IM 13 YEARS OLD AND I REALLY WANT TO HAVE SEX

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IM 13 YEARS OLD AND I WANT TO LOSE MY VERGINITY BUT YET IM AFAID TO HAVE SEX BECAUSE IM AFRAID OF GETTING PREGNET

wow first off, what is going on with our youth now a days, when did sex begin to mean so much as a social standard, it is more meaningful in other ways. First off you really need to understand sex before you commit to it. You need to understand and realize that if something goes wrong and you get pregnant you are in a world of problems. Most likely you feel like you have a crush on this guy and he is a guy you "love." Now I do not know you buit I know enought o say that banging your crush when are 14 is most likely going to lead you to regretting it. Now to apply this towards your situation. You are doing this b/c of peer pressure that is a total no no. Why are you going to let some kids make you do something you do not seem so ready for? I mean if they were forcing everyone to stab themselves in the stomach and everyone was "doing" it, would you just do it to get them to shut up.Listen what you need to realize is that you need to follow the morales that have been setup for you and you have setup for yourself. These kids are very immature and this is just something guys are "supposed" to do, but that is not true. You also need to understand that this will not stop the gossip. Doing this will submit you to the guys talking about your body and how good you are. And in my own oppinion you do not know this guy well enough. And if he does not respect your oppinion he is not the one to do it with or hang with b/c that is not a mature man. You are looking for someway to be closer and sex will not do that necessarily. Please really think about this b/c your first experience is only once. Also think about this:Just doing it now will take away from the special feeling you would get from being with someone much longer and you two have love and then doing it. That is the route you should go b/c then you two will have feelings for each other and you will love it physically making it a more satisfying experience. Also a man that knows his woman can take the time to learn you and do it right for you, not to do it b/c it is something that is being driven by your loins.I just noticed I missed part of your post...You claim that he has never said I love you except online. Then the answer is no, this has all the signs of being something just so he can have sex with you. I mean you cannot say you love someone until you two have really become 1 person together. You are not with him enough to say you love, in my oppinion. SO coming from me, I say not to do this b/c it is not what you are going to expect.Also you ask if it is going to hurt and then answer is yes. If you are as apprehensive as you are now, then it is going to b/c the vaginal walls are going to contract.BTW it is not bad being a virgin, I would know I am practically 21 and I am still a virgin, but I have not done it b/c of religion, but because of the meaning of sex will make it so much better.read that...and no one flame this poster...or so help me god b/c you will perpetuate more of this.

If your doubting it don't do it. Besides your 13 you have plenty of time to have sex. Wait a while.

It really is okay to not have sex. Getting pregnant and getting an STD is what could possibly come of having sex.Think of it this way.. what if you got pregnant or an STD? What would you tell your parents?

Your 13, enjoy your masturbation sessions and wait for a bit for the sex.your having issues over if its ok to hump your hand or not and are considering sex?skip it, grow up some wait till your ready insta of just till it occurs to you to get laid.

I may have been a late commer when sex is involved I was 18. That is not too old though, and I never regret waiting, sex is much more fullfilling when your a little older. Your future man will be happier too if he doesn't have to here stories of all your ex's. Also when your that young, their is a way greater chance of becomming pregnant.

Can I ask you why you want to lose your virginity?

(There must be something in the water)Why? Why do you really want to have sex? Have all your friends done it and you feel left out? Sex shouldn't be something you rush into. You might feel things and you might feel like you're ready, but I really don't think you are at 13. And I know this is a double-standard but it's especially so for girls. You're letting someone inside you. It is very instense and feelings change, often right after the act. You have a lot more to be afraid of besides getting pregnant, there are STDs and.... your parents. Your virginity may seem like nothing special now, dear, but trust me it's nothing you should just throw away.You have a LOT of time for sex. Sex is not going anywhere, it will be right there when you're older and ready for it. If a boy is pressuring you into sex, chances are he'll be long gone before you could get dressed after. You're worth a lot more than that.

Sex and virginity has become suck an irellivant thing these days. It's sad. Kids just wanna get laid to say they did it, to fit in. It seems like the sanctitiy of sex being something special you share with someone you have deep feelings with, when the time is right, has been tossed out the window. I know there are still some people that believe sex is one of the deepest ways of showing that special person, that you love and trust them enough to give them that. But the kids these days have become...well, to put it bluntly, just sluts. Not all, of them, but it's just sad to see, that kids so easliy throw it away with no thinking.You're young, enjoy what you can do for now, cause say you lose your vcirginity at 13 to some guy who just wants to get his rocks off, you end up pregnant, and fatherless, raising a kid, when you're still a kid yourself. You may end up with an std, and then years down the road, you may find someone you truely love, and wish you would have saved it for them. My advice, save it.

i want to lose my virginity caz i want to no what its like and all of my friends have lost it and iv been going out with my boy friend for about a year but yet im still scared. i no im to young and i think im to young to masterbate but still i love doing it. so i dont no what to do. im really just on confused. my boyfriend is a year older then me and he wants to have sex. i put it off for about a mounth but i just dont no what to do. please help

If you have any doubts, don't do it. And he can't MAKE you have sex with him, and if he rapes you, sue his ass. You do what you want to do, and if anybody tells you to do otherwise, tell them to kiss it.

just tell him how you feel. If he really cares, he'll respect your wishes. If he wants to share intamate moments with you, just start off with mutual masturbation. Don't have sex just because your friends are. Wait till your ready.

