Well the title says it all really! Has anyone else tried abstaining from masturbation for long periods of time? I did it a couple of years ago (for Lent again... incidentally I'm not Christian, but do Lent as a challenge) and managed, which was quite a task- normally I can't go a week but it IS satisfying come Easter day when you realise you've succeeded! This year thought I'd give it another go, but it's only been 5 days and the urges are already sinking in, grr The other thing I found about restarting the last time was after such a long time denying myself the pleasures, it only took about 20 seconds to cum, but there was NO downtime - I could have 5 or 6 orgasms in a row!
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Giving up for Lent
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Wasnt the movie 40 days and 40 nights about this?
He had a bugger of a time lol
Hope you make it :smile:
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Once for lent I gave up church that was about 29 years ago, I liked it so much I shal never return.
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"Once for lent I gave up church that was about 29 years ago, I liked it so much I shal never return."lol, nice one!As for the reason - like I said, it's a challenge. I suppose there's something about proving that you don't NEED to rely on something in your life, and also the fact it makes it seem all the better when you start doing it again. There's a sense of satisfaction if you manage to come through at the end without breaking your promise.
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i believe in something like that, its called delayed gratification. you put something off or dont to that you really like, and it makes doing it all the better.
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I know a couple of guys that gave it up last Lent. They said it wasn't too bad, and I think they are giving it up again.Lent usually helps me become a better, healthier person- I'm giving up soda this Lent, and I think I will continue to not drink it past the Lenten season. Last year, I gave up gossiping, and I still don't really gossip now. I don't know how giving up masturbation would help me become a better or healthier person, unless I was addicted to it or something, and was trying to break the addiction.
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actually, i'm giving it up for lent as well. only, i'm also doing 2 other things- not giving them up, but using lent as a way to try to get myself into two habits: taking vitamins every day, and flossing my teeth too (both kinda weird, i know, but i'm hoping to get into some more healthy habits now that i'm living by myself.) i also gave up masturbation for 2 reasons- a) it is an addiction i have, and while its not necessarily a bad thing i dont think really, at the same time, i do it too much to where i dont even feel good about doing it anymore. granted, the most ive done recently is about 2 times/day, but still. just a personal thing. the other reason is tha that i havent had a wet dream since i hit puberty, and kinda want to know what thats like again. (see also www.wetdreamforum.com)so yeah, those are my reasons for giving up masturbation for lent
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In reply to: I believe that anything to an extrreme is unhealthy, and religion has a very strange way of "making" people do things to extremes. What would be the payoff for giving anything up for this "Lent"? I don't believe religion can "make" a person do anything. It's their choice. They can blame it on or attribute it to whatever they will. You can't always make religion the bad guy.I've never given anything up for lent, but I have given things up (including masturbation) for a variety of healthy reasons. I bet, when you think about it, you have too.
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awhile ago my best friend watched the movie 40 days and 40 nights for a first time and became set on beating that and doing 50 days, i said he could never do it and then i decided to show him my will power was stronger than his so we both stopped. it went on for 3 weeks(23 days) i was doing great after, the first 4 days it just got easy it was as if i lost the urge completly. im pretty sure i could have done the 50 days but i walked in on him going at it and i laughed and said your out and he said no because he wasnt going all the way then i said he was a cheater because it was still masturbating then i went home and stopped seeing if i could beat him since i already did. after that mastubation hasnt controlled my life, its weird honostly the last time i did it was about 3 and a half days ago. i do not care if you dont believe me but i swear its true. do you think stoping before you blow your load is cheating?i dont know if that really belonged here since i can see that this is more for religion and why stopping but whatever
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actually, me and 2 roommates did the 40 days and 40 nites thing last winter. several months after that i was talking to one of them and we discovered that really, all 3 of us had cheated. my thot is that if youre going to "give up" masturbation, any kind of jerking off counts as cheating, no matter whether or not you go all the way. thats my theory anyway. i guess anyone doing it would have to come up with their own set of rules as to what is cheating and what is not. I'm personally going with the complete "hands off" policy. for 2 reasons- 1) whats the point of jerking off if you arent going all the way?????? and 2)just innocent stroking never works that way in my experience. when we did the 40 days thing, for the entire last week i edged every day in the shower, then i was going to blow a huge freakin load at the very end of the thing, but it didnt work that way. i ended up having to drop out a couple days before the end. same thing happend somewhere in the middle. i was just casually stroking and ended up going to far. so hands off is prally the best method to go by.
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I really have to agree! Religion can become the bad guy or the good guy. Depending on the choices you want to make.
If YOU feel that you have something to change, religion can give you comfort in doing so. It can also offer some support in it.
I can't imagine giving up masterbation for much of any reason. There are "moments" where it just isn't...um appropriate, or worth it, but not for a extended amount of time.
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A couple of times when I *haven't* succeeded, I blame it on the fact I let myself go half-way, and a few goes at that just tempted me to finish it off completely. I'd say any kind of jerking, whether you blow your load or not, is cheating though, really.
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In reply to: I suppose there's something about proving that you don't NEED to rely on something in your life, and also the fact it makes it seem all the better when you start doing it again. There's a sense of satisfaction if you manage to come through at the end without breaking your promise. If thats the reasoning behind it you can do that ANYTIME with no religion behind doing it so why bring lent into it ?I quit things several times a year for certain reasons, like I stop smoking about 3 or 4 weeks before I am taking a big trip with nothing but a back pack on.Istart again after its over and pending what else is going o I sometimes just quit drinkig and cut down on smoking for the trips. I cut down on jerking off when on weekends when kids ar home or my fiances kids are here, every other weeked we prtty much give u se sine the houe is full of kids and we are much too loud.We can get away with it when its th normal kids, own rooms and shit but when the others are here they sleep on a inflatable bed in the front room and on the couch and are right underneath our bedroom so sex is out.its fine to quit anything you want to quit I just do not see the relvance of attaching god to it when you claim your not doing it for anything but a challenge.If I want a challenge I shall wait till I have my fiance in the doggy style position and then tell her that her sisters are better in bed and try to stay on and not sustain serious injury
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It's because it's a standard time of year when people decide to give things up. I don't want to do it all year, so I choose a convenient time when the start and the duration are already determined. This also means I don't have to choose for myself how long to give up, so I don't go making it easier on myself or anything like that. You must know non-religious people who take part in some form of Lent? About half the people I know do.Also, this is a task I set myself for the sake of it - what you seem to be describing is giving up things when they're obligatory, which is different. I've done that too, but I think necessity cheapens the objective.
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ditto christof for me. same deal. when i give it up on my own, i find that i'm more likely to screw up and have to start over. but so far, the desire to give up hasnt even hit me yet. which i might add i'm actually kind of surprised about, but its only been 7 days.....
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im totally trying that....but im gunna see if i can go longer...which i doubt i can