hi kind of new at this never tried before i would just like to hear other peoples opinion well i been with my girlfriend for 5 months now and since the begging i told her i tent to get a bit jealous when i see her near a guy at work i get mad its just a few guys she said that im not jealous that she cant see that but i never say anything to her i knew what she might think. well yesterday at work she was waiting for me she was talking to a couple of cow workers and by seeing this my anger started to build up i clocked out from work and i told her that we should leave but everyone knew i was mad latter on we went to the movies i did not know how to tell her but since i was still mad i told her to stay away from those guys and not to talk to them i knew that by saying this she might think im trying to control her i dont want that.she then got hurt she told me i dont trust her enough to be near someone she started crying and i felt pretty bad to she then said that i think that shes like my x girlfriend that used to tease me by talking to guys and flirting with them she now thinks i think bad of her.all i wanted to do is explain to her this feeling i get but did not know how and i dont want this to be a problem i really love her and plan to marry her.thank u for reading this and if u can i would like some advise.
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Jealousy please help
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First bit of advice.. PUNCTUATION LOL. It was really hard to read your post. I can do with bad spelling and typos, but without proper punctuation it makes a post really hard to read and follow.But to your topic, I would sit down with her and explain how you feel like you did in your post. Be open and honest with her. Honesty will take you far in a relationship. Once she knows how you feel, she'll be more likely to understand your situation.
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and also, stop being so damn jealous, so what if she talks to other guys, or even flirts a little pretty much everybody flirts. i dont blame her for being upset, if my girlfriend got angry because i talked to other girls, just talked, then she'd be gone just like i would be if the situation were reversed. just remember, whenever her mind wanders, it always finds its way back to you.
so unless she starts doing nothing but chatting up other guys and flirting with them profusely i doubt you have anything to get jealous over
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thank u i will sit and explain to her what i feel...
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i don't mind the talking i cant tell her not to talk to anyone i don't like. believe me she would but that would be controlling her i guess is my problem i knew she was just talking shes very playful with every one. but some how that always gets to me cant stand seeing her too near a guy for to long or my mind starts to imagine things that might happen like she might like him or i think she might cheat on me .
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You can talk to her and let her know how you feel.. but honestly???? You are the one with the problem... not her. So far she's done nothing wrong and shouldn't have to change. You have the problem and should change or seek help if you can't.
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Honestly, you can explain how you feel about your jealousy, but you're insane if you ask her to change her ways. You can't get mad at her for talking to her fellow co-workers. She did nothing wrong.What you need to do is find some way to deal with YOUR issues. If you love her, don't you trust her? You have get the idea of her being your ex out of your head. It's not fair to her and your relationship's going to suffer.
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I agree he's the one with the problem, but that doesn't mean he should not talk to his GF and explain what he is going through. Without saying he's the one who needs to change, not his GF.
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I'm gonna go down the middle here. Talk to her and tell her you know you've got a problem and that your working on resolving it. Don't ask her to change but let her know how much it hurts you and maybe she'll be more considerate of that fact. Let her know what your going through and show her that your working on improving yourself.The key to any relationship is open and honest communication.I can't help you be less jealous. I've never been that type, even a little, but I would encourage you to look around for some information on how to overcome and deal with such feelings. Surly there's a load of shit like that on the net. Here's what a quick google search turned up.
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It's a hard one to tap. I had an ex which was a bit of a control freak and would literally freak out if you gave any imperative. Talking to her is the best option, but be as empathetic as possible, if you don't she will think you're having a go. To be honest, unless she is grabbing their asses, you are fine. Mine however was. . . Bitch. :P