I think 13 is a pretty normal age to start masturbating.You agreef that yur too young to have sex so that shud end it for you. Your too young and realize that, you are in control of what you do and say, dont let it happen before your the one thats ready for it. Just because your bf is ready does not mean shit.

In reply to: i want to lose my virginity caz i want to no what its like You'll find out when it's time. There are a lot of things we want to know about, but a lot of them we have to wait. My 2 year old nephew would love to drive a tractor, but that ain't gonna happen for at least another decade or so. You probably would also like to drive a car, no? But you have to wait for that. It's part of being a kid. You need to wait until it's time. In reply to:and all of my friends have lost it I doubt that. Especially at your age. They may say that, but I bet you dollars to donuts they are lying. Don't fall for it. Be the one who has the guts and the maturity to say "well, that's just stupid. I haven't done it." In reply to: my boyfriend is a year older then me and he wants to have sex. Your boyfriend isn't even old enough to get a job. He doesn't need to be having sex. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to go home and have a wank, you're not gonna do it.Do you understand that you are 13 years old? Barely a teenager? Please don't blow it. Everyone is posting and warning you about pregnancy and STD's and stuff. But it's way bigger than that. If you have sex now, I can guarantee you that you will regret it later and that the emotional repurcussions will be way beyond what you could imagine.

im 13 to and all i want to do is avoid sex becaz i no im to young and i dont want a guy to think that i just give my self away for fun

you know, im 13 and i know wat u mean when u say u want to have sex but if u r havin doubts waite till its time. plus, if its ur BOYFRIEND who wants it then he can waite till u r SURE that u r ready.....

Stop. Wait.I'm sure there are TONS of raging hormones in you, all screaming at you to BANG BANG BANG.Humans tend to do that.But what you really ought to do is wait. Why?Reason 1: You don't have to worry.I'm sure you've heard it. STDs and Pregnancy are things that can seriously hurt a person's entire life. And what if you parents find out? If your boyfriend tells a person who tells a person who is overheard by a person, and eventually your parents are banging on your door demanding to know if you did it with Roy McHotpants. Also, what about your reputation? It might seem cool now, but what happens in a few years? Trust me, it certainly isn't a cool thing in highschool to say you lost your virginity at a younf age with some guy in you don't like any more. But, if you wait, none of those demons will be nagging at you constantly while you try to live your 'magical life without virginity'.Reason 2: You can masturbate. Lots.Anywhere else, this would sound like profane rambling, but as much as morally uptight people try to put it down, masturbation is a GOOD thing. It's risk-free, you can tailor your 'partner' to fit your every carnal whim, and you'll learn a lot of things about yourself that can come in handy when you do it with a real person. Enjoy this 'you time', don't be ashamed of doing something that harms nobody and feels good. You're released your sexual tension, filling the need for sex that is right behind food water and shelter in most young people.Reason 3: You can take smaller steps.If you like your boyfriend, you don't want to ruin your relationship by screwing and then having nothing left. You'll both feel awkward about it if you rush, and chances are things between you two won't last. If you want to have more fun, and let him have more fun, then slowly work your way up. Start by simply speaking more about sex, in a playful manner, I bet he masturbates daily. Phone sex is a very good idea, you can get to know each other's ideal situations and deal with anything awkward they like without it being real. Then, if you two are still comfortable, after a good while you may want to start mutual masturbation. That's basically you and he both masturbating, in front of each other. After this, and that's a far off after, you may want to start doing it first manually, orally, and (when you're older!) actually. I'll not go into detail on those, but be aware that there are lots of things you can do to have fun without taking a leap off a cliff.Reason 4: You're not the only virgin. No, seriously, we're out there.By the end of highschool (including after prom night), only HALF of people have lost their viginity. Thats fifty out of one hundred people that have not had sex, the 'veterans' aren't even a majority! If your circle of friends is hyping sex, chances are some of them are flat-out lying about having done it. In time, you'll make the transition and find out the grass isn't much greener. And, of course, college means you'll have all sorts of opportunities.Reason 5: You'll be glad you waitedFar too many people have sex with someone 'just to do it', and regret it later. I don't mean 'I shoulda gotten the chocolate icecream instead of strawberry' kind, I mean the 'Oh f**k I was stupid, this sucks' regret. The consensus is that sex it better and more emotionally fulfilling if you and your partner really have strong feelings towards each other, and are mentally prepared. If you wait for that special boy (or hey, girl maybe) that you want to share the whole of yourself with and completely trust, you will be very happy about your decision later. Well, I hope I've managed to throw some positive lights on why to put off sex. And, if your boyfriend keeps pressuring you, warn him once, and then dump him. You ought to make him EARN it, we men are nothing without our motivations.

DON'T RUSH IT YOUR FRIENDS WILL LAUGH AT YOU.

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What the hell is wrong with the world today?

Shit, Sex USED to be an act in which a man and a woman who love eachother either A. Have sex to procreate, Or B. Because os lust/passion.

But now 13 year olds are losing their virginity? Wow.

First thing is, Wait until your ATLEAST 16 and be cautious about that kind of stuff. Use Birth Control/Condoms and make sure your partner is healthy.