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The name says it all...

Let me start off by saying that I have a problem with my looks, It would be nice if I knew if i was ugly or hansome. That has always been a brick wall in me talking to girls. That uncertainty.... I once in a while say something bad about myself around a girl that I find attractive and they say its not true, for example...."I know Im ugly but I think we get along well" they would say "Nah, your not" or "Your cute" or something, but I don't believe them. My parents say how hansome i am, but I dont believe them. Im so selfconscious, but I know I am a good person inside, I just have that confusion and low selfesteem that may prevent me from showing that 100%. And though I don't show it, people can say messed up stuff about me, it wont phase me, but when someone calls me ugly or something it gets me inside...and i get that feeling again. Or when a conversation doesn't go as planned with a girl...I get that feeling. Im sure someone knows what Im going through...Im still a virgin, and people don't think so automatically, but when we talk about sex it can be sorta obvious that im putting on a front. Just about everyone has had sex by the age of 17 in my school, accept me. I can never get passed "just friends" and I am a really really nice guy...I wear this mask, because Im scared of whats behind it....

Well.. girls kinda get put off by the lack of confidence. You should never say how ugly you think you are infront of a girl.. it turns them off! Try removing the mask.. I bet alot of people would be interested to know more!

Hey I know exactly how you feel. I was the same way in high school and in college a little. I was always putting up a front to talk about certain subjects. But listen here I have a buddy and he and I never considered ourselves the prettiest of the bunch and were hard on ourselves about it. Well when he lightened up and just did not care and had fun guess what, he got hooked up. He has a great gf and she is very attractive and very good personality. Myself I have no one b/c of the situations I put myself in, but if you just be yourself and not worry about looks, you will be amazed at how your self confidence goes up. We are all here to help ya if you are not sure where to start just say and we can get you on the road to stardom. Just have a good time and be yourself, all you can do in life.

If your concerned about your looks post your pic on www.hotornot.com, get rated by the general public, its going to give you a fair idea of how attractive you are.

And like whats already been said, confidence is key with women, they dont want a wimp, look at gorillas, the Alpha Male gets the gorillaettes :blush:

Even unattractive men can get girls, even attractive ones, its all about confidence and how you come across to women, telling them you think ur ugly is a nono. Notice how ugly guys have attractive girls...there ya go!

Ultimately your looks are always going to be with you, you have to learn to accept them, make the most of what you have and just go for it!

The advice is much appreciated...also, I have a girlfriend...and, she talks about how much she wants to have sex and stuff. But, our conversations on the phone are sort of limited in dialogue, I always ask her questions because i heard girls like to talk about themselves, but its not just to get her to talk, its because i really care. And when i ask her stuff she gives an impartial answer or like a simple yes or no. It really makes the conversations dull...

But its strange because when i talk to other girls the conversation is colorful and very very vivid. It seems like when we started considering eachother boyfriend and girlfriend that we drifted apart mentally. How do i put some spark in our relationship?

well maybe build your self confidence. You being down can drag the relationship down. I mean she must like you for some reason and build off of that. No girls do not like that. They just want a guy to listen and most guys think that means letting them talk about themselves. Just ask her why she is so down or go on a fun date or experiement with each other...If you do something sexual use precatuion and make sure it is something you want. But you two should find activities you like to do and do that.

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=ASHYKME&key=EUX Hot or not

WHY do people post their pics of here to ask our opinion to boost their self confidence?!? Im not even going to look at the pic

first of fI do not rate other guys, but you have nothing to worry about bro. Just enjoy yourself.

In reply to:when i ask her stuff she gives an impartial answer or like a simple yes or no.Questions that can be answered by "yes" or "no" are called closed questions and they don't move the conversation forward nearly as much as open questions, questions that ask what or who or why or how or when or where, so try to use those sorts of questions where possible.

sorry pink ranger >_<But uhm thanks inelligible that really helps...never thought about that...