether to get help or not, and I would guess from her reaction to everything, she won't, unfortunatly. Its VERY hard to walk on eggshells and watch what you are saying to friends, let her know you care and go back to being yourselves
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You said my name! Aw, I feel so special. And the award for best board member goes to...sorry...You're exactly right. I think I actually said the right thing today. She was much better today than she was yesterday. Well, now we know the topics not to bring up with her for the least. There are some guys though that keep making fun of her sometimes for what happened to her. It's really not funny. But they're associated with gang members... not much we can say or do. But we do try to be more careful and try to keep her from things that might hurt her. I don't want to seem like a protector though since she might get uptight.