Advice on my break up please!

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Ok I've got a problem and I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I had been going out for several months. He told me that he loved me and I believed him. We had a really great relationship, we got on so well and i could talk to him about anything. He told me that he had never felt so strong about anyone before and I jusst seemed to be inthis perfect relationship. There was definately nothing wrong with the physical side to the relationship either and we had discussed having sex and it would have been my first time, but he isn't a virgin. Things were progressing in a good steady way and I was sure we were on to a good thing together until last nite. He told me that he wanted to break up with me. I can't believe it, I just don't understand why or how he could do this to me, I'm devestated and confused. I should hate him for doing this to me but I can't because I love him more than anything and even writing this is making me cry. People have been telling me that I'll find someone else but I jusst don't want anyone else, I want him. I just can't believe this has happened so suddenly, there was no hint of a problem at all, if there was I would have picked up on it. I feel so down and I don't know what to do.

**awww hon, not knowing why this is happening is bound to make you feel a whole lot worse. Did he not explain anything???? :frowning:
It won't always hurt this much hon, and things will get better. Everyone feels like you do at least once in their life, sadly, people understand what you are going through. **

He didn't explain much to be honest, it's so confusing, how can you say you love someone and then all of a sudden end everything

I don't know hon, usually there are signs that things are not going right, before the split, or, I don't want toi say it but might he have found someone else

I'm afraid he may have lied about loving you...or be quite innocently confused about his own feelings...its hard to know what your feelings are when yoour young, so he may not have intententionally have misled you.It would have been better of him to explain fully his reasons.People may be telling you to just find someone else but I suggest taking some down time and dont rush into anything else just yet. You need to clear your head.I'm really sorry for whats happened to you.

I really don't have a clue what's going on seriously everything seemed normal and fine then this is sprung on me. If there was a problem he done an excellent job hiding it. I know that he could have possibly lied to me but the truth's hard to take i suppose.

How old are you?When your young its hard to pick up on when things are wrong. I remember the first time I was dumped, shocked the hell out of me.

17. he's 18

My apologeise, your not so young. Then it sounds like maybe he was leading you on. I'm sorry to say so

You could be right. It's just hard to accept that especially when it only happened last night and the whole situation hasn't sunk in properly yet.

Thanks for the advice anyway, its appreciated.

Yes of course. You have my complete sympathy :hugs:

In reply to: Then it sounds like maybe he was leading you on Too many 18 year old guys do that.. i've gotten to the point when Ive just stopped dating! Whenever one of those skeezy guys talk to me I just give them the bitch attitude .. they stay clear haha

Girls do it too.

some

Dont let it bother you, being that your only 17 odds are you werent going to marry him anyways, and you'll have better relationships in the future. Learn from this one

and only SOME guys do it to.

Its the same steriotype that only guys cheat. Most people know that people are on an equal basis when it comes to that sort of thing

Exactly.

ALOT of 18 year old guys are looking for one thing & one thing only.