Ok.. I really need help.My “best friend” told me she was thinking of killing herself. She called me at 1am and told me this. She told me she felt she had no reason to live… pretty much saying her bf is an asshole (which he honestly isn’t) and bitching about life. Let me give u a background history of her and her man. He’s half black/Indian... and she constantly bitches about her “pakki” boyfriend and about how embarrassed she is to be with him and how dirty he is. She then went on to fuck him without a condom, thinking he’d pull out. He didn’t … he accidentally came and I was the one taking her to the doctors.. He gave her $40 for the morning after pill. Throughout the time they were dating they pretty much broke up everyday on and off. She’d come bitching to me and my friends about it and we all knew it was on her side. She wasn’t a good gf… if it’s not her way it’s the highway. ANYWAYS… back to the story. She went on to get mad at me because I wasn’t supporting her and got really upset she told me “out of everyone you should be the one to understand” and I said “What!? What do you want me to say... go ahead and kill yourself? Do you want a hand?” and then she calmed down a little and realized how stupid it was. I told her I knew her mother’s, her fathers, and her grandmothers phone number and said I was going to call one of them. She freaked out and begged me not to… I said that if I ever heard her talk like this again I would. Anyways.. a few days later she calls me while I’m at school. She tells me she just tried to kill herself.. but felt stupid. That night I added her bro to my MSN and told him everything. He called their dad and told him. She found out and FREAKED.. went on a rampage. She told her bro I told him looking for attention and told him that I only added him to my MSN to try to get a piece of ass. This ROYALLY pissed me off. She started freaking out on me and talking a whole bunch of shit to all her little highschool friends making ME look bad. I really pissed her off.. she then tried apologizing to me trying to get me to undo some things.. and I want nothing to do with her. Needless to say she’s not my best friend anymore.I just want to know if what I did was right? What do u think I should still do?
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Man oh man
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absolutely it was right. either she was trying to get attention, or she really needed help, and not saying anything wouldnt accomplish either. If i were you, i wouldnt think twice about the decision.
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ya i think u did the right thing...u saved a life from what i read. Her parents are probably gonna take her to a therapist and after she gets treated for her thoughts of suicide she will change. After her treatment you should talk to her and try to be friends again if possible, but i think u did the right thing... the first thing to do when some one says that is to tell someone that can help her... well good luck with this situation.
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Hon you totally did the right thing, I think your friend is just annoyed cos now she looks stupid!I would have done exactly the same thing, well done for being strong enough to do it.
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I agree that you did the right thing, but the hard part lies ahead. What was the relationship like before all this happened? She sounds scared and confused and probably needs a good friend to stay by her side. If it was a good friendship, dont just end it over this. She probably needs you now more than ever- even if she's in denial right now.
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No she pushed me away. I don't want anything to do with her.. she really hurt me. It was obvious she did it for attention and so her boyfriend wouldnt break up with her.
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I just re-read your original post.I was struck by the fact that you actually gave this girl a warning. What you did wasn't just a knee-jerk reaction. You said you would tell someone the next time. Sufficient warning. She tried, you told. How could she be justified in being pissed at you?I think what she is experiencing now is the natural consequences of her actions. Part of that is a lost friendship. That's not so much a result of her suicide attempt, but the way she treated a friend. While it might not hurt to be open to reconciliation at some point, I certainly wouldn't rush that. She needs to stew in her own juices for a while. Let it marinate.
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Oh, i thought she was honestly thinking about suicide, not just trying to get attention from her bf. I still think if she was a good friend, you might not want to be so quick to write her off. The older you get the more you realize that good friends are hard to come by.
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Now that we arent friends .. I realize how horrible she was of one.
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Sometimes we need to step away a bit to get that perspective.