I really like this guy, and we talk a lot. But somehow the conversation gets around to him being jewish and the sufferings of his people. It's not too intense but I don't know what to do. I'm also black, so I tell him I kinda know how he feels, but I'm just not sure how to get over this hump. I really need some advice.
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Kinda don't know how to handle this
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Yikes. Well if he's one of those people who all they do is bitch about things like that, then dont bother with him. I cant stand people who complain, o well my people suffered this and that. They need to get the fuck over it. Bitching and bitching about it to people who have no control over it will accomplish nothing. so if he doesnt get over it, then you need to get over him. Thats my opinion
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Yes I agree if he is always complaining about it well that is what he is going to focus on. I am all for education of events, but people who bitch complain are hard to get around b/c they will always go back to their peoples suffering.
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yeah i guess you guys are right...at first i thought it was because he was trying to prove to me he knew how black people felt but i think it's gone way beyond that. But is there anything I could do to help him get over it and move on, i really like this kid.
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Well i would say sit down and talk with him. Tell him how you feel. Say you think its good he cares for his ancestry like that, but it tends to be a bit to much. I hope it works out, but like walken said, people like that are usually stubborn.
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Religion is always a tough topic to talk against. If he continues to turns the conversation to being about his religion and how much they suffered, If you like him, I would be honest with him and tell him you enjoy talking with him but you're not Jewish. I would say something like. "I understand your passion and pride for your religion, but if this relationship is going to progress beyond talking about how your people suffered, then we need to start discussing other things. I feel for your people, but that was a long time ago and we have accepted what happened to them and have tried to make it a better place for everyone.... I promise I won't tell you about how all of the slaves were treated..."
It might work....
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thanks guys, you've been a real help.
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we are here to help. thank you for asking.