I have talked to Katie about this and she gave me some good advice but I want to know what you all think and also get some more insight as well. It's kind of a long, and somewhat confusing issue so I apologize ahead of time.
Well this all started back when my friend Troy had a big party at his house several weeks ago. I was allowed to invite some people as well so I invited my friend Jim to come with Adam and I to the party since he was at home bored. Well the party was going great and everyone was drinking (Except myself that night, I just didn't feel like drinking), playing cards, and having a great time.
Well close to the end of the night most people were pretty intoxicated and well when Jim gets drunk he can be a little bit of an exhibitionist. It all started out as joking about talking about flashing people or whatever. Well next thing I know Jim exposes himself, which is no big problem doesn't matter to me if someone exposes himself or herself. Well my friend Jason was present and at that point wouldn't leave Jim alone and kept asking him to expose himself some more. Well Jim ended up getting Jason to expose himself to show himself again. Well anyways we all left the party and never thought much of it.
Well the next few times after that party Jason and Jim were at the same place Jason keeps trying to get Jim to expose himself and he's VERY persistent about it. Jim is pretty good about just brushing things off and joking the matter away.
Well things got pretty bad this past weekend when I had a small get together at my house with Jason, Jim and Jim's BF Tim (Of course Adam was there as well). We were all drinking and talking about politics, human rights, etc etc. Than out of nowhere Jason starts talking about Jim exposing himself and how he wants to see it again. Jim laughed it off and was like "Well show us yours first" as his way of joking it off. Well Jason never did and he stayed very persistent about Jim exposing himself though. Well a few drinks later and getting tired of hearing Jason ask he finally showed himself thinking that maybe that'll shut Jason up. WELL it didn't. If anything else it made it worse. Jason than asking things like, "So when do we get to taste?" and things of that nature.
Well finally I had enough and was over the top annoyed. I made comments about how late it was getting and Jason got the hint and went home. After he went home I spoke to Jim and Jim was basically annoyed with it as well. He feels that Jason just thinks that anytime he's around he's going to show his penis or that something sexual is going to happen between them. Jim also made it very clear that he has NO interest in Jason and plus he (Jim) has a BF.
Adam and I are very annoyed over it because we feel like we cannot have Jason over for a together if Jim is there because he's going to be asking all these inappropriate questions and I know eventually Jim, or myself, is going to say something and it's not going to be pretty.
So my question is how do I approach Jason about this problem? Normally I am a pretty straight forward person but Jason is one of those touchy people that even if I come off polite he's going to take it as an attack when it's not even close to an attack.
I know this is a weird situation and not to mention a very odd question, but I want to be able to have all my friends over without anyone feeling annoyed or uncomfortable. And Jim also recognizes this is part his fault because he exposed himself to begin with. Though personally, I feel he does have some "blame", I don't feel Jim should feel at fault because it was all in fun and not sexual... if that makes any sense?
Any help would be greatly appreciated and again sorry for such a LONG post.
Take Care!!