O.k. I'm 14 and I've been going out with this guy down the street. I've known him since I moved here 5 year's ago so it's not like were stranger's. Anyway, when I hang out with him and his buddies who are my friend's too there all like "Have you banged her yet?" Today he was like "I'd like to.." and I was like not today [thinking to myself, I gotta think about this shit] and I was like how about this weekend, and he was like "I'm at my Dad's" so I was like maybe sometime this week..he seemed mad and I'm scared that he's only going out with me for sex. He only tell's me he loved me online, we haven't kissed [tho I'd like to but afraid to kiss him first], he asked for a blow job but I said no cos I donno how to or whatever. Shouldnt you do that before having sex? I dont even no how big he is. But yet he like's to feel me up and all that shit. Which isn't bad but you know? Anyway I'm terrifed and all that's it's gonna to hurt really bad. Please gimme some advice or something!I love him and would like to loose my virginity to him but yeh..
Virgin For 1 More Week Only
tell him you want to take things slow, and that would have to get to know enough other as boyfriend/girlfriend before you have sex, and you sure as hell have to kiss before. dooont do anything you'll later regret
You obviously don't feel ready and he ought to respect that. If he doesn't respect that you'd be better off without him.
honestly.....you're only 14. theres no need to lose your virginity yet. you have plenty of time later. IMHO doing it just to get everyone off your boy's back isnt the right way to go. your still young, get to know eachother more, especially if you two havent even kissed yet. def. take things slowwwwwwwww. and like java said. be sure you don't do anything you'll regret 6 hours, 6 days, 6 months, or 6 years from now.
wow first off, what is going on with our youth now a days, when did sex begin to mean so much as a social standard, it is more meaningful in other ways. First off you really need to understand sex before you commit to it. You need to understand and realize that if something goes wrong and you get pregnant you are in a world of problems. Most likely you feel like you have a crush on this guy and he is a guy you "love." Now I do not know you buit I know enought o say that banging your crush when are 14 is most likely going to lead you to regretting it. Now to apply this towards your situation. You are doing this b/c of peer pressure that is a total no no. Why are you going to let some kids make you do something you do not seem so ready for? I mean if they were forcing everyone to stab themselves in the stomach and everyone was "doing" it, would you just do it to get them to shut up.
Listen what you need to realize is that you need to follow the morales that have been setup for you and you have setup for yourself. These kids are very immature and this is just something guys are "supposed" to do, but that is not true. You also need to understand that this will not stop the gossip. Doing this will submit you to the guys talking about your body and how good you are. And in my own oppinion you do not know this guy well enough. And if he does not respect your oppinion he is not the one to do it with or hang with b/c that is not a mature man. You are looking for someway to be closer and sex will not do that necessarily. Please really think about this b/c your first experience is only once. Also think about this:
Just doing it now will take away from the special feeling you would get from being with someone much longer and you two have love and then doing it. That is the route you should go b/c then you two will have feelings for each other and you will love it physically making it a more satisfying experience. Also a man that knows his woman can take the time to learn you and do it right for you, not to do it b/c it is something that is being driven by your loins.
I just noticed I missed part of your post...You claim that he has never said I love you except online. Then the answer is no, this has all the signs of being something just so he can have sex with you. I mean you cannot say you love someone until you two have really become 1 person together. You are not with him enough to say you love, in my oppinion. SO coming from me, I say not to do this b/c it is not what you are going to expect.
Also you ask if it is going to hurt and then answer is yes. If you are as apprehensive as you are now, then it is going to b/c the vaginal walls are going to contract.
BTW it is not bad being a virgin, I would know I am practically 21 and I am still a virgin, but I have not done it b/c of religion, but because of the meaning of sex will make it so much better.
In reply to: I'm scared that he's only going out with me for sex. He is.And you're better than that.
yeah sure, I mean I really put a lot into that.
oh yeah thanks. I hope someone can really use it...as someone I know said.