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just because you got ripped in one thread
No one should be getting ripped in ANY thread
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Is this unhealthy?
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Sure they should. If they deserve it.
If I say something stupid and out of line, feel free to rip me.The goal of mature people living in community should not be to avoid offending others. It should be to make each other better people.
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So no matter what I say or do in any thread no one has the right to cal me on any of it?Like I said I stand beside every post I made, thats how I feel abuot what I read, that shit is all MY interpitation of the situation. Since an open forum I did nothing out of line and I don't change or take back any of what I posted previously.Unless someone can argue a point and give me a reason to change my mind?Im not above changing my mind if someone can offer a pervasive argument against how I feel ?If am never above changing my mind if someone has something that can make me question myself.
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See now that is the way to look at it. We responded to a post on an open forum. And if anything that any of us ever say wrong or is unjust or wahtever, tell us, but bring some evidence. Don't just say your wrong. Develop and argument that is wel thought out and mature. That is how we become more knowledgable.
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Yes, but how you say things is as important as what you say. If you are not just talking to yourself, you want your words to be accepted by your hearers. Expressing them aggressively, while it may make you feel better, generally just raises hackles on the person against whom they are directed. Heat and bad feelings result, rather than education. If you want what you say to be most effective, it should be said with respect, even to (perhaps especially to) people you strongly disagree with.
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I have alot of problems and questions.. A L O T.. I can't post here because the in crowd of A2A doesnt like me. Thats funny cos when i first came here the 'in crowd' was you, krystal and misty and others, and i got the distinct feeling none of you liked me, and i still get the feeling that you don't, but I personally like you, your the kinda girl i could hang with and have fun..........I don't think there is an 'in crowd', however, if im wrong then fare enough. >>>>>>>I come here to help people, give advice. Not to chat, make friends, bitch/make fun of people Im sorry steph but when i first came thats very much what it was, you and krystal would tear people up if they said something about women for example, and you would all chat n stuff like some of us do now. >>>>>>A place where someone comes without being judged.. where they are to afraid to ask someone in person so they turn here for advice/answers. I don't agree. Everyone judges everyone else. If a poster posts about something and its all macho attitude crap, well he comes across as the type of person i wouldn't like in real life, so i can't pretend to suddenly like his type of person just cos its a forum. You judge people steph, you have done in the past you havn't always been pushing to be the board concience........and I didn't mean that as bitchily as it sounded i just didn't know how to put it.As for having problems, I would be more than happy to help, but I get the feeling i would be the last person you would talk to.
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I understand where you are coming from but that just not how things work... maybe in an idea world. I agree 100% with Damien on this discussion.You cannot expect there to not be backlashes from time to time when people come across smug and bragging (and yes to the OP I understand you said you were not trying to brag, but that’s TRULY how is came across). A perfect example is Unforgetto and his whole two-girlfriend thing. He came asking for "help" but I always got the impression he was just bragging about having two girlfriends, because no matter what we said he made it clear he was going to continue dating both the girls in secret. I don't feel I ripped into him but instead gave him advice and let him also know what he was doing was wrong and hurtful. I don't feel I was in the wrong at all... heck many other people came in and agreed with me. You got to understand it’s hard sometimes to give advice without also pointing out the wrong and hurtful thing the person might be doing... and sometimes you CANNOT give ANY good advice unless you point these other details out.As for you not feeling comfortable about asking your questions, sorry but that’s all you hun. Many people, myself included, would love to be able to help you and give you advice. I think there are more people on these boards that like you that you give credit to. You and I had our disagreement in the past about sexuality BUT I don’t hold it against you and we even made-up through PM’s over the ordeal.Also as for there being an “in crowd” I don’t know if there really is such a thing. I think there is just a large amount of us that just truly get along and respect each other, and I think that’s GOOD for the site.Just my two cents.
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I think Angel said it right about you Pink. You may have good intensions, but people in glass houses should not throw stones. And I don't mean that sound sound bitchy either, I just don't think you are aware of how you come across.
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Well, You guys have fun in your little "Young & the Restless" atmosphere here.
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Wow, you are unreal.
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It's funny that you are more upset over all of this, than Mr. Gonzales. So we ripped on him a bit. We don't hate him. He's posting other questions and getting normal responses. Time to move on folks...nothing left to see here.