...I am trying to figure out wether or not it would be wise to buy his home..He commited suicide last October. In his will he left everything to me.I just figured I would let his home go back to the guy he bought it from, and not worry about it. It is a mobile in a park....Weeelll....My home is getting ready to sell..I won't really have enough to buy another place so I am looking at renting. Finacially, the mobile is the better way. I would own it, and only have space rent. I would be closer to my job, and my kids would be in a better school. I just feel weird moving into my friends house. Also I know he would want me to put it to use...So I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this, any way to actually measure the propensity of the pros and cons?
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Confusion! My friend died and....
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My grandpa died a few years ago, I now live in his condo. It was paid off so I only had ti finance for what my mom and her brothers wanted from it and had no closing costs or realtors to pay for it.I do not think about my grandpa 24 7 at home like I thought I would but at the time it seemed my only chouice.its been 2 years every once in a whle something happens that sets off memories and fucks with my head but its nont constant and it not really 100% unpleasantf, its like a ittle bit of time I get to spend with hi that was missed before he died.I would say do it. Im now thinking about selling this and buying a house in town you can aways sell off or rent it out later when your in better shape. in the mean time you get to spend a bit more time wiht a lost buddy
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Did he commit suicide in his home? If he did, then that would be a little wierd. But oppurtunity knocks as this new place would benefit you and your family. I guess as long as you don't live in tornado alley it might be your best choice.
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No, he was at a motel, and no, I'm in eathquake, and volcano country. I am terified that if I do it...I will mope, unlike grvtykllr....
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I totally see where you are coming from. But at the same time you said so yourself that he would want you to use his place. If nothing else give it a go and see how you feel. If it gets too much for you, you can always move out and sell the home. This could be a really good opportunity for you and your kids.
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Well Thanks guys it really helped. I hope if I move in there that I get to enjoy my friends presence as apposed to just missing him.I have decided to do it...providing it is there when the time comes for me to move.I have decided that if it is there when its time for me to move that I was meant to try. IF not then I wasn't.
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Good for you!Once you get in there - with your furniture and pictures and life and stuff - it will seem more an more like your place. With the added bonus of some good memories.
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I sure hope so!! I cruised by there. And all the neighbors remembered me. Stopped me to say hi.That was wonderful too!
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Sounds like home...?
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We shall see!
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I moped a bit but as my stuff started being moved in and my pictures went up and my work got put in to change the patio outside and my car was in the garage and my stuff took over, it got to be less and less.it is not an instant change to being your house, but it happens in not too long of a time
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hey babe...mwwaaa!I say go for it. People get a bit weird about the possesions of the dead. Some covet them while others think that merely possessing them is purely materialistic.Me, I think that if I'd worked hard for something, after I'm gone someone I care about should reap some benifit from it. I'd hate to think some stupid fuck-stain was enjoying what was once mine (oops, almost opened a new kettle of fish there)
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That was one heck of a way to put it...but I do appriciate it.Thanx!OOOPS almost forgot! MMMWWWWAAA